PREGNANT!!!!

Oh my word.  I will be 39 in a week.  Have three kids, the oldest is driving, the youngest is 6.  My husband and I just started marriage counseling because things are so bad.  I have had an IUD for 4 years, and just found out that I am pregnant.  All last week I was in the dr's office with news that changed every day.  It was something like this: "You're not pregnant, you are pregnant, it's all in your head, you ARE pregnant after all, but it's not viable, you'll need a medical abortion, oh wait, your hcG levels are going up, you might be having a baby, you need to come to the office first thing in the morning to remove the IUD..."  I've done more waiting for the phone to ring this week than ever before!!

I started Cymbalta about 6 weeks ago and it has been a Godsend for me ... for the first time in 8 years I don't hurt everywhere all the time.  It's also really helped with my depression and anxiety .. though I started taking it for the fibro pain.  And was told last night, no more Cymbalta, or klonopin, and I have to have the IUD removed tomorrow morning ..... AAAAAHHHHHHKKKKKKK!!!!!!

So .. hmm .. stress levels up?  you bet!  Worried about no more Cymbalta?  uh huh!  completely freaked out?  oh yes I am!! 

my husband is over the moon excited about it all ... i am a wreck ... i missed 3 days of Cymbalta last week when we thought I was pregnant to begin with ... and have been in pain everywhere again. 

oh boy .. here we go ........

I think the hardest part is that people in my family just don't understand my fibro .. and the fact that I deal with depression .. especially at this time of year ... well, it all just makes me hurt. they think it's all in my head, or that i'm lazy. (no wonder i am depressed!) this is my worst time of year ANYWAY, but to go through it without meds ... it's scary to me. and honestly, if one more person tells me to 'just stay calm' i think i may have a tantrum! :)

i also believe that everything happens for a reason though, and am trying to have faith that if a life could be created against all these odds, then i need to nurture and appreciate it as long as i can.

Congratulations but, OMG! Fibromyalgia and childbirth...Ooohhh! How painful can that be! I don't envy you at all! And no meds.....Ouch!

First of all, congratulations!  Boy, you sound like me.  I had two children...a girl and and a boy....and didn't want anymore children.  My husband and I were going through a bad time in our marriage too.  That happens to most people as they get older and start to drift in different directions.   But it definitely can be worked out.  We did it!

 

Anyway, I was really upset.  I don't believe in abortion but I also didn't want another child.  Obviously, it wasn't planned and I didn't think I could handle another child because I was so sick with Crohn's disease at the time.  I remember looking Heavenward and say to God, "This is Your baby because I don't want it!"  I know.  That sounds sooo horrible but that's how I felt.   The baby was due the second week in April but she came three weeks early...the last week in March....the Saturday between Good Friday and Easter Sunday!  Now THAT got my attention! 

 

Bottom line?  She is such a blessing to me.  My other two children live up north but she is down here with me in Florida.  She bought a home three miles from me so she could be close if I needed anything.  She sleeps at my home because I'm legally deaf and she worries about me.  I could go on and on and on about this precious child that I could have gotten rid of.  I just can't imagine life without her. 

 

So, try to relax about this.  This really is a blessing for you...an unexpected blessing, albeit.  With your husband so excited, this could be the catalyst to bring  you two closer together, too!  I wouldn't worry about the pain because may of our members who have been pregnant with fibro have felt better during the pregnancy.  Don't project yourself in the future because you don't know what it holds.  Take one day at a time and look forward to meeting your newest family member.  Again, congratulations!  You will look back one day and wonder why you got so upset!  I'll be praying for you, your baby, and your marriage.

 

Sherrine

I hope things work out for you! I hope they do an ultrasound for you soon to figure out if everything is okay. I hope you and your husband can work things out. I am all to familiar with strained marriages and pregnancy. Take care and I hope you do what is best for you and that the doctors can provide the best care

I'm surprised you can collect your thoughts enought to even post! I agree, you are responsible for your actions, but not your thoughts. Take care of yourself, whatever you do. My third and last child came after I got fibro (but I didn't know that's what it was.) It was not an easy pregnancy, but she has always been my sunshine, and is now an incredible young woman.

You are in my thoughts.

Debbie

wow! thanks for all the responses! i had my iud removed this morning .. which, btw .. was PAINLESS! They drew my blood again. (I am starting to look like an IV drug user .. had my blood drawn every 48 hours for over a week now. lol)

I had a firm talk with my parents and my best friend who are all telling me that I should do whatever I can to 'get rid' of this embryo. I told them that I am NOT going to do anything to harm it, that I'll nurture it the best I can as long as I can, and if I'm not supposed to have another baby, I'll have to count on nature taking care of that. There is still a large chance that it won't become a normal pregnancy afterall, but that is beyond my control. I was at peace with taking the methotrexate when I was told that there was no way this was a viable pregnancy .. but now that there is a chance, I'm going to see what happens and know that either way ... I am not alone!

oh .. and there is more good news.. i found out this morning that i got a JOB!! It's only a half mile from our house, at the elementary school where all of my children have gone, and i'll be tutoring for 3 half days .. only aboout 10 hours a week, very do-able ... and will help a little bit with the finances!!

wow .. what a day. i'm gonna take a nap before the kids get home early for Thanksgiving break. and oh boy, am I gonna eat a TON tomorrow. LOL!!!

thanks for the support ... it's good to know that someone 'gets it' when it comes to fibro. this is the only place i have were people don't tell me it's 'all in my head'. that means a lot to me .... :)

Maybe I can give you a good laugh, 23 years ago I had an IUD fitted we had 2 boys and that was to be our family.
I went to see my DR and was told they had to take the IUD out I had a infection. The odd thing about my infection is he is now 22 and a half. Then about 2 years later the fibro started to raise its ugly head in the form of my monthly cycle stopped and I mean stopped I went to see my GP no I was not pregnant this went on for months, the pain started and the GP'S knew nothing about fibro back then. That sounds so long ago but it isn't. One morning I woke up screaming my right should I could not move for the pain.
Then I got morning sickness [never had it with the 3 boys] again a preg test this time I was really pregant, my due date anyones guess.
I was told its either a girl or twins, just what I needed to be told. The second time I had been told that [my DGM was a triple] I was given the option of not having this baby, which my husband and I considered, but we had decided to have the baby.
After 36 hours labour we had our beautiful DD. But I was told to never have anymore. The fibro had had a effect on me and the GP'S where worried. 12 months later my life changed when the fibro took over my life fully, to the extent that I could not even get out of bed by myself, I could not take a shower by myself. And the list of my meds well it was quite extentive. Today that little girl is wonderful, her and my SIL have moved home and she has taken over all the house work the last couple of weeks due to the flare I am having. My SIL has even started to do little things now he had not really understand what fibro did to me.
Having the baby is up to you, but that baby could be a wonderful blessing. The pain I understand, for me the pain eased off while I was pregnant.
My family laugh about our son the infection that is now well over 6 foot and a wonderful young man. Who has Fibro
Kathy

Here's a question. Will this baby be born with Fibromyalgia? If not why not?