At the end of my rope

Hi!

Welcome to our Fibro Family! And maybe the reason you posted today was just as your title stated...you are truly at the end of your rope, and can't even see how to tie a knot and hang on. I think all of us have been there at one time or another but somehow survived it. That does NOT mean it's easy though.

I've had an especially hard Christmas this year also but my fibro, like all others, acts a bit different than yours. I've been struggling with it for about 8-9 years through flare ups, holidays, sadness, happy times....all that life has to offer. This all amounts to stress and that is our worst enemy. I would imagine the holidays kept you very busy and just a 'bit' overworked..lol Like most moms we just keep going but you and I and the others here just can't do that any more.

Now, don't take that to mean you can't have a wonderful life...K? But it does mean we will have to regulate and pay more attention to when and how much we do. If you've not read "The Spoon Theory" (it's in the Fibro 101 thread at the top of page one listings) now is a good time to do so. I really does explain how limited our energy is and how we have to be very aware of how we spend it each day.

So today...pamper yourself! No extra chores, or better yet, none at all if you can swing it. Let others do the cooking and you are to rest! Have a long, hot bubble bath and get those muscles warm. Don't fret over tomorrow. It will come no matter how we worry about it. If in the morning you can't move, then make two phone calls...one to work and one to your doc. See if one or both might be able to have some compassion and help your.

Are you on any treatment from a doctor? Or use OTC medications? Maybe it's time to review with your doc and see what suggestions he has for times when the pain is worse. I am very lucky to have a great doc who believes in quality of life along with his medical practice. If you haven't been to see him in a while and/or the pain is worse then going in for a check-up is a good idea anyway.

But for me, most of all, finding the wonderful people here is the best medicine invented for fibro. Everyone understands and truly cares about each other. This is a place where we can help others and by doing so it returns to us more than we ever give.

Never be afraid to ask, share or comment on anything here. It's why we come. We are a family and you now are part of it. Here, take my hand <extending hand> and I'll walk with you and hopefully show you how good life can be in spite of fibro.

Warm hugs,
Chutz

Thank you so much for responding. I was feeling so alone. I am currently on cymbalta and amitriptylin. I'm having such severe pain the last few days - I don't know what to do to help myself. I'm not comfortable laying, sitting or standing. The weight of my own body hurts me. I'm sure you all know what I am talking about. I've just not ever had it this bad before.

My husband is a "fixer" and is driving me crazy. There is nothing that will fix me as quickly as he wants it to happen. He wants me to go to the doctor right now - but I know seeing an ER doc will only complicate things. And actually sitting in this computer chair is not as painful as it was earlier today. Maybe I am feeling a bit better...

Let's hope...

I am feeling the exact same way as you, TIWC - I had a pretty low stress holiday weekend, but I am STILL so tired and sore I can hardly move. Lifting up my arms or legs is agony right now, and I just want to sleep. Some of it is depression, which taking Cymbalta helps, but some of it is just from the really hard flare pain that has been happening for the past 3 weeks with me. So, hang in there and I will too. Our fibro family is here to help us get through the day, and we are there for them as well. Welcome!

HI, Michele, and welcome!  I missed this thread but see that others jumped in.  They usually do.  We have wonderful members that love to help one another and, as a bonus, we really do care about each other, too!  I think you will like it here.

 

I'm so glad that you are feeling much better today.  That's what fibro does and you need to remember that!  When you are feeling really lousy, just remember....it will get better.  We have our bad days and our good days.  That's why I look forward to each new day with anticipation because I don't know how I'll be.  I expect it to be a good day and I always plan reasonable goals for each new day.  Even if I'm having a crummy day, just reaching my goals makes me smile and I do feel a little better!

 

Be sure to check out the Fibro 101 thread...the second thread on the forum.  There are links to good info about fibro and you will learn a lot there.  The more you know about this illness the better equipt you will be to challenge it and do what you want in your life. 

 

I'm so glad you found us and joined our family.  I hope to hear more from you soon.

 

Sherrine

Hi Michelle, adn welcome!! I'm so glad that you decided to join us. Everyone needs to unload sometimes, especially to others who understand and won't judge. We've all been through times when it just seems like we can't go on anymore. I am so glad that you are feeling better now. Keep posting, all the good and the bad :) I'm looking forward to gettign to know you better!