I think I'm going to hand in my resignation tomorrow ....

I have been struggling with juggling family and work since 11/5, which is when I had to go to work full time for the first time since I have been a mom.  I have had part time and consulting jobs off and on throughout the past 14 years, but never was away from home form 7-5 five days a week, 35 miles from home.  My boys' grades have fallen, they have missed necessary appointments, and they are not handling the 'freedom' that comes from a mom being gone all the time very responsibly.  My fibro is worse than it has been in 3 years, I've had to start anti-depressants, I'm exhausted by 7 every evening, and my job is SOOOOOOO strenuous!  My mom is having a colonoscopy this week .. which makes me nervous because she has a hx of uterine cancer and one of the things they told us could happen from the radiation was colon cancer ... she's been having symptoms for a while and 'neglected' to deal with them.  She helps get my youngest on the bus in the mornings, and isn't sure she's going to be able to help with the kids anymore.  (Boy was that hard for her to admit!)  The house is a mess, I am a mess, my marriage is a mess, my kids are struggling, I'm worried about my family's health, and when I take into consideration that I have to pay $100 a week for gas & $50 a week for childcare, I'm only actually contributing $125 a week to our family finances.  So .. I'm busting my buns for $25 a day?!?!? 

I love the place where I work, I love the children I care for, and I HATE to be a quitter, but dang it ... I have given it all I can for the 90 probation period, and I think that when I get called into the director's office for a review tomorrow, I am going to tell her that as much as I appreciate the opportunity and support their program, it's just not a good fit for me or my family right now. 

I am really anxious about the conversation, and terrified about finances, but I just honestly think this is the best thing for my family right now.  I know my boss will be upset .. and I HATE confrontation!!!!  She's very sweet and nice and suportive, but there is nothing she can do to make this work right now .. and I just hate to let her down.  Then there's the part of saying good bye to parents and kids, and to my assistant.  UGH ... it's hard to leave a position like this ... but I'm giving 2 weeks notice. 

Not sure what the future holds, but I DO know that I'm excited about it ....

wish me luck!  my belly hurts just thinking about the talk, but I'm eager to move on .... I really did try my hardest .... and it just didn't work out. 

Its great that you have made this decision. Good luck and remember that you have to do whats best for you.

Also, think of how many people are out of work... you will be giving someone else a job and helping your family by being home. Its a win win situation!

Do-over, you are doing what you feel is right for you and your family. Family comes before work. If you want to work because you are worried about finances, then try finding a part-time job closer to home. You need to take care of yourself and your health so you can take care of your family. I have a hard time with confrontation as well, but take comfort in the fact that you are doing what you feel is right for the well-being of yourself and your family. Those kids of your obviously need you at home. They need their momma. I know you worry about finances. Believe me, with my husband unemployed at the moment and me unable to work, I worry about finances everyday. Just take care of yourself and your family and take things one day at a time. Let us know how things go. Good luck. *soft hugs*

well, i did it.  handed in my resignation.  it didn't go very well ... boss said she was 'very disappointed in my decision' ... but it could have been worse. 

this may well be the LONGEST two weeks ever .... but I feel even more like it was the right thing to do now. 

You did the right thing in my opinion. You only get one chance to raise your children. Plus keeping your marriage in tack is at the top of your list since when the kids are gone it's just the two of you and you sure best love being together. Money is nothing more than time and you have chosen to give your time to your family. I applaud your decision and courage.

Chutz

It seems to me like your boss said what she said because she values you as an employee and doesn't want to see you go. You should see it as a compliment in a way. During the next two weeks, just have fun with the children and do what you normally do. Try not to think that the next two weeks will go slowly. I wish you the best of luck. Keep us posted on how things are going.

I used to teach and I loved it but then I had my first child...actually, today is her birthday.  Anyway, I tried to teach one more year because I had a loan out under my name.  I ended up quitting.  That was difficult because I knew it was the end of my career, but it was the best thing I could do!  I ended up with three children and was home to raise them and they are all wonderful adults now. 

 

Money was a huge problem, too.  We really didn't have the money for me to do that because my husband was a teacher, too.  This was back when teachers made practically nothing.  He was in his eighth year teaching math, physical science, and computer science and was making a whopping $11,000 a year!  We had house payments, car payments, etc.  Two weeks after I quit, he found a job in data processing and that was the very best thing!  He built a wonderful career but he would never have left teaching if I hadn't stepped down. 

 

So, things really do work out for the best.  You made the right decision for yourself and your family and you will enjoy your new life as a stay at home Mom and a loving wife.  Your children are blessed that you can do this, too. 

 

Sherrine

My DH was in the army and he worked a part time job for years to allow me to stay home and raise the boys, not that the boys didn't need their dad too but he probably made more working the part time jobs than I would have after paying for daycare.

 

Don't think waiting til they are in their teens to go to work is a good idea, teens need more supervision than the little ones do. I did go to college when mine were teens but I left after they did and was home before they were.

 

Don't get me wrong being a stay at home mom is not for everyone.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee