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Posted 2/1/2009 9:10 AM (GMT 0)
Hello Everyone. It's almost 1am here and I still cant fall asleep, I'm not even tierd. I did a terrible thing today and I'm paying the price big time. I hate doing laundry because we have no washer or dryer hookups inside our apartments so we have to share this small laundry room with 6 buildings, with only 3 washers and 3 dryers and the people here are so ghetto they're always stealing stuff so I dont trust to leave my stuff their and I cant sit their and wait for it, and its 2 buildings down so carrying it that far is a pain. I usually do laundry at my dad's (he has one of those new big washer and dryer that does like 3 regualer loads at once) but I hate going up and down his stairs, my body just cant tolerate it. So I let all my laundry pile up til we where completly out of clothes, my daughter had to wear dirty pants today cause she doesnt have any clean ones anymore and my son was out of shirts, and I was out of jeans and we all where out of socks. So I decided to take them all the laundry mat to get them all done at once. Also I have been letting a friend stay with me for a while til she get things figured out cause she was kicked out of the house she was staying in and her family doesnt want to talk to her, so I told her she could stay for about a month til she finds somewhere to go. I asked my friend to please help me do laundry cause I had 5 baskets packed up with dirty clothes til they where all overflowing. Well she took off with some guy and never came back when she said she would to help me, so I had to do it all by myself, and about half way through with carrying the clothes from the washers to the dryers and folding my back was starting killing me, so I kept had to keep sitting down. By the time I folded them all, got them back in the van, and came home and put the clothes away and cleaned up the livingroom and my bedroom I was in so much pain. NOW I'm sitting here with my whole body aching so bad I can barely move. I feel like I was hit by a truck. And then I started feeling feverish so I took my tempature and I have a low grade fever. I just got over strep throat and before that bronchitas, now something else seems to be showing up, I just so tierd of being ill, and a flare on top of it. My friend called me about 10pm and I refused to answer the phone, I'm very upset with her. I'm giving her a place to stay when nobody else wanted her, rent free, and she cant even help me with some chores. I just want to cry, I'm so overwhelmed physically and mentally. Do you guys think its normal to have a low grade fever with a bad flare, or is this something else completly?? Sorry for ranting on, I needed to vent before I had a breakdown and I feel like I have nobody else to tell that would understand and I know you guys do. Thank you for listening.

-Hellokitty

Posted 2/1/2009 11:55 AM (GMT 0)
Hello Kitty,

That is a shame a friend you are helping did that. Sit her down and have an honest talk first off. Her disappointment to you helped this pain flare tooooo.

Yes, I have read and heard a low grade fever is very much a part of fibro. A friend of mine in upper NY has fibro and gets the fever now and then. By low grade what temp are you talking say around 97?

WE just cannot tackle huge things w/o paying the price , honey, it is what it is!!!

Take care, Patsie
Posted 2/1/2009 2:31 PM (GMT 0)
Well Kitty now you know why no one else would give her a place to live. You did way too much in one day. I have ran low grade temp when really flaring, like my body is trying to fight off something. Pamper yourself with nice warm baths til the soreness goes away.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Posted 2/1/2009 4:53 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Kitty,

{{{{hugs}}}}

Sounds like your friend is taking advantage of you and you need to put her in her place. Tell her, nicely, what is on your mind. If she
can't at least help you out around the house and with laundry then she should look for a different place to stay. You have enough
on your plate with your family, you don't need her adding stress too! Hopefully she will understand and pitch in.

I find soaking in a nice bath with epsom salts helps me to relax. Hope you are doing better!!
Posted 2/1/2009 7:13 PM (GMT 0)
Kitty, I have been perfectly healthy and gone to the doctor and had the thermometer read 100 degrees so that wouldn't be anything too much to worry about.  If it is over that then you should take some Tylenol or something like that to bring it down.

 

Now, I do hope you have your family pack up your so-called friend's belongings and have the boxes on your front stoop so your "friend" can move on.  You have enough on your plate with your family and your chronic illness.  You don't need a freeloader too.  Marlee was correct in saying why  no one else wants her around.  She is a very selfish, irresponsible person to leave you with all of that work.  You tried to help her but she sure didn't try to help you.

 

Sherrine

Posted 2/2/2009 5:04 AM (GMT 0)
I cant take it anymore. My head is hurting like crazy now, and this woman made a freakin huge mess in my kitchen, and I asked her nicely to please clean it up and she looked at me like I was crazy. All she does all day is sit on my other computer talking to strange men she meets online to go have one night stands with and then gets mad cause the guys tell her that they have no feelings for her. My place isnt super clean or anything but it is picked up, and all she does is cooks and cooks and leaves me with the mess. I now feel like I'm going to get a migraine to top this all off. And when she cooks I ask her to please not feed the neighbor kids cause I dont get very much money for food and I have to make what I have last for my kids and I and she purposly ignores me and feeds them anyways. How do I nicely ask her to clean up her act or leave? And aslo she sits on my cell phone non stop making calls to these strange men, I tell that I dont want strange guys calling my cell phone and she thinks it's cause I'm jealous but I'm absoutly not the case, if I wanted to a man it wouldnt be very hard, I choose after my last ex to stay single for a while to figure out what it was I wanted to do in my life and I find one night stands just plain nasty and wrong. Then today this friend f hers asked if she could have some of her foodstanps and she told ehr ok when I feel I should get them because she is eating MY food, but I didn't say anything of course, me being too nice is making me feel like I'm going crazy, but for some reason I just cant stand up for myself, I think thats why all the guys I've dated in the past where abusive and now I feel like I have an abusive friend.

-hellokitty
Posted 2/2/2009 5:23 AM (GMT 0)
she is an abusive friend. I don't think you need to tell her nicely. will she retaliate against you if you tell her to get out? she can go live with one of her many boyfriends.
Sue
Posted 2/2/2009 6:43 AM (GMT 0)
Is she doing anything at all to make your life easier in any way? If not this is totally one sided - she's abusive and she's not a friend.
Posted 2/2/2009 1:57 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with the others this person is being very abusive to you, you must tell her to leave asap. You have your family to think of. Good luck..

Posted 2/2/2009 2:04 PM (GMT 0)
i have to agree with others here-this woman does NOT sound like a friend! if she is only making your life harder and not even paying you rent, she needs to go!! you have enough on your plate with fibro and kids, you don't need this added stress on top of it!

{{{{hugs}}}}} i hope you're feeling a bit better after your laundry day-oh, and i get low grade fevers sometimes, too. i don't think they are dangerous or anything, but definitely ask your dr. about it if you're concerned.
Posted 2/2/2009 4:57 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Hellokitty-

Show this gal where the door is! No way is this a friend. And your health is at stake- 

I run a low grade temp. as the norm now since getting fibro. Try not to worry too much about that.

Let us know what you end up doing-

GamJill

Posted 2/2/2009 5:35 PM (GMT 0)
As I said previously, get her bags, pack her up and put her things outside your front door.  If she will not leave, call the police.  I wouldn't feel the least bit guilty about it either.  She has basically given out your cell phone number and God only knows what on your computer.  She eats your food and gives it away when told not to and never helps you.  You need her like you need a fibro flare.  Get rid of the freeloader.  So what if she is upset.  Do you really want to keep a friendship with this loser? 

 

Sherrine

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