Hi to all you nice people here!
I wanted to let you all know how we're doing since my Mom moved back to her sisters. To not have the constant stress of caring for and unfortunatly being drained by someone 24/7 is remarkable. Jim and I are both doing so much better. The peace and quiet has been very healing to our bodies and our minds. Yes Jim still has cancer, and I still have my pain issues, but we feel like we can manage now, before with Mom here it was nonstop over the top stress.
My Mom is doing better too, this change was for the better for all three of us. Even though her sister can be a little bossy and overbearing at times, Mom prefers living with her instead of in an assisted living facility. It was her choice, and they do, do alot of things together. I guess we will cross that bridge, (of her going to a facility) when we come to it. I am just so grateful to God that even though we had to tell Mom we could not take care of her, there are no hard feelings. There was hurt and anger at first, but those hard feelings gave way to acceptance, "and lets do our best to get along." Believe me, this could only have been done with help from above. Thank you Lord! She has been over to visit a few times and we have went to see her too. We are even going to help all we can... thats it.. we will do what we can handle and nothing more without guilt. Tomorrow we are taking her to San Diego to see a specialist since my aunt has been a little under the weather.
Now if only all the fibro and athritis pain could just go away for awhile! Yes I still deal with pain every day. And as is the way with fibro, some days are much worse than others. What I hate the most is I pay the price if I sit at the p/c for too long at a time. The arthritis in my neck can be brutal, as it is right at this moment.
Anyway to those of you who gave me advice and encouragement, thank you soooo much, I can't tell you how much your support meant while I was going through that awful situation.
Take care everyone, Debbie