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Hi Lissa~

I think I do know what you mean and likely how you feel. I too am the one everyone turns to and am a 'giver' as you are. It is exceedingly hard to learn to receive.

I was talking to my college age grandson a couple of days ago about the paperwork he hasn't gotten finished for next year's classes. But as he insisted many times. "I can do it!". Well, he found he couldn't. Luckily a family friend offer to help him and since she knew the ropes around the paperwork he was struggling with they got it accomplished together. No way he could ask for her help and she knew it soooo, she just insisted on going along with him. He's another one who's not very good at taking/accepting help. It's a lesson many of us struggle with but in the end I think we win if we learn our lesson well.

I'm glad you found us and have somewhere to turn for comfort, compassion and understanding. That's what I found too.

Chutz

I think many of us are caregivers in our lives and it's hard not to be as independent as we once were.  I rarely ask for help but if I really can't do something, I don't hesitate to ask for help...even from strangers!  It might be easier for me because I'm a senior and people expect seniors to need help.  (At least that's a good excuse for me!  )  But I find that if I put a smile on my face and ask for assistance, I usually get it.  And, when I'm having a good day, I try to help others like holding doors for them or assisting some other way.  That makes me feel good and, besides, we ALL should help one another.

 

I'm glad you like this forum.  We do have wonderful members and I know you will feel right at home.

 

Sherrine