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Posted 12/23/2007 8:41 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Gillian,
Thanks for the information, sounds very interesting. I don't think that we do know your situation, so if you want to explain things we are more than happy to listen.
You sound like a really sweet person. I love the way you explain things. I haven't been on this forum a whole lot. I started with the fibromyalgia forum and post there daily. Since I have met Embers I have been posting there more.
You are right about the dwelling. I use to let it take over my life until I realized that life is just too short. I have obsessive thinking when it comes to things like that. I take a medication called abilify and it has really helped with the thinking part, plus it gives me energy. Maybe I get the energy from not thinking so much as that seems to use it up.
I will close here so you can explain things.
hugs,
Karen
Posted 12/23/2007 9:01 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Karen,

Well i found Healingwell through having my ileostomy i post on the ostomy forum too, then i seen this one.

I had my ileostomy performed in Feb 06, reason being while i was giving birth to Sean my bowel was damaged it has not been good since he was born, poor wee soul nothing to do with him but certain midwives i was under the care off. Anyway i had the op to repair my bowel and got the stoma bag just while everything was healing but it's been 2 yrs now and i'm fighting to get a reversal done, my doc says he won't do it until i lose 3 stones, so no matter how much i try i can't shift the weight, i have since had a 2 opinion done and they say they will do it at the end of Jan.

While having to go through all this i had post natal depression because of all of what happened, then in March this year my husband off 9 yrs " came out" devastated i felt i couldnt go on or be a mum, i sunk very deep, but having my health visitor, doctor, councellors and most importantly my family, i
have made it through the other side, don't get me wrong i have very bad days when i can't do anything, but i have these 2 wee boys waiting to be looked after, so hence i pick through the bad days. I found a new relationship with my husband ( we are separated not divorced,) we have become very close friends and he is still a loving father but it's so hard him being out there living a life without me now, i feel he has died but he hasnt hes going through life without me now. Tom his new partner is very nice and kind, the boys love him but they only know him as daddys friend.

So thats all for now it's quite alot for me to write but there you go, Gillian x
Posted 12/23/2007 11:26 PM (GMT 0)
Wow Gillain,
That is a lot to handle. I honestly don't know how you keep your healthy attitude that you have. This really blows my mind. You are lucky on the one hand, you didn't get aids. You know the risk of that. I hope your children will do okay. It isn;t something you would really want them to find out about any time soon. You definately have a lot on your plate.
You seem to have a very positive outlook, that is good. I am sure that took some time for you. I am glad that you found this forum. It helps so much to be able to share. And the people here are so understanding. The one thing you need to remember and I am sure that you do, is that none of these things were your fault. You just happen to be the person on the short end at the time. Some one other than you may not have been strong enough to make it through. Though I am sure that you take things one day at a time. That is about all we can do.
I hope that you can get your reverse surgery done in January. I don't know how much a stone ways but I will find out. I have a book on equivalencies (sp) somewhere around this place. I have trouble remembering where things are at times. Plus I am definately not the best housekeeper in the world. It is always a mess here.
Your boys sound like they are sweet . They grow so fast. My grandkids seem like they grow six inches in between every time I see them. I don't want those years to slip away on me. But they are.
I just got done with a sneezing fit. I am hoping I don't come down with anything before Christmas. I had a flu shot but you never can tell, there is always somehting new going around. It is so cold and damp outside today that I can't get warmed up.
Thank you for sharing. I wish the very best for you and hope that you are able to have a wonderful holiday with your son's and family.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
hugs,
Karen
Posted 12/24/2007 12:43 PM (GMT 0)
Hi,

Everyone says that, lol, i just take it one day at a time. I never thought i was a strong person before but when it comes to the crunch you get there, god really does only give us what we can handle, i attend church regular, i like going it's calm and peaceful, sometimes i feel myself drifting, some would say i daydream, lol,.

Well Sean is much better today and we're going into Glasgow soon it's bout 12.30 lunch time here, you both are hopefully having a good restful sleep just now.

I'll stop here for now if i don't get back on later you girls enjoy the next few days, Gillian x
Posted 12/25/2007 1:11 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Karen and Gill,

Wishing you both a lovely day and holiday! THings here are quiet and I am enjoying the peace.

May you make special memories and enjoy the love of family and friends in this holiday time.

-Embers
Posted 12/25/2007 2:16 AM (GMT 0)
Hi you guys,
I hope that you are having a wonderful Christmas eve. And I hope that you have a very merry Christmas.
We are leaving early in the morning to go to son's house to see the grandkids open gifts. It should be very exciting. The kids are impatiently waiting for morning.
The weather is suppose to be nice, that is always a plus.
Gillian, I am glad that your son is feeling better. I have always been a bit of a daydreamer, but sometimes somebody could be talking and I wouldn't have a clue what was said. So I try to stay in the now more than I use to. Daydreaming can be good, but for me it isn't always so. I imagine that church is very therapeudic for you, the peacefulness and serinity must really make one feel good. Kind of like meditation.
Embers, I hope you too are enjoying the peace and quiet.
I wish you both the most joyous Christmas with many wonderful memories.
hugs,
Karen
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