Lonely

Hi, Tiger, and welcome!  I don't know if I saw your first post or not.  Fibro fog, you know.  But I'm glad you are here.  It's tough enough to have fibro but to add MS to the mix makes things even worse but you can still have a good life in spite of these illnesses.  Do you live alone?  Do you have children?  I sure hope so because they can be such a blessing.

 

How active are you?  It's important to keep moving with fibro and that can give you more energy.  I'm not sure what you are capable of doing.  Are  you able to walk?  If so, give that a try.  Use a cane if your leg isn't working properly.  I sometimes have to do that with fibro pain.  I've had a cane for nearly 20 years now and it sure comes in handy. 

 

There are some gentle stretching exercises in Fibro 101...the second thread on the forum.  These are done sitting down and they might help some, too.  There is also a good article about positive thinking too and this really does help a lot.  You can find good info in Fibro 101 so be sure to read it.  

 

I know you are down and depressed but the best thing you can do is to help yourself.  Set goals you know you can meet every day.  That will make you feel better because you are accomplishing something.  I know when I was depressed after losing my husband, I didn't feel like doing anything and basically sat there feeling sorry for myself.  I found out no one wanted to be around me!  Yes, I sure was lonely.  So, I forced myself to get out and do things.  It really was difficult because I had just moved to a different state and all my old friends were 1,200 miles away and I'm legally deaf so I couldn't talk to them on the telephone either.  But, I got out, met new people, and reorganized my life.  You can do that too and you will feel much better, too!

 

I hope you start feeling better.  We do understand.

 

Sherrine

Tiger, try to get out of bed as much as  you can.  Stretching exercises would help, too.  These things could help with your pain levels.  Also, try to find things you CAN do with the problems you have.  For me, I love doing the family genealogy and it's easily done sitting at your computer.  I have learned so much about history, too, and am making books for my children so this can be passed on.  I know I'm accomplishing something.

 

If you like to knit, or crochet, or embroider, or do crewel work, that would be good, too.  You could make homemade gifts for people and those are always greatly appreciated.  Just think how great you would feel seeing the smile on someone's face when they receive something you made yourself!  I learned how to hook rugs and I made a pillow cover from a pattern that I had to hook to finish.  I got that at Jo Ann Fabrics.  There are things you can do to keep occupied.  Just staying in bed isn't accomplishing that.  If you can get around some, cook a favorite recipe.  I love to cook.  I also love to read.  I rarely watch television. 

 

I hope this will give you some ideas that will help with your boredom, lonliness, and depression. 

 

Sherrine 

Sherrine,
I do what I can. I am having trouble using my hands right now. I have my own makeshift thing to help me type but I can't do a lot with them right now. I use to loved to cross stitch when I was able. I also love to target practice. There are many things I love to do and do them when I am able. I really hate being in the bed. I do as much as I can and sometimes overdo it (makes things worse for a while). I like putting together albums and things like that. I am on the computer a lot getting ideas for all sorts of things I can do. When I am in bed I really have no other choice. If I try to get up for more than a few minutes I pass out, adding to my aches and pains from the fall. I really do appreciate the ideas. But I really do need things to do while in bed. Cross stitch has gotten too dfficult for me. Maybe you could send me info on how to learn something new and easy. I would love to learn! I don't mean to sound so negative. I hate that. But I am trying to let you know who I am. I really am not a whinner or complainer, it is just you don't realize my limitations. But please if you can send me some kind of instructions on some kind of knitting or whatever, that I can do in bed, I would love that!

Thanks a lot,
Tiger

Hi Tiger, I'm sorry for your pain...finding ways to distract it really does help.

Have you ever spent time journaling...putting your thoughts and emotions to paper?...or writing poetry or stories. This is an activitiy that doesn't require

more than pen and paper. Our minds can conjure up all sorts of things and it helps us take the focus off our pain. Writing helps express my emotions and I find it to be very theraputic...just another suggestion.

Try to take it one day at a time, and the days you can get out, take advantage of them.  Wishing you the very best...I hope you find something you really enjoy to do!

Life as I know it is a beautiful thing

Each day a new chance, to see what life brings

 

Some days are happy, some days are sad

for the chance to just live it, I'm really glad

 

Hugs, Robin

Yes, I have a laptop.  It is the only way I am able to spend time online.  It helps the time go by too.  I get lost in cyber space.  I am so out of it now.  I'll come back tomorrow.  Thank you.

Welcome Tiger,
I taught myself how to crochet about six or seven years ago, when my mom stopped knitting and crocheting. She has Alzheimer's and I believe she simply forgot how to do it; she had done it for her entire life. Anyway, I never had any interest in it but when she stopped, I felt the urge to begin. She wasn't able to teach me and so I bought a booklet "Knitting and Crocheting for Dummies" and I'm telling you, it was so darn easy to learn! I've been crocheting ever since. I have four grandsons and I've crocheted each of them a baby blanket when they were born. I've done afghan blankets for my mom, our living room, and I've done crocheted hats for my grandson that snowboards! There are many sites online with free crochet instructions and you can even buy your yarn and needles online!
I understand the feeling of loneliness. I am married, been married for over 30 years, but my husband is at work all day. I have three sons, all married, all live several thousand miles away, all very involved in their lives with their young kids, which is the way it should be. Not all of us are lucky to have children by our sides. It is tough feeling alone. My friends are so very active, it's hard keeping up with them. I try to combat the depression with a daily gratitude list. I know it sounds corny, but it does seem to help me. I think of five things I am grateful for. I also exercise, even when in pain, even when I feel so very tired. Even if it is only 10 minutes. I have three Golden Retrievers that insist on being walked every day! Thank God for them; they are my motivators
Welcome and I hope things get better for you soon. Come here often and post. There is always someone around to respond. You are NOT alone...
Miriam

Hey Tiger,

I hear you! I truly feel your pain! One thing I liked to do prior to being dx with FM on Monday and a flare the last month was couponing and get lots of free stuff.

Most I can do at home and the time in the store is usually minimal. I took a break over the last 2 months but with lack of family support...It gave me something to do Thanksgiving day to take my mind off things and a box full of goodies of things I need or can share with others which makes me happy! :) I am still trying to pace myself...all so new.

Just a thought!