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Posted 6/26/2007 11:33 AM (GMT 0)
That is better than nothing Restless....can they prescribe meds too?

Try to take advantage of the 30 minutes if you can.


Keep us posted

Shy
Posted 6/26/2007 3:30 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Restless,
Hi, I am Kitt. I have depression and I understand how you are feeling. I have felt all these same things, however I am to durn stubborn to give up.
If your friend is upset with you and does not understand then she is not a true friend. Walk away and leave it behind you. I have had to do that more than once. It is terribly difficult. I had to do that to a friend I had known for 20 years but she was verbally abusive toward me in a snide way. I let it go but one day she made the mistake of making a comment about my daughter. I was done...........no more, I did not even talk with her about it as there was nothing to discuss. She knew what she was doing and I had no desire to argue with her. I just realized a true friend would not say the things she did.
You cannot just give up, and tell your pdoc what is happening..............ask for help, who can you contact when no one is around? Tell her about the futility of calling the crisis line.
I am sorry about your daughter, I have read that same issue from several people on the boards. Tough decision, but I pray it will get better for you.
You are a truly good and worthy person, so love yourself as that is where it starts Believe in you, we do.
Gentle Hugs.
Posted 6/27/2007 4:09 AM (GMT 0)
the latest to hadd to all the crap ...Yesterday my youngest child 15yrs got a text message from his older brothers partener to let him know that his older brother under went five hours of major surgery yesterday ..She didn`t even have the decency to even ring to let his parents know he was going into surgery ..I have no idea what he even had done ...Why should i even care I have just about had enough of being a parent wife and everything else .
Today the psychologist told me she hasn`t seen me so upset in a long time with everything why wouldn`t i be upset .
Restless
Posted 6/27/2007 11:39 AM (GMT 0)
Oh no Restless. Yes I agree they should have called you first,and let you know what is going on.
That is not good at all.

You have every right to be upset..did she give you any suggestions?


Shy
Posted 7/1/2007 1:21 AM (GMT 0)
Things couldn`t get much worse you would recon well this week my son died i will never see or hear form him again .I have spent the week in a world of my own there will be no more pain for me i`m not going to go through this again .

I keep on experiencing such highs and then within hours extreeme lows i never though it could be so possible .

A few days ago i was looking at a bottle of pills trying to decide what to do .I still don`t know and i`m finding it really hard not only to talk to people but ven to write down what i`m feeling thats the hard part as before it was easy to write it down .

I have seen my psychologist earlier in the week and spent the whole session in tears .I felt really bad once i left there but then had a good think about things .Each night i`m in tears where no one can see me .My stomach is in such knots and i just lie there for hours thinking the most stupid thoughts again .

Now hubby wants us to go away for a few days i`m not sure if i even want to go with them i just want to stay in my room away from everyone .

Restless

Posted 7/1/2007 9:15 AM (GMT 0)
Keep communicating - keep talking and tell all of this to your psychologist.

half and hour isn't much but it's better than the lifeline you rang.

i've had the same problem with help lines - one of the counsellors told me to run a hot bath - that would make me feel better!!!

i hope your appt with the psychologist goes ok and good luck with the doctor on the 24th - it IS a long time away .

thinking of you

Linda x
Posted 7/1/2007 11:54 AM (GMT 0)
Restless
oh my gawd! I am so so very sorry. I can not imagine loosing a child.
Is this the one that just had surgery?
Keep talking to us,you can not keep this all in.


Again I am so very sorry


Shy
Posted 7/1/2007 12:01 PM (GMT 0)
Yes shy it was mad
Posted 7/1/2007 12:15 PM (GMT 0)
That is so sad..I don't even know what to say to you hon...I just can't imagine!



Shy
Posted 7/1/2007 4:13 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Restless,
I am so sorry to learn of the death of your son. I have lost a son to a car crash. He was 21. The thing that helped me the most was being able to talk about him.
Are you able to talk to us about what happened? Can you share your son's life with us? As a Mother I believe it changed the course of my life. I still cry for him but I do this alone now as others think you just reach acceptance and let go.
Well I do not believe we have to let go of our child and just pretend like it never happened. I don't believe that you can put a time frame on how long you are allowed to grieve for your children. I will always grieve for him and there are days I talk to him and tell him my problems as others are tired of hearing me. I receive comfort from knowing I can still reach out and talk to him. I know what he would say to me if he was still alive.........."Hey Mom, your tough, I want you to get through this problem and I am here watching over you"
Please feel free to email me.
Posted 7/1/2007 8:11 PM (GMT 0)
I just do not now what to say to anyone i just don`t have any words it`s like they have run out
I just sit and stare at the screen there is nothing left inside .
I have some people ring who i`ve known for a while i cant talk to them ,i listen but i do not hear them speak
Restless
Posted 7/2/2007 1:06 PM (GMT 0)

HI Restless,

I am so sorry to hear of what has happened. I cannot begin to imagine how hard it must be for you at the moment. I just wanted to offer my sympathies to you and if there is anything I can do, do not hesitate in asking or emailing me. Remember, we are all here for you and will give you whatever support you need.

Have strength and take care

Darren

Posted 7/2/2007 8:23 PM (GMT 0)
restless you can also email me at anytime.


Shy
Posted 7/2/2007 10:24 PM (GMT 0)
Restless
I lost my son at 6 yrs old and I do think of and feel him daily
Please know I do feel your pain I really do

Email me please

LYN
Posted 7/2/2007 11:12 PM (GMT 0)
Restless,

Today was another day for you to get through, and I want you to know as a Mother who understands your loss that I am thinking of you.

I know your probably trying to search for the "why me?" and wondering how you can even take another breath, but you will and you will find you want to honor your son's memory.

We are all here, don't forget that. You need to lean on somebody right now, lean on us. We may be online friends, but sweetie, we are friends.
Posted 7/3/2007 4:33 PM (GMT 0)
Restless
I too am wondering how you are making out hun
I am so sorry words can never express .....
As I said please email me k
Luvs
LYN
Posted 7/3/2007 8:18 PM (GMT 0)
Lyn i`m ok i have tried to write you you all but there is nothing .
In the past few days i have been really hurt again by some one who i had got to know and trusted ,but i was wrong in calling her a friend as what i had told her in confidence she could not keep to herself .I jast am at a loss as what to even do anymore .My head is aching so much i just want to be by myself .
Restless
Posted 7/4/2007 12:11 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Restless,

I have been in the spot of trusting someone who turned on me and that is a different kind of pain. You feel so lost and alone, wondering how a friend would betray you like that.

Please remember that you cannot be responsible for anothers actions. This person chose to act the way they did. It hurts, I know but it may be for the best to have this person out of your life right now.

You need people you can lean on and trust. Bless you sweetie.

Kitt
Posted 7/5/2007 7:54 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Restless,
My mother always used to tell me that "Every cloud has a silver lining" and I think with regard to your friend, you know you cant trust her now and it is one less person to worry about if you cut her out of your life. You dont need friends that are going to cause you problems right now, you need friends that are going to help and support you as all of us here will. As Shy, Lyn and Kitt have said, you can always drop me an email if you want someone to talk to... my inbox is always open, but dont feel you have to.
Thinking of you,
Darren
Posted 7/5/2007 9:04 AM (GMT 0)
Thankyou all you are really all a lovely group of people here ,But i just think i need a few more days then i will respond to you all i have just so much on my plate at the moment i really don`t know which way to even turn .Please understand .
Restless
Posted 7/5/2007 12:48 PM (GMT 0)
We will all understand that
Just remember we are all here when you need us.

Shy
Posted 7/5/2007 8:37 PM (GMT 0)
We understand that you have a lot on your plate at the moment. Take your time and look after yourself.
Posted 7/11/2007 11:53 AM (GMT 0)
Hello everyone thank you all for your kind messages and your support.I have been away for a few days just needed to escape everything and everyone ,not that i found much peace .Memories are all i have but the funny thing is i only remember him as a small child ,i see him so clearly in intensive care when he was first born and the fight he had to fight just to survive.I just feel so sad and so bad that his life ended the way it did .I can`t bring myself to talk to anyone yet .I just feel alone and that a great part of me has died with him .
Once again thank you all so much .HUGS .
Restless
Posted 7/11/2007 12:01 PM (GMT 0)
You can only do what you are doing now Restless,taking it one day at a time.

Stay strong

Shy
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