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Posted 3/31/2011 11:04 PM (GMT 0)
hi, thought i should say hallo to everyone, am not so good today, been in bed cos i been too sore,hot,cold, and sinus playing up too. seems to me i spend elmost every day just getting by, just nodding and agreeing with the family, funny how their lives just go on. my other half has been busy all day,running here and there and then to sons gym club as we run a little tuc shop there,well he mainly does that. i just wish he hadnt have done it today, wish he had stayed home,i felt so rotten, lonely too. i havent eaten much, i so exhausted and sore. legs like lead and so painful. no one else here for me, no one to help.
yeh i guess i am just being sorry for myself, i am so lonely, i think my other halve finds a spare moment and he fills it up doing anything to get out, he hates house work and i feel my life and home is crumbling around me, no one does anything on a regular basis, i used to be so houseproud and slowly but surely things are getting so messy, i just cant cope with all of this and just pushing a vacume around the front room, i break out in a disgusting sweat, so hot and shakey, well i have moaned enough.
one nice thing is, TODAY I FOUND THIS SITE, PERHAPS I WONT FEEL SO ALONE ANYMORE, THANKS
Posted 3/31/2011 11:46 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, this is an excellent place to be, we all have something in common. It might not be the nicest reason to talk to one another but its a start. I understand the housework getting to be too much because I have been grumbling about this too, so everyday now I do something from a load of laundry to a sink of dishes. I find it hard to keep active because I hurt all over but the less I do the more I hurt as well so I have modified how I do things. I know if I do too much I will pay for it but if I do nothing I will pay for that too.
Do you take any thing for your symptoms? Take a minute and read the fibro101 thread there is so much great information.

Take care
Rose
Posted 4/1/2011 12:22 AM (GMT 0)
Sending you gentle hugs...so glad you have joined us! We really do understand your frustration and pain

Make sure you are taking time each day just for yourself...allow yourself to take long leisurely soaks in the tub...or a walk. Plan outings with friends. Having some fun and laughing really helps take the focus off pain. Sometimes when I'm hurting the most, I push myself to get out with friends...I find it helps.

Like Rose, I pace myself doing housework. I have sort of a schedule for laundry and cleaning....with lots of breaks.

I'm older, so no children at home...it's just me and hubby and two cats. My husband is very healthy and sports orientated, He plays on tennis leagues and golfs. We used to share these sports. We still enjoy exploring and hiking together. Finding something you and your hubby can enjoy together will help with the lonliness.

Try to take one day at a time...do what you can do and be proud of what you accomplish. Normal people really don't understand how much effort goes into some everday chore...we do..be proud!

Wishing you the best...excercise when you can, relax and use moist heat to soothe those achy muscles. Feel better soon!

Hugs, Robin
Posted 4/1/2011 5:23 AM (GMT 0)
Hi~

And glad you found us! That lonely feeling is sometimes worse than the pain of fibro. One thing that will guarantee to make you hurt more and feel worse is to just sit or lay around. It hurts, everything hurt and moving often hurts more than laying in bed...we think. But if you can make yourself get upright every day, get in a warm shower to get those muscles heated up, you will feel better in the long run.

Keep moving. Not constantly, obviously, but don't sit for long periods of time. Move from one chore, project or event to another every 1/2 hour to one hour. For me the fog is so bad I can't concentrate longer than that anyway. In the Fibro 101 thread that Rose mentioned there are some gentle stretching exercises that will help you keep your muscles loosened up and not so stiff and sore. Yes, it might hurt a bit at first, but the pain will be so much worse if you don't keep those muscles gently working.

No one said it would be easy but we can have a wonderful life with fibro! Stick with us and you'll see...K?

Chutz smilewinkgrin
Posted 4/1/2011 2:33 PM (GMT 0)
thank you all for your kind words. would like to share this wee poem with you all, it seems rather stupid now, but when i am really feeling unwell , this just sums things up.by the way. the fog which i now know it is, is clearing a little, been up and showered. vacumed a bit also and put a wash on. . once again , thanks to all of you. your problems make me feel like a human being and not a hypercondriact. oops cant spell that lol xox
locked inside what seems to me like a cage,
Full of such anger, pain, hurt and rage,
What will become of me
I do not know,
I feel like my life is just one big blow.
I cant be too bothered to make loved ones happy
They just see me as nagging and yappy.
And there are my dogs, i once used to walk,
Well if only they could bloody talk.
They could tell you how it once used to be,
The forest,the fields the snow them and me.
We would walk for ages just explore and enjoy,
All of the things in life HUH NOT NOW.
Things are so different to them and me
I used to be healthy, so now can you see
Oh i have tried so many times to bounce back
But being unwell just kicks me in tact
It just forces me to take a back seat
And depend on others my needs to meet
Not all of them tho i must admit,
I do what i can, but thats rather crap
I aint got the strength some days i just sleep
And when i m alone some days i just weep
I am, now unhealthy ugly and fat,
In a dirty old home ,theirs no pide or that
The others who live here, just don’t give a dam
Its not them whos trapped in here ,like a clam
So why i wonder for all those years, have i given to them,
My health, my strength my love and my tears
Only to find that they don’t a care a bit
All talk and no action, its just all bull sxxt
Posted 4/1/2011 2:34 PM (GMT 0)
think i got carried away there lol. sorry
Posted 4/1/2011 4:04 PM (GMT 0)
I hear you.
I haven't been feeling the best for the last week. A lot going on.
3 deaths since begining of Dec. Nephew (30), Mother in law and best friends brother (40).
Cross fingers that it's the end for a while.
I think it's all caught up to me.
I usually have the "Chins up" attitude but that is even hard right now.
I also feel that I'm lazy but I know it's now that it's all that's happened.
I have slacked off lately but I'm trying hard to get myself moving again.
But right now it's time for a nap. Hadn't been doing that but this week I've needed them.
Getting carried away when you start is easy to do, we all tend to do it from time to time. lol
Posted 4/1/2011 11:32 PM (GMT 0)
Hi sopissed,

Can relate to what you are saying.I too have bad leg pains and legs are very weak,can't walk distances.Do you have fibro and thyroid problem.Im trying to figure out if the severe pain and weakness is from fibro .Do you get weakness too? hypothyroid right now and have severe fatigue also.I don't know if its just thyroid or both causing this, having a bad day too and its good to see that others are out there going through the same struggle.I,m hoping to improve.My house too is a mess right now,but I'm trying to do one thing at a time,because have to conserve energy. If you told me I'd be like this a year ago,I would not believe it.I was going to school and working ft.Now I'm lucky I can work and have enough energy to drive home and go right to bed on pain Meds.We have to stay positive,and keep telling ourselves ,It will get better. I talk to myself every day to try to keep motivated.My children are a little older,so that helps a lot.I say thank god I did not get this when they were infants,can't imagine.
Feel better
Sage
Posted 4/3/2011 12:39 AM (GMT 0)
hiya, good to hear that we are all suffering together here, just sitting wondering where everone here is from,
i do hope we all keep in contact, is there a way of contacting through email?
Posted 4/3/2011 2:07 AM (GMT 0)
Hi and I hope you are feeling well.  I can admit that some days I just exist basically but I never stay in bed.  I might sit on the couch more than usual.  I usually get up and piddle around and take breaks----sitting on the couch LOL.  The more I don't move (at least a little) the more I hurt. 

My hubby is self employeed also and many days I have to go into the office to ship items and take care of invoicing.  Do I want to go??? heck no!  He is a workaholic and can not accept that I just do not have the stamina that I did even 4 years ago. 

So to keep the peace I run the sweeper, cook dinner everyday and keep up with the laundry.  I try really hard to do the dishes after dinner as he hates dishes in the sink but sometimes I just can't do it. 

You said you were lonely for the day and I am sorry for that.  Personally I love it when mine finds his own things to do......If not he finds things for me to do and paperwork at 8:00 or later is not my idea of anytrhing I want to do, by then I am finished......heck by 6:00 I am done for the day LOL.   Mine thinks I should be doing the running around with him and I honestly don't want to, thankfully he is giving up bugging me to go with him.  I can sit on the couch which is more comfy than sitting in the car.

Odd thing is that today my legs are aching like crazy, almost like I walked 5 miles and that is unusual for me.  It is not ususlly my legs all day, just in the morning.  hmmm always something.

Oh I forgot to welcome you.....Welcome!!!   BTW, some of us put our general area in our signature as mine is below.

Posted 4/4/2011 3:06 PM (GMT 0)
Hi sopissedoff, want to add my welcome.

Sage, not sure why you are hypothyroid right now but I can tell you that I was also. I had to be to get the radiation treatment for cancer of the thyroid. Anyway, I was severly fatigued, couldnt concentrate, and had no desire/want to get up and do ANYTHING. My doctor and companies fmla/short term approved for me to have a few weeks off with pay till I was back on the meds. and no longer hypo. Is this not something you could do?
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