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Posted 6/5/2010 2:01 AM (GMT 0)
In the good OLD days, I loved to change things in the house while my family was away for the weekend - clean, move furniture around, maybe paint a wall a fun color.  Now I can't do much of that at all, but I still have the desire.  I look around and everything looks dull and dusty (because it is!) and it's been the same forever.   I'm alone, so I can think straighter, and boy, do I see a million things I want to do! 

nono  I can't, of course...unless I want a big-time flare.  That much I've learned.  So I've put the blinders back on and pretty much accepted things as they are.  Maybe I'll accomplish a LITTLE bit.  At least I can organize old papers a bit - but that's not the fun stuff!!  Thanks for letting me vent!  Have a great weekend, everybody!

Posted 6/5/2010 3:54 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Achey...

I do understand what you mean but I chose a slightly different path. I've decided I'm going to hurt/flare/be miserable no matter what I do. Some days more than others but that's how my life is. So, I save up some energy for a certain project and then go for it! I may try to get it all done in one day or portion it out into several plus gain assistance from hubby and grandson, but I have decided to just DO IT! Then I take time to recover and do it all over again. I'm going to hurt so I might as well have some fun for the pain.

Is there someone who could help you? Kids in the neighborhood, young relatives or friends at church or somewhere that would lend a hand. Maybe go buy paint one day and call it quits. Get some neighbor kids to move the furniture in exchange for a batch of cookies. If you belong to a church or other group they will often come in and help. Catholic Community Services will help and only need to pay according to your ability to pay, I think. Just a little help and/or digging in and it could make your days so much brighter...really! I'll help you choose the pain colors...lol... do you like fuschia?

Chutzie
Posted 6/5/2010 3:55 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Achey, Just want you to know I understand what it is like to look around and see everything that needs cleaning and not have the energy to do it. I have gotten so much grief from my second oldest son about the house being dirty and he doesnt like coming here because of it that I have forced myself every day for the last couple months to start a thorough cleaning of my house. Each day I do a few things to get it cleaner and it has definitely started looking alot better. My son is coming home on the 11th of this month and I havent said anything about cleaning. My luck he will come home and not even notice. He will probably just find something that I havent cleaned yet. I take my time though and dont push myself too hard. If I get only one thing cleaned in a day I feel alot better about myself. Hope you have a good day tomorrow.
Shirley
Posted 6/5/2010 5:58 AM (GMT 0)
I know - get your hair colored. You can make a change while you sit and rest. It won't be to the house, but it will be a change . .
Sue
Posted 6/5/2010 8:31 PM (GMT 0)
Chutzie, you're right. I guess I was just on the pity pot last night. (Yes, I like fuschia, but I'm thinking sage green!) The thing is, though, with me what I do makes a HUGE difference as far as how much pain I'm in. I try to do as much as I can without crossing that line, but sometimes, I just say the heck with it and go for it, and it's usually worth it. My younger daughter, who lives in town, helps when she can but she has her own physical limitations. My husband has his hands full with work. I've paid a woman from church to help me a few times in the last few months, but due to finances that's going to have to stop. There's no one else I'd feel comfortable asking. My son...(see below!)

Sorry about your son's attitude, Shirley....that sounds just like my son's! I want to say - "Hey! If it bothers you, why not help clean it up?" but he still believes my problems stem from lack of activity and nothing I can say at this point gets through. If they only knew!

Sue, good idea! But I've already done that....
Posted 6/6/2010 1:58 AM (GMT 0)
Achey, I can totally relate to not feeling like cleaning or doing household projects. I have a number of projects that have been started, but not completed because I didn't feel like it. A couple of years ago, my husband had a total knee replacement done, and shortly afterward, I had a bunionectomy which ended up requiring 2 surgeries. With me being laid up longer than I had planned, and my husband still having some pain, our house really fell apart. When I was able to be up and walking again, I found that I had to break things down into small tasks. I had to be patient, because it was a long process. I have used the website flylady.com (which sends email reminders about household chores throughout the day), and motivatedmoms.com (it provides a schedule of household chores for every day of the year for an $8 fee) to help keep myself on track. The nice thing about these websites is that you don't have to worry if you miss a chore one day if you are not feeling well, you can just make it up on another when you are feeling better. They have helped me quite a bit. My house isn't perfect by any means, but it is much better than before.
Posted 6/6/2010 3:07 AM (GMT 0)
Wow! AcheyBody When I read your post all I kept thinking was I could have written it.
I made a nice little list of easy things I wanted to accomplish today. I hardly got anything done.
I don't have an answer for you. I can only say I understand and you are not alone.
As for me, I will keep making my list and try to pace myself. and never turn down help.
HUGS!
Posted 6/7/2010 9:22 AM (GMT 0)
I understand what you are saying. I just take each task a little at a time. I work on something 10 minutes then take a break...go back and do 10 more minutes. Don't do too much at one time. Right out a goal. One thing I do is keep the livingroom,bathroom and kitchen clean. My room, well it is another story. It makes me feel better emotionally if I have a room I can sit in that is not cluttered, maybe be dusty but not cluttered. Just do the best you can.
Posted 6/8/2010 4:28 AM (GMT 0)
I appreciate all the responses.  I said once before, and I still believe, that part of our fogginess may be the fact that we have trained ourselves (from necessity) to switch activities so often.  As soon as we get going on something, oops! ...time to change positions, stand up & walk, sit down, "turn around, pick a bale o'cotton" - well, you know what I mean!  So, because our bodies have to be scattered, doesn't it make sense that our brains would get that way too??  Or am I off on a wild goose chase again? cool
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