Crying all the time.

Deb, I go through the same thing.  I live in Florida and two of my children live in northern Ohio.  My son came to visit me the first week in December and we had a wonderful time but, yes, I cried for several days after he left.  I haven't seen my daughter for 1 1/2 years.  So, it's really hard.  I try not to think about it too much because I do get very emotional about them.

 

I'm legally deaf so I can't even talk to them on the telephone.  But, we email each other a lot during the week so that helps me feel closer to them.  I'll be heading up there this summer hopefully but, again, it's hard to leave to come back home!  So, I do know what you are going through. 

 

Try to focus on the good times you had and don't think that you won't see her for a long time.  That's actually negative thinking and is making you so sad.  Instead, start planning for when you can be together again.  That will make you feel better and have something to look forward to.  And the tears?  I can cry at the drop of a hat these days!  Maybe we both should invest in water wings!    

 

Sherrine 

Hi Deb!

Sounds like you hit an emotional nerve with many of us. I too can cry instantly at just a thought or a picture or a word from someone else. It frustrates me since any emotion makes my eyes leak...happy or sad.

One thing I will share that my doctor shared with me. I take Effexor and have for a couple of years but before then I took something different and before that one it was yet another one. What my doc told me is that most often antidepressants lose their effectiveness after two or three years and then it's time to try a different one. The way I know it's time to change is my crying gets worse and worse and I'm more sad than I should be. There are several types of antidepressants and within those types are several brands so most often you and your doctor can find a new one that will work for you if you need to try a change.

This might not be what is going on with you but I thought I'd share my experience in case it may help you or someone else.

Glad you are here!
Chutz

Deb, I think missing one of your children that much is normal. I have never cried when one of my children has left as I did when we put our oldest son on a plane to go to Okinawa for two years. I was use to him being away from home but I knew I couldn't just pick up the phone and call him when ever I wanted to while he was over there and I was a basket case for days and couldn't stop crying.

 

I hope the blues leave you soon.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

 

 

I'm glad your doing better Deb. If it is as cold there as it is here in Illinois I think now would be a good time to plan that vacation to San Diego.   Now we have a winter storm coming, don't know how much snow we are suppose to get. I think I stocked up on everything today.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

 

 

Hello all; It's been a long time since I've posted. I lost my Dad over the Holidays, started crying all the time, at every little thing, took up w. an old lover, it's been extremely rough. So, I can relate. I am very vulnerable, things are very rocky in this new/old relationship (he drinks - any input on how to detach would be welcomed), but he was also extremely supportive during my battle w. my Dad's cancer, through the wake, through the arrangements, etc. so I am not at the point where I am ready to let go, right now, despite our multitudinous problems. However, I am so shaky, so vulnerable, and frankly quite lost. So, yes, I cry everyday. Usually in AM's first thing as I am in so much pain from the Fibro, upon awakening, it is really easy to get the water works started. Hard to get em stopped, though. I guess, in a way, it is better than bottling it all up inside. So, if planning a crying session first thing every morning when you have lot's of things to bawl about is any help to anyone, go for it. Xmas, was to be survived, this year. It seemed to go on forever. Now of course, it will be tinged by the loss of my Dad, for quite some time. The issue about anti-depressants losing their effectiveness, after several years is interesting. Does anyone have any more info on this? I have been on the same anti-depressant forever, and it has limited my libido, and I think it really doesn't do anything, anymore, or worse, may be keeping me depressed. I am trying to access a psychiatric consult, however, since I've moved jurisdictions, I am no longer eligible for care from my prior psychiatrist, and haven't been able to access another yet. I see my PCP today and will inquire, perhaps he has a referral. So, Best to All in the New Year, It is a new Year, Here's to making it as positive as possible.

Part of your depression over this could very well be hormones. Women are constantly going through hormonal changes. and it only gets worse as you age. I am sorry to hear that you are having such a rough time with this. You may want to talk to your doctor. He may be able to help. If you go, though, tell him to check your hormone levels, just to be safe. One of my son's therapists is going through hormonal changes and her emotions are all over the place. I hope you start to feel better. Keep us posted. *soft hugs*

At my last dr's appt I discussed with him the emotional ups and downs I have when my son's visiting his nanna (he's 4) It seems I cry constantly and at the drop of a hat when he's gone, my dr believes it's anxiety, and increased my anti-anxiety meds during my son's away time. When I have hormonal changes, PMS, it's especially hard and my DH gives a warning to our friends during that time, which is only semi-amusing "Rabid Grizzly week" and warns them to "Play dead" LOL This visit I dug out all my old scrapbooking stuff and restarted my son's book as well as made Christmas cards, and it helps keep my mind off the fact I feel like I've lost a part of myself. Fortunately, he's supposed to be home this wkend and he's only been gone 2 wks instead of the month he's usually gone. Thank God for preschool!

Tyno, I'm so sorry about your dad passing away (((hug))). You have been through so much with him and your step-mother I'm sure you feel lost now without him to take care of. When your so use to taking care of someone and then they pass you have to find something to fill all that time.

 

People come into our lives sometimes for a reason and maybe you needed the boyfriend to help you through all this but I have a feeling you won't need him when you get stronger.

 

Crying to me is very good for everyone when you are hurting cause it releases endorphins.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Tyno, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear father. I know how hard that is, my father is gone 30 yrs this past 4th of July. I still feel that loss. I have read your posts for quite awhile, even when you felt terrible, you always were there for your father. You have been such a good daughter, a G O O D person. I greatly admire your strength. I wish things could be easier for you right now. Most importantly, you must take care of yourself. You have taken care of everyone else, now finally, pls take care of yourself.

I truly understand your feelings about your 'family'. You need distance from these ppl. Sometimes, it just feels like a group of ppl w/ the same last name, that's it!

I do hope this new dr will be able to help you, not add to your problems. Unfortunately, some female drs have that same 'tude. My former dr, a woman, couldn't understand why I was so upset due to the passing of my darling nephew. Very dismissive of my grief. I believe some drs are made of ice. A 'difficult month', an answer certainly worthy of all those yrs of education - almost sounded like a real person for minute. And we get to pay them for that crap that comes out of their mouths.

I will keep you in my prayers. You are a very special woman and you deserve some peace and contentment in your life.

God bless.  Alice.