I really screwed up big time...

Nobody's perfect. I'm sure Hubby has made his fair share of mistakes also, somewhere down the line. Unless he's perfect, then run like h---. Anyway, send him Fibro's open letter to normals, Fibro 101 thread. When people are angry with me I give them lots of time and space  to regain perspective. Heck, I accidentally left my 3 year old in a shopping cart at the grocery store once. I was pulling out of the lot when I turned to look in back seat, empty carseat, whoops. He was still chattering away at the check-out as I came full speed through the exit, in total panic. Don't fret so, hubby will survive. You're only human. hey?

I overheard a story once, an oldie gentleman, over 100 yrs. was being interviewed. The interviewer asked if he had it to do over again, what would he have done differently? His reply, Ï would have made more mistakes'. To err is human. Stop beating ourselves up, suggests I.

Hi Marlee -

In the short time I've "known" you I can already tell you are a "take care of everybody else" type of person. I know you feel bad but please don't be so hard on yourself.

Actually my husband did something similar to ME once, and he isn't a fibromite! He was on a business trip to Scotland, and I knew he was going to use his day off there to play golf at St. Andrews. He rented a car and drove to the golf course from Edinburgh - alone. When he didn't call at the time I expected, I started getting worried. He was in a foreign country alone driving in bad weather on the "wrong" side of the road with diabetes, and he ALWAYS pushes low blood sugars WAY too far. I was sure his car was in a ditch somewhere in the middle of nowhere, with him in a diabetic coma. I waited until it was about midnight there before I tried calling his hotel room. There was no answer. At this point I was frantic and just didn't know what to do. I tried his room again around 2:00 a.m. Still no answer. I started searching the internet for contact info for Scotland police.

While I was looking, hubby popped up on instant messenger! Oh, when he got back to his room after playing golf, he laid down "for a moment" intending to go for dinner after a brief rest, and fell asleep. A very deep sleep. Apparently the phone in the room had been turned down so he never heard it ring when I called. When I told him how frantic I was and that I thought there was something terribly wrong he said, "Nope I'm here." That's it. Not, "Gee, sorry I had you worried" or any of that. His attitude was, "oh well it was an accident, and you worry too much." Grrr. If he had been in this country I would have thrown someting at him!

Anyway I guess my point is don't be so hard on yourself. These things can happen to anyone.

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Thanks everyone, he's still kinda hurt and I am still not happy with myself but things are starting to calm down. It doesn't help that we had a small fight the day before so he got it in his head me not showing up was punishing him. I think we have most of it talked out. And I am going to check out the open letter to see if it will help. I had put together a slideshow for my friends and family on FM and how it affects me and that helped some. I just can't seem to explain well enough the severity of pain and exhaustion I feel. It can be so frustrating somedays.

Im sure that after your Hubby calms down, he will realize that you did not do it intensionally, and he will get over it. He just has to get over the initial anger of it. I understand... Sleep sometimes comes and nothing else can break in. I wake up and look at my clock and see alarm went off and I never heard it, and my young one is a sound sleeper and he doesnt hear it either. Just be extra sweet to him and apologize, even if it takes 7 times, he will get over it if he loves you and understands your health issues.
Take Care