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Posted 6/1/2009 11:10 PM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone........has been a long time since I posted on here.  That has been due to the fact that I went into a pretty deep depression, after a flare I had which lasted for 3 months.  The flare has been gone, but the depression has lasted.  It was due to several things in my life in the last 6 months......death of my brother, my son will be divorced in 25 days, only after 8 months of marriage, my husband has been ill, and we are not sure what is going on with him.  I tried to do it all...........help my husband, my son, my niece and nephew deal with their dads death, and keep away a very nasty almost EX

daughter in law.  My youngest son, has been ill with mono for 6 weeks and is coming around just now.  I tried to be Superwoman

and it all caught up with me.  I am in counseling again, taking a bit more xanax and doing some simple exercises.  It has been a long road, but I believe I am back on the right path.

Just wanted to stop in and say I have missed all of you, and hope you are doing as well as possible

Sue

Posted 6/1/2009 11:13 PM (GMT 0)
Good for you for taking care of yourself. Women will bend over backwards to help everyone feel better but ourselves.

I am sorry that your brother died and hope you hubby feels better soon. Evil spouses, as in the case of your son, do not like to watch other people be happy.

Donnaeil
Posted 6/1/2009 11:33 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Sue, I'm so sorry for all the pain you have been going thru these past few months. You tried to be so strong for everyone and you are hurting. I'm glad that you are out of the flare and taking care of you w/ counseling and the med, and the exercising will help you also. You are taking the right steps to get you on your feet again.  Welcome back, we missed you.

God bless.  Alice.

Posted 6/2/2009 2:48 AM (GMT 0)
Sue, it's good to hear from you again.

 

I've been away for a while too and  I've missed everyone.

I'm sorry to hear what you've been through, but don't give up.  Things are bound to start getting better.

 

God Bless!

Shannon

Posted 6/2/2009 4:47 AM (GMT 0)
I"ve been so busy that I didn't have time to miss you but it sounds like you have not been having a very good time. Glad you are back with us and can get some good sound advice from all of us fibromites. Take care... and take it one thing at a time. None of us are superwomen anymore... (or supermen for the guys!)

Doesn't life stink sometimes? Sending you a gentle (((hug))) and some warm prayers.
Posted 6/2/2009 9:21 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, Tootie!  It's sooo good to see you again.  Please accept my condolences about your brother and I'm sorry you are going through all of this with your son and the divorce.  I remember when you were planning the wedding.  If there are no children involved, that is a blessing.  Better he know now than a few years and a few children from now.  Nevertheless, it still is very sad.

 

I hope you get some answers about what is going on with your husband's health.  I know that can be quite stressful.  Your youngest sounds like he's on the mend so try not to stress over that.

 

I'm glad you are getting help for you.  So many times we think we can handle it all but you have been smart enough to seek the help you need.  You should start feeling better soon. 

 

Take care and don't be a stranger!

 

Sherrine

Posted 6/2/2009 11:21 PM (GMT 0)
((Hugs)) Tootie,

Sorry to hear about your brother. Also you sound like one strong lady with all thats on your plate right now. I wish you more stress free days ahead.

Take it easy(as possible),
Lori
Posted 6/3/2009 2:14 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Sue, it is nice to see your post, but sorry to hear about all that you are going through-

Let's hope they can get hubby's health issues figured out soon, there is nothing worse than not "knowing" what is going on. And happy to hear that your son is finally getting better. It sounds like you are getting things back on track and you are in good hands. 

Keep us posted and we are here for you!

Jill  

Posted 6/5/2009 1:46 PM (GMT 0)
Sue, sorry so late in responding to this, I'm so far behind in everything it's crazy. I'm so glad your back but sorry you've been having such a rough time. I have thought about you often and haven't taken the time to write. I know your brother's death was so devastating to you and it's going to take time for you to heal. This time last year you were worried about having the energy to do all the things you wanted to do for the wedding and now your helping your son through the divorce, how sad. Believe me I know you never know what your going to get for DILs, I've got some wacky ex DILs out there. I hope it is all over soon and your son can start building his life again. I know you can't turn your back on your son while he is going through this but please take care of yourself too. I know we always put ourselves after everyone else.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Posted 6/5/2009 2:51 PM (GMT 0)

Hi everyone

Is good to be back.  Sons divorce should be final in about 25 days. Bank accounts were split evenly (we think), no children, and Michael is just renting the townhouse.  She sure had us fooled.  She went to counseling and Dr called my son and told him she was bi-polar.  She doesnt know when she is telling the truth or not, and she hid her drinking problem very well.  Hubby is going to dr on Tues to find out what is going on with him.  All his blood work came back just fine, but he has terrible pains in back, arms, neck and jaw.  Geez, is Fibro contagious????  Will post again soon. Hugs to you all

Sue

Posted 6/5/2009 9:27 PM (GMT 0)
Aww ((Sue))

Sounds like you've really been thru the wringer.  I hope things start to get better soon. 

Glad you're back.. I haven't been around much lately, I started working full time a month ago and have had a lot on my plate too. 

Stay strong!!!

Hugs...

Posted 6/7/2009 8:38 AM (GMT 0)
Reading- Eat, pray, love

and needed to share an extract......it goes

"In response, somewhere from within me, rises a now familiar presence, offering me all the certainties I have always wished another person would say to me when I was troubled.This is what I find myself writing to myself on the page:

I'M HERE.I LOVE YOU.I DON'T CARE IF YOU NEED TO STAY UP CRYING ALL NIGHT LONG, I WILL STAY WITH YOU. IF YOU NEED THE MEDICATION AGAIN , GO AHEAD TAKE IT-I WILL LOVE YOU THROUGH THAT,AS WELL.IF YOU DON'T NEED THE MEDICATION I WILL LOVE YOU, TOO.THERE'S NOTHING YOU CAN EVER DO TO LOSE MY LOVE.I WILL PROTECT YOU UNTIL YOU DIE AND AFTER YOUR DEATH I WILL STILL PROTECT YOU.I AM STRONGER THAN DEPRESSION AND BRAVER THAN LONELINESS AND NOTHING WILL EVER EXHAUST ME.

Tonight, this strange interior gesture of friendship-the lending of a hand from me to myself when nobody is around to offer solace"

Elizabeth Gilbert Hope someone gets something from this extract.......good to know we each have an unfailing forgiving friend!
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