Sanmarie,
I believe your doctor may have some non-compliant diabetic patients who are losing eyesight or limbs and that's where the first lecture came from. Preventable complications of diabetes by people who refuse to keep their sugar under control makes doctors feel discouraged. That being said, he turned around and contradicted himself... Keeping your blood sugars under control takes a bit of experience and you can't figure out which foods spike you if you don't test! For myself, I can't eat rice except sparingly. My father-in-law couldn't have potatoes except as a treat. Everyone is different.
My advice to you... (and remember you get what you pay for so free advice is worth nothing : ) is to purchase a Prestige IQ meter like I did. (I have no insurance.) The meter and 300 strips was $104 delivered. I bought it from a place online called DiabetiCare, or Diabetic Store or something like that. Just do a search for the meter and you should find a site with a good deal. The meter uses regular AA batteries and is easy to use. The big plus is that you don't need a prescript
ion to buy it and you can test all you want until you get this figured out.
In a perfect world you would like to see your morning fasting numbers at 99 or below. Just testing each morning will show a pattern of how your meds are working and if you have something called 'Dawn effect' which will raise your numbers in the pre-dawn hours. Testing before breakfast and testing two hours after dinner will give your doctor some valid stats to determine medication doses for you but should be accompanied by a food diary. You should be keeping a record of food intakes as well as meter readings since using the two together will help you determine what foods are your special 'spikers'. Until you have your nutrition classes and get a handle on this thing it would be good to skip the
cookies and sweets as well as the 'dietetic' or sugar-free foods. Many of these foods still have starches in them and the overall carbohydrate impact is what you need to deal with more so than sugar.
If you get hungry double up on your veggies and salads and add a bit of fats like olive oil or nuts (not honey roasted but regular) to your food plan. We will be here for you until you get this thing sorted out so don't worry. After a while you will be the one writing answers to the newbies.