Having hope?

Hey there Dear Lady,

The answer is no, this is not all there is. I know  that loneliness and depression makes us wonder about what causes it and what its purpose is. The more we are led into loneliness and depression, isolation and confusion, the more we search for our life’s purpose.

I do not have the answers to why we have been given so many difficult trials and tribulations in this life but I do know that when we are in a better place than deep in the hole of depression that life is good.

Try to keep going, don't stop, don't quit and never give up. You are a wonderful and caring person.  I know this as I have read many of your posts and I see how members respond to you.  We all need you here and you are special.  So start climbing out of that hole and reach for the light.  That light is the candle we are holding so take our hand and know your safe with us. ((((((((((els))))))))))

All healing is essentially

the release from fear.

Many hugs to you and know that you are cared for and loved here. Wishing you peace, love, and joy.

Kitt

 

Hi els,

It is so hard when it feels like we fight through so much only to be knocked down again. But you have overcome soooo much! You have survived a lot and are a compassionate and sensitive person. You could have become hard or mean, but you chose not to. YOu could have given up but you didn't. Just those things in themeslves are huge and worth celebrating.

I don't have any pat answers, and I sure wouldn't want to waste my time or yours giving pat answers, but one thing I try to do is to find the little things in a day to be thankful for, and I am having to learn to be my own best friend. I thought my husband would understand me like I always wanted, and he has his moments, but he consistently fails to understand me like I feel I need. So I guess I figure I am that person who can love me best like I always wanted to be loved. Maybe it is time to just take a few moments each day and do something kind for yourself to remind you of how far you have come. Life can get intense and it clouds our vision from really seeing all the belssings around us and all the progress we have made.

...but then there are better days and better times, or even just better moments, that remind us that good is stronger than bad - and we will be okay. And those moments - hang on tightly to them. I really believe that even if life is hard, there is always someone somewhere who loves you and cares about you. There are compassionate people all around us, even if we don't always know it. Love never leaves and somehow we are all in this together...and to me, just knowing there is love and compassion in this world - even when I can't seem to connect to it, that also gives me strength to keep going. You're not alone.

take good care of you, manyembers

Post Edited (manyembers) : 12/4/2007 12:29:50 AM (GMT-7)

Good Morning els,

How are you today?  Thinking of you and saying  a prayer or 2 or 3 or 4. :)

Gentle Hugs

Kitt 

Well, here I am, Another Day.........I finally fumbled my way in.    I can so relate to these folks. I can relate to wanting to go ahead and crawl into that 'black hole'. I've been far enough into it, that I attempted suicide. After that, when I get severely depressed, I use everything I can muster up, to back away from the 'hole', because I'm scared to death that if I let myself go in, I won't find my way back out.  And, believe me, black oblivion is NOT a place you want to spend the rest of your physical life, and your cognitive life is in the 'hole' with you.

When I butt up against something that my mind doesn't want to handle, my first instinct is to RUN!  I have no idea where I plan to run to, but I just have to RUN. I guess I feel like I can run fast enough & far enough to get away from whatever it is that I've lost control of.

The last time I had a really bad spell, I took off running. I have no idea how I got where I was when my husband found me, but I was sitting on the ground, crying hysterically, and  knowing that the only way to survive this one, was to look UP. I prayed like I've never prayed before.  I won't tell you that  my depression went away and never returned. That would be an untruth, partially because I am also bi-polar and I have OCD, among many physical health issues.  So, I take 200 mgs of Zoloft every morning, and hope that nothing rattles my box that day. LOL

Cricket,

Welcome to HealingWell.  I am so glad that with just a little push you decided to join us.  I think you will see that after awhile we become like a big family here.  I knew you would feel comfortable here.  It won't take long until you get to know people.

I think you're going through a dark spot right now, probably brought on because of the holidays.  I think you will find that many of us are going through the very same thing.

Great Big Hugs!

Carla

P.S.  Crickett is a friend of mine, please welcome her