Nerves all to pieces today

I have been taking effexzor xr during the day for depression and it has helped so well that when it was time to up dose I told doc no a couple of weeks ago,I wasnt comfortable with that.But yesterday and today has been awful.I take xanax at bedtime,but hate to take extra as it makes me drowsy. I try to disconnect from hubby because when he is way down,I pick up on it and get way down,then the kids feel it and they get down.I am still trying to help youngest son,even tho it effects older son also,hes grown...I still help him.I will ask doc about upping dosage tomorrow,but I am getting scared.Ther nerves are terrible.Hubby cant seem to help.He doesnt talk to anyone about his problem,just says he doeant feel the same anymore and wants to leave.He is either depressed as we had a terrible year financially and such or bipolar,as he has showed tendancies for years,but hes a guy that doesnt want to hear it...Doesnt want to hurt us,but meanwhile its killing us I and so tired...Any suggestions on nerve calming tonight????

Hi CountryGal,   I posted on your other thread regarding the increase of effexor.  I hope your day improves. Talk to your doctor and please take care and try to do some relaxation to clam your nerves a little.

Believe me hun, I know how hard it is.  It does get better though, I promise.  This may seem hard to believe right now as when I was at my lowest I didn't believe I would ever get better and felt like happiness was an ongoing battle.   It has taken me a long time to get where I am now and I still go through bad times but I know I am better than I was.  Everything takes time, especially recovering from depression and any other mental illness.   You will get there - stay strong   Take care