He finally listened to me..............

I moved into my sons old bedroom, just so I could stretch out and TRY for a good nigts sleep.  I was going to bed last night, after I have used about 6 camphor towelettes on my entire body.  He came in and said what is that smell I am always smelling.  I threw the box at him and said, here read this and started to cry.  He finally said, ok, what is this thing you have........arghhhhhhhh!  I happened to have one of my fibro books on the dresser and I said "I am too sore to talk to you about it at 11 at night, go read this".  This morning I was making his breakfast and he said

he read most of the book last night.  He didnt realize how bad fibro could be, how it impacts lives, and he couldnt imagine what the pain was like.

I almost flipped out.  I just looked at him and said, well maybe now you will realize that I DONT WANT TO BE THIS WAY.  Why the he$$ would any woman want to walk around like a zombie for 3 months???? He said he was sorry, and said he would bring dinner home tonite, so I wouldnt have to cook. He asked if I had been to the dr!!!!! Well duh. How did I get diagnosed.  I told him there is little they can do, since I cant take narcotics and the Dr will not give me Lyrica.  He offered to get me a massage and I told him I would like that after the flare has stopped.

It was like a breakthru for me. Even my son, who is a nurse, couldnt get thru to him

THE LIGHTBULB FINALLY WENT ON!!!!!!!  Yeah, now maybe I will get a little help around here.

Sue

That is wonderful!  I had the same experience with my husband.  Our relationship was headed south very fast and that woke him up. On his own he started doing some reading and his tune changed pretty quick.  I can understand why other people have a hard time accepting this disorder but our own family, I just don't get it.  They can see our daily struggle and probably can remember when we were energetic and in no pain, so why would they think it's all in our heads .  Anyway, I am so glad that you finally have some support.  Actually my husband started doing to much for me, which was nice but I had to tell him stop doing everything.  We are still trying to find our balance but things are so much better. 

Make sure you tell your husband how much you appreciate his trying to understand, it will encourage him to keep researching. 

Thanks gals..........we shall see how serious he is, but hopefully he got the messagie.

Patti, the name of the book is "Fibromyalgia....An Essential Guide for Patients and Their Families, by Danied J Wallace and Janice Brook Wallace.

I found it at Borders.   They have so many out now, and its hard to choose.  But this is the first book I bought after I was dx.  Is endorsed by the National Fibro Foundation. You can probably find it on Amazon.

Will keep u all posted

Have a great day everyone

Sue

That is great news and I loved your story- I think this will bring you closer and you can now get the support that you have needed from him! 

GamJill

Sue, If I could jump up & down, I would.  I am really, really happy for you.  Wow, just the idea that he sat all night & read is so touching.  When my husband "got it" I was so relieved.  He didn't say anything, he is a very quiet man, he just started doing things, like sweeping the floor & when I would say "oh I'm sorry I should have tried to stay on top of that" he just said "no, you go lay down, this isn't going to hurt me".  It felt so good.  As I said before I am so happy for you.  Love & hugs, Denise

PS I also had to laugh when Patti said "you through the book at him", You go girl. 

Thanks ladies.........this weekend was very nice, veryyyyy nice.  He called me from the office on Sat afternoon and said lets go out to dinner.  We went to a very nice Italian restaurant, and it was a nice conversation, mostly about our boys.  We went to early church, then he had to return some shirts to the mall. He even told me to go sit and order a Starbucks if the walking was too much for me, so I did just that.  This is like a dream.  We came home and, usually when he is around, I dont like to lay down.  But I did, and when he popped into the bedroom, he was very quiet and quietly closed the door.

WHO IS THIS MAN??????  Yikes, .  I hope no one pinches me and I wake up!!!!!!!!!!!

Hugs

Sue