Hi there and Welcome to HealingWell!
I think its terrible that the neurologists idea of a solution is to fill you with anti-depressants. Has anyone thought about running an EEG? Are you able to get any financial aid from your state? I would say that your other "fits" are good candidates for seizures but obviously a neurologist would have to classify them. Have you considered seeing an epieptologist? I believe that they are available in the US but only in certain states. I cannot get access to them in the UK, but I have heard people from the US talk very highly of them.
Please keep talking to us
Darren