Chuzzle,
I want you to know that I am keeping both you and your husband in my prayers.
I went thru this a few years ago with my father. We moved him in with us when he got to where he couldn't get around very well. I spent the next 8 months taking care of him, laughing with him, & just talking when he felt like it. It was the hardest thing I have ever gone thru, but I wouldn't have missed it for anything. My dad trusted in the lord and I think that is what got him thru every day. I prayed every night, I did ask the lord to make my dad well, but only if it was his will. If not, then I asked him to please not let him suffer like I had seen so many others before him. I asked him if it was time, to please take him before things got bad, because my dad had been such a loving person and had loved the lord all of his life and I didn't feel he should suffer.
The lord listened to my prayers. We went to laughing and joking at lunch one day to him being in bed and in a coma the same night. He hung on until my sisters and mother made the trip here. We were all there together for the end and I thank the lord for that every day.
I am so sorry to make this so long and sad. I just wanted you to know that I understand what both of you are going thru and with God's love anything can happen. He is with us always and will never give us more pain than we can bear. With him miracles happen. So, I will pray that the lord stays with you and gives you both the strength to get thru this and no matter the outcome I pray that he gives you both the love & peace that you need right now.
Hugs & prayers! Margie