I cant stop crying

Hi Lee Ann,

I am sorry that you are going through this right now. I understand how you feel.

I also have a high pain tolerance and over do it a lot. We have to learn our limits and go with them. I know it is hard, you are use to being able to do a lot more than you can now. It feels like the rug has been pulled right out from under your feet, doesn't it? It just isn't fair, but who can we complain to? All we can do is try to deal with our new limitations and go on from there. You can do this, it just takes discipline on your part, but it can be done.

I think that everything has come to a head and it is overwhelming for you. You deserve a good cry. It is healthy, I am sure that you have kept everything bottle up inside until now and it was time for it all to come out. So don't feel bad about it, we all go through it. The $2800 in taxes has probably been weighing on your mind without you even realizing it. It has probably been in your subconscious. I know I worry about property taxes, then I realized that I have time to get them paid, I also found out that I could make payments on them. All along I thought that they had to be paid all at once. Of course nobody told me otherwise until just recently. That is a whole another story in itself though.

Keep with us, we are here for you and will listen and give our advice as best as we can. Try to relax, stress only makes the fibro worse. Try not to worry about the things that you haven't got control of at the moment. These problems aren't going anywhere and you will be able to handle them, just have faith.

I hope that you feel better, remember crying really is healthy.

Hugs, Karen....

Hi Lee Ann-

Do you need a tissue??

If we lived close by each other we both could have had our coffee together "crying" this morning. Tough, tough week for me also. And money plays in "big part" in my worries too. Your not alone believe me! It just gets to be TOO much sometimes. I feel that even if we did not have fibro it would be hard- but unfortunately we get physical pain, fibro fog (horrible this week for me) to deal with also. 

I know we are going to be OK, it just does not feel like it at the moment. I know the money worries finally started to wear me down. We will pull out of this and get on with our lives because I don't like feeling this way and I'm sure you feel the same way too.

Hope your afternoon/evening gets a little better and will be here if you need to talk more. I have a prescription for Lyrica but have not started it yet, so can't give you any input on that. Wish I could, but I know others will be along that are on it.

Your in my thoughts- GamJill

I am having a good day to the point that it is scarey. I am not use to having such good days and I feel like at some point that something is going to pull the rug right out from under me.

I am doing my best to relax with this wonderful day and make the most of it. The weather is gorgeous and I know that it wont be for much longer, old man winter is sneaking in.

But I am at the point of needing to do my deep breathing just to relax with it. Does anybody else ever go through this? Where things are so good that you can't handle it? very little pain, a fair amount of energy, good weather, no worries atm, enough energy to do the chores that need to be done. What more could I ask for? Wish me luck on enjoying my day.

Hugs, to all of you.

Karen

Hi Lee Ann-
A lot of us know the feeling of being overwhelmed to the point of tears. about 2 weeks ago I cried for 5 days on and off. Yes, I have a lot of stress, and was to the point of kicking my husband of 10 years out of the house (which I did a week ago today).
I do blame the Lyrica, which I am weaning myself off of, for part of my emotional mess. I also think it played a role in my life becoming a worse mess, which a lot of medications can do. Lost my grip on priorities, forgot to pay a bill last month, and generally made my fibro fog worse. I was not even on it very long (about 3 months).
BTW, kicking my husband out was NOT the Lyrica, as I have been thinking about a separation for about 9 months. Complicated story, but much of my emotional stress was due to our relationship (I can't blame him entirely - after all, we do choose our response to situations whether we want to accept that or not). I do blame the fibro, in part, as he never understood it and why it changed me. The stress aggravated it even more.
If you can tolerate your level of pain without taking Lyrica my opinion would be to seek your MD's guidance to wean off it. I am not a doctor and am not attempting to give medical advice, just my opinion.
I could not get up everyday and go to work to pay the mortgage on my house without pain medication at this point, and I do take Ultram. Someday I will have built up a tolerance and will probably be searching out another medication. So I am not saying don't take meds, but Lyrica is a very strange one and affects everyone a little differently. I think it's very unpredictable. Even my pain management doc advises against Lyrica but said to try it if I wanted to. Most of his patients eventually stop it.
JMHO, FWIW.
Rose

Lee Ann,

 

I don't know if it helps to hear us say that we know what you are going through, but...we know what you are going through.   Personally, I totally understand the stress of money issues.  I've gone through a lot of things in my life, but I've never had anxiety like I do now until last year.  I also grew up in a house where showing your emotions was a sign of weakness.

 

From what you said, it sounds like your husband is trying to be supportive (but I could be totally wrong about that).  My advice is to talk to him and tell him how you really feel.  I know it's hard to find people who understand what you are going through, but that's what we are here for.  My family doesn't understand, and instead of trying to understand, they make rude comments.

 

Also, I don't want to sound sterotypical here, but I've noticed that sometimes I get very weepy around that time of month.  Sometimes, you can look at me the wrong way and I'll eith or cry or flip out.  I'm sure that going on birth control would help, but I really don't want to go on another med until I get my fibro under control.  That's just me, anyway.  Everyone deals with things differently.  BTW-I'm also one of those people who cannot allow someone to cry alone in my presence.  LOL-this AM, my mom was coming upstairs from the basement and when she saw me setting the table for brunch, she started to cry.  She said that she's just not used to anyone helping her do anything around the house.  To me, it was just no big deal-how hard is it to put 3 plates and some silverware on the table?  Anyway, my point to this long story is that when she started to tear up, I told her not to start, cause I'll cry, too.  There we were like 2 fools crying over me setting the table!

 

OK-I've gotten off the point, again.  Shocker!  It sounds like you are overwhelmed.  Believe it or not, it's really hard for me to ask for help with anything because I'm so used to doing everything myself.  But, I have finally realized that it's OK to ask for help.  And, it's also OK to cry.  So, if you ever need someone to cry with, bring the kleenex and I'll cry with you.

 

Hope you feel better!

bridgewitch,

I know that I speak for most of the smokers (and former smokers) here when I tell you that we know what you are going through.  When my fibro pain hit, I started smoking more.  I was also very stressed out, so I went from about 5 a day, to a pack a day!  My GP had been trying to get me to quit for over 2 years, and one day he suggested Chantix.  I was on a special county program (in CA) and my Rxs were only $5 (and a 30 day supply of Chantix is nearly $150).  So, after reading about the side effects, I decided to try it.  It was like a miracle drug.   I quit smoking in 9 days, and on August 28, 2008, I had my last cigarette.  I'm not saying that I won't stumble and never smoke again, but just knowing that I could stop smoking makes me very proud of myself.

It's weird that you wrote about Chantix, because that county program I am on (and soon willl be off of since I moved), has discontinued Chantix from their formulary of drugs.  So, I couldn't afford $150 and had to stop taking it.    I've been off of it 5 days now, and while I do have some extra anxiety, I can't say that it's from not taking the meds.

Anyway, if anyone out there has the opportunity to try this and you are ready to quit (because you do have to be ready), I say go for it.  But, that's just my opinion.

BW Kelly, we are getting so many Kellys we are going to have nicknames. I thought age was what was making me lose patience with some people, maybe it's a combo of age and fibro. I don't have tolerance for whiny or petty people. If you get pregnant once by accident okay that happens but three...........???

 

Rose I'm sorry about your marriage but if all he was doing was causing you more stress you probably made the right decision.

 

Dealing with fibro and everything that goes with it on a daily bases takes a lot of energy then you throw in bad relationships, money, children, jobs and all of lifes other things and I think we all deserve to have a good cry once in awhile and not feel like wimps for doing so. Dang it this is hard and we have to do it day after day after day. Can you tell I'm hurting more tonight for some reason???

 

I have not tried lyrica and I don't plan on it at this point. My rheumy said my pain is not bad enough to risk the side effects and I was glad cause I didn't want to argue with him over it.

 

Thank goodness we have this forum to come to and dump our problems on. We are always here for each other.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee