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Posted 12/10/2010 10:41 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so lost, I dont no what to do. No one understands that I talk to. I am so miserable, I just wish I could go to sleep and not wake up right now. I wanna go to bed & just cry myself to sleep. My back has been hurting so bad for the past few days. My back always hurts, but these past few days have been REALLY bad. I'm so tired and I feel so sick. Like I have the flu. I don't understand it at all.

My husband tells me take Tylenol, take Motrin, take this and that..I do, it never helps. I'm so frustrated I don't no what to do. It's Friday and if it wasn't so late in the day. I would prolly make a trip to the Dr.

It's so depressing, I'm 33 & I feel so ill?I go to the gym & come home feeling sick. When exercise is sposed to be so reviving and give you energy. It zaps me and makes me feel ill.

I thought I had gallbladder stuff going on, but im not so sure. The stuff that was going on in my right side has seemed to disappear. And nothing really significant was found in tests. I really believe in my heart this gallbladder stuff may not be the issue.

A Dr. had said I may have fibromyalgia but he wasn't an expert, but I could try a medication. It made me so mean, I quit it & never went back to see about another.

He got kinda angry with me when I asked him what the med was, what the side effects were & what it would do for me. I don't really no what kind of dr. I should be seeing to further investigate this.

I have been major busy this week and feel like I'm stressed out. I have been going non stop & have been having anxiety. The house is a wreck & I just don't have any steam left today. I can't seem to get a weekend to just stay at home and just BE. I'm unorganized and by the time i get done with the day. I am so exhausted for house work...

I am truely at a loss and guess I just need someone to talk to.

 

Posted 12/10/2010 11:24 PM (GMT 0)
Sending gentle hugs... I think the stress of the upcoming holidays and weather
really do a number on fibromites. Stress, no doubt causes us to hurt all the more.
Our muscles tighten do to all the added cortisol and adrenaline in our bloodstream.

Remember we can no longer try to get everything done in one day...our bodies
do not let us get away with it. Make lists of everything you hope to get done
during the week, and do only what your body will allow you to do. I try to pace
myself but sometimes I will get carried away. Setting a timer has helped me :)

Find time to relax each day, you are worth it! Sometimes a 15 minute soak in the
tub makes me feel like a new woman. Use moist heat when you are watching
TV or just relaxing.

I think it you should see a rheumy, and get everything sorted out so that you
will get the treatment you need to find some pain relief. You are in my prayers!

Hope you feel better soon!!!

Hugs, Robin
Posted 12/10/2010 11:32 PM (GMT 0)
Hi there,

I am so glad that you have posted and Robin has given you some excellent advice. Make time for yourself throughout the day. Write lists, cross off things as you go. Don't make too many demands on yourself right now. Go with the flow of the Holiday Season. This is a stressful time of year and the stress only makes hurt more. I think a nice soak in the tub is in order here.

Take good care of yourelf. Do see a doctor that knows more about fibro too. Maybe ask your doc what they recommend. Or like Robin said, a rheumy.

I hope that you feel better soon.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 12/11/2010 5:22 PM (GMT 0)
the one major thing I do to help is to NEVER clean the whole house in one day. I usually divide the work up into a 5 day week but not consecutive. Like Monday: take sheets off bed and wash them and remake, Tuesday: give bathroom thorough cleaning, Wednesday: wipe down kitchen cabinets, fridge, door jambs, etc, Thursday: dust and put away things left out and around, Friday: day off, Saturday: Hubby and I together vacuum and mop the floors, and Sunday:day off.
This way I do a little job each day and the apt. stays clean but I never have to take one whole day to get it done and pay later, because pay later you will.
I know its a bit tougher to do this with kids but if you have the patience, most young children really love to help. My 6 year old grandson puts all his and little brothers clean shirts on the hangers and all mommy has to do is hang them. She also put all their (littlekid) dishes in the lower cubbard and they get them out and set their own table all by themselves.
Believe me, I used to do a thorough house cleaning just about every day, and it took me awhile to adjust to this type schedule but not being in pain is more important than a spotless house.
thanks for letting be blabber on.....
Posted 12/11/2010 10:55 PM (GMT 0)
Ibuprofen never helped me until I started taking 600 mg a dose...every six hours.  Ibuprofen does help some with this illness.  Then I take 1,000 mg of extra strength Tylenol in between the ibuprofen if I'm really bad.  I am never without pain but this allows me to be in control.  But only taking two Advil doesn't cut it.  For some, even taking more ibuprofen still doesn't help but I just thought I'd suggest it.  Marty, that might help your "rear"!  smilewinkgrin    My hips and butt were hurting so badly and I found out I had bursitis in my hips.  The anti inflammatory aspects of ibuprofen do help with that.

 

As everyone suggested, moist heat helps a lot and do some gentle stretching exercises to help...especially your back.  Gentle exercise does help but if I went to the gym, they'd be taking me out on a stretcher!  Can't do that.  My muscles scream at me if I do things like that.  But walking, water exercise, yoga, things like that are great for fibro.

 

Lastly try a gentle massage.  If you have someone that knows what they are doing, massage really helps a lot.  I have a massage once a month and wish I could have one twice a month.  It really helps my back muscles a lot!

 

Sherrine

 

Posted 12/11/2010 11:08 PM (GMT 0)
mrscrowbar, thank you for your response!I am so used to being able to clean the house and do this and do that..Well, this past year it has gone way down hill! I was doing some really high impact exercise classes. And trying to lose weight. I thought, well, maybe its this extra weight I'm carrying around..I had lost and gained back.. Soo, I really felt so ill. And somehow, managed to drag myself thru it. So, the kids got out of school for summer & I just started walking outside for exercise, because (A) I couldn't make it to the gym & (B) I was just so tired of being tired and miserable. Walking even makes my back hurt and makes me tired??UGH. I'm understanding about the change in plans to adjust to the lifestyle needed in the here and NOW moment..And forgetting what I used to be like or what I used to be able to do..But, Oh my lanta!My family goes thru this house everyday after school and work. It looks the same EVERY single day. By the end of the day when I SHOULD"VE made them pick up their own junk. I have been so busy, i send them to bed and just plop, all the while feeling like plopping on the floor on my face. I feel like by the time I get the 'everyday' mess cleaned up. I am exhausted to do anything else????It just seems like such nonsense to me & it makes me feel so bummed out. And I sit and think WHAT is wrong with mee???Why can't I just pick myself up and shake it off & think OK maybe tomorrow will be better, and tomorrow and tomorrow...And it never is better?

I have been feeling completely ill for 3 or 4 days. BAD backache and hips hurting and neck hurting...Only to find out, I came down sick yesterday...I notice before I get sick I start feeling ill even before I come down with the actual sickness?If that makes any sense at all???

I gathered up enough energy to drag myself outa bed, laying in bed WIDE awake at 630am...Layed there for an hour thinking i could and would go back to sleep...NOPE! So i get up & I'm dead tired???I did clean the kitchen. My daughter had 2 basketball games today..bleechers killed my back..Now it's time for Monopoly. And then out to dinner...I'm ready for bed!!!Its 5pm HAHA!
Posted 12/11/2010 11:13 PM (GMT 0)
My real question in between all my whining LOL...Is...What am I supposed to do, to get someone to listen to me??I don't no what kind of med I need to be looking for or asking for..I no a real dose of pain med would help. I took a darvaset that a friend gave me & it helped tone the pain down a bit. Should I maybe get an MRI done to rule out something???

I never did throw my Savella packets away. But that medication made me down right mean. I don't no if that next jump in milligrams was to much or what..Or if maybe I need to be cutting the dose in the packs in 1/2 and taking it slower...Im desperate, but I can't be wanting to hurt people and being paranoid either HAHA!
Posted 12/11/2010 11:14 PM (GMT 0)
Marty, don't worry, you didn't hijack my post :0) Thanks for responding and sorry that you are having to be here, but thanks for just replying to say you understand!! Much appreciated
Posted 12/11/2010 11:33 PM (GMT 0)
Darvocet has been pulled off the market now.  That happened a couple of weeks ago.  I had a discussion with my doctor about pain meds two weeks ago and what would be the best for me.  I even asked about muscle relaxors.  But, he feels that Vicodin is the best for fibromyalgia pain...but only to use as breakthrough pain.  You don't want to use Vicodin every day.  It can be addicting. 

 

I haven't tried it but keep some in my medicine cabinet if I REALLY need it.  But, I know that fibro pain waxes and wanes so I try other things and it does ease up enough that I haven't taken the Vicodin.  I'd probably just cut some off a pill, too!  LOL  Boy, I just don't want to go that direction but sometimes you have to.

 

Sherrine

Posted 12/13/2010 1:52 AM (GMT 0)
goingcrazy,

Sorry you're feeling so bad. I'll tell you one thing I know for sure (and there's not much I know for sure): get to another doctor! It's his JOB to explain this stuff to you - he's working for you, not the other way around. I had a doctor get pissy with me once under similar circumstances, and that was it for him.

I go to an allergist/internist, a lot of people here go to a rheumatologist, but the most important thing (in my opinion) is attitude.

Good luck! Debbie
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