So, we have more in common than the trazadone! My husband is in the Air Force and in Japan right now. my thoughts and prayers are with you.
I take 50mg of trazadone right before bed, with food (not a lot). I started out at 25mg and did that for about 4 or so months. The doctor told me that this is no where near the dosage that would work for someone that has depression (so this should not affect your mood, you would need something else for that). I am only taking this medicine to achieve a deeper level of sleep. From what I understand, once I acheive this deeper level of sleep, it will begin to heal the minor tears and injuries to the muscle tissues and other issues that occur daily. So, from my understanding, people with fibro that do not achieve that level of sleep are unable to repair the daily beating that occurs to our body...so this medicine helps to restore and heal the tissues because it helps us sleep.
I definitely think this has helped me. I pretty much swear by it. I know when I havent taken it and I have a hard time the whole day. W/O it, Yes, I sleep, but I do NOT have restful sleep by any means. Also, this is the only medicine that I take for fibro. I dont take any pain medicine or any other types of medicine. I have attempted cymbalta, but it made me so tired during the day, I couldn't do it. I am very sensitive to chemicals that go in my body.
Good Luck with it all. I think that when you get the dosage figured out, you will do better. But then again, some medicines don't work for everyone, but at least you know you've tried.