11 months of ignorance please find me a spokane wa fibro friendy doc

Hello, Jennifer, and let me say that I am sorry you are having such a bad time. I can relate to your situation, many of this forum buddies can too. Let me encourage you to get a small notebook and make notes throughout the day about how you are feeling. The purpose of this is not to show it to anyone, but so that you become more familiar with specifics about how you feel, what hurts, what changes through the day, etc. I did this and found that when I did have a doc appt where I had to throw down to get some real attention and help, I was better able to talk with her about specifics. When a doc asks a precise question, they want a precise answer. When you do have a doc visit, try to be calm and talk with them matter of factly. I understand how you feel and getting silly responses when you are in pain is not helpful, but being calm goes a long way. I don't know where you have looked for a doc, but I do have a suggestion of a website you can visit if you are interested. I'm not sure if I am allowed to give it to you here, but I am happy to share it with you via email. I will ask the mods if I am able to give you the website on this question. Take a deep breath and cool your head, it won't always be this bad.

Hi 3eyes and welcome.

I'm so sorry you are not being treated with respect. Either way you do need to find a different doctor and also a pain clinic. I would first start with Sacred Heart or Deaconess Hospital and give them a call. Ask if they can recommend someone who can treat what you have. I'm not sure but if either one is a teaching hospital that would be the one to choose. You might also try to see a rheumatologist. If it's fibro or arthritis and/or muscle pain that's who you want to see.

Good luck and keep us posted!
Chutz

OH! And is it really true that when people with Fibromyalgia die, they have holes in their muscles????????!!?

I have never heard that before!!

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21 years old

Fibromyalgia, Bipolar Disorder, OCD, Irrational fears

I am sorry that you are having problems getting a diagnosis. Though I know some types of depression cause pain too. It sounds like you are having a lot of pain and yes that could be fibro. Often though, they do put you on antidepressants to help relieve the pain and it also makes pain meds work better.

I hope that you can find a good pain management doctor. Don't give up. This will work out. Keep your chin up.

Hugs, Karen

The thing is I was very positive about life when this happened. I had a job and just finished my degree in music. I also got married. I felt like evrything was going up and just gonna stay there. I thought i would have a kid. I was on psych meds when this all happened. I am on lithium now. The only thing a therapist would do is give me someone to tell how horrible everything is to. Yes I could vent. But thats about it. Ten years in a mental health system and i know therapists that are good are very hard to come by. It is hard enough trying to find a doc that is not a moron, let alone a therapist who listens. one therapist wouldn't let me come back to see her supposively because my suicide attempt in the past. I thought this ridiculous. One therapist i went to i told that i was upset because i am sick and cant do what i used to. I cant sing, play piano or guitar, unless my body will let me. My hand gets stiff and i can barely type let alone play music. thn she says im depressed because i cant get a job. She didnt listen. when i told her i had jealousy issues nd ask for help with them. she tol d me if i kept being jealous my hubby would leave me. Thats not help at all. I asked for ways to look at things differently so i wouldn't get jealous or cognitive exercises to do and she said "just don't be jealous." Well if all therapists were that good they would tell someone depressed, just dont be depressed. I do not ned the stress of finding a competant mental health person as well as a doctor. And everytime they have an intake you have to go through every bad thing in your life. You have to tell them you were raped, and youseem to have memories about someone trying to murder you, and all the abuse and crap. Like that isn't stressful. and then you have to hear that they cannot see you because they can't treat one thing you have. That is whay i am not up for a therapist. In my experience, books are the bettter therapist. They teach you, in less time and money, what takes therapists years to get around to. Although you need to find the right books.
I only went on lithium because the neighbors are so loud that if i am not in pain and could try to sleep i cant. It is not an exxageration. My hubby thought the roof caved in last week because of one of the loud crashes they made. They stress him and me out. managemtn wont fix anything in the house. And the docotrs seriously won't run any tests. I had to ask several times to get to go to the gi before they actually did it. they tell me the ct scn of my stomach is normal so nothing is wrong and push therapy. ct does not show everything. Things can still be wrong. I was only tested for one type of arthritis. the day i said my legs wer always in pain, she just said i dont know what that is,take a vitamin. What kind of doctor doesn't check your symptoms out and just tells you to take a vitamin? A bad one. she doesnt even remember prescribing the meds she did. The thing is no one will even run a test because of my mental health diagnoses. I dont like mental health meds. they make me about as smart as a rock. When you go to the doc with a flu they dont send you to a therapist so why when i go with more serious symptoms they do? And she didn't even recommend an mri. she basically said if i dont have arthritis then it is all in my head. at this rate if it is ms and not fibro i will be dead much quicker, becuase i wont be able to get the therapy to help slow the progression.
I think the medical society is ridiculous at this point. when they list depression as a symptom for a chronic or deadly disease. That to me is not a symptom. Depression is caused by knowing you are giong to die or be in pain the rest of your life.
I took a psychology course when i was in college. they basically said everyone was messed up in one way or another. To me that means no one is messed up. I am not saying people don't get depressed or hear voices. I am saying most people would probably be better if they actually had a different treatment. If they had an optomism program, instead of depression 101. The greatest help in all my years in therapy was learning to change my mind, or perspective. No one will let me get healthy either way, because of my past. they say i will always need meds adn i will always be messed up. It is everyone working together to make sure that is the truth. But when someone wont do an mri because you have a mental illness, oh and i am just upset because i am mentally ill thy say, not because no one will help me and i am in pain and cant even do laundry sometimes. Thats like telling someone who runs and gets there legs cut off that they are only depressed because of mental illness. It is ridiculous. I don't believe in my mental illness anymore. I believe i get upset, angry and depressed. I know if i change my thoughts onmany things i will get better and not experience it so muchh. But having doctors that want to send you straight to a shrink and not test your body is making me mad.The only reason i need mental health is becuse of my doctors making me upset and making my body symptoms worse.
I do have an appt on monday for a therapist. I finally got one. If he is not good i will not try for a long time again. I do not like intakes. I got him to be able to vent about the doctors and then the darn doctors cant tell me it is because of my mental illness and being unmedicated. I am already medicated, so the therpist is for my proof of sanity i guess, and to vent. adn if he is real good he may know a doc who can help. Westren medicine has the mind body connection way messed up. It is important to treat both, but they are not. they only want to treat my mind. And the way they treat the mind is also insane. I could go on and on but i wont.
Thank you for everyone who posted links. I will be checking them out. And the muscles in the holes after death my mom told me about because she has fibro. I want to do some research and see about it for sure. But by the doctors response she either meant she wasn't that stupid to believe that or that she knew that because she was educated. So I would have to loook. I have done a lot of reading on diseases, and health, but mostly just symptoms and tests. But anyways I am gonna go for now.

Clueless doctors!