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Posted 4/26/2012 9:55 AM (GMT 0)
Hi all,

I was just wondering if anyone goes through what I do in that my personality is different depending on the degree of pain I'm in.

When I'm having more pain than my usual there could be so many hurtful and/or negative things I could say to my husband but I hold my tongue knowing I wouldn't be saying these things on a good day. This can be very difficult for me to control. Sometimes I feel like running for the hills.

Thanks ahead of time for sharing.

 

Posted 4/26/2012 2:19 PM (GMT 0)
I use to be some what cranky years ago. Now that he provides and takes care if me, I almost cry in thankfulness. I look at it a whole different window now. Don't beat yourself up over it. We are just human.
Posted 4/26/2012 7:16 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, definitely. When I hurt a lot, my whole outlook is negative and the glass is lucky to be only half empty. I need more reassurance, more empathy and when I don't get it, it's so easy to get snarky. But I try not to let it get too out of hand.

Debbie
Posted 4/26/2012 9:29 PM (GMT 0)
Oh yes. I definitely struggle with that. And if I'm super sensitive and my husband touches me, I've smacked him without even meaning to. I don't think its us...its our disease reacting to something it doesn't deal well with. I feel very guilty sometimes for how picky and uptight and demanding I can be when I'm in so much pain. I don't mean to be mean...but it takes effort just to talk so I know my tone isn't nice like it would usually be. I'm blessed to have a husband who truly understands and helps me without even being asked. I thank God for him. Don't blame yourself though. There is only so much you can control. Just make sure the person you may be "snarky" with knows that you didn't mean it...your body just reacts with its fight or flight mechanisms.

Kagendo
Posted 4/26/2012 9:57 PM (GMT 0)
Absolutely, when I am in a flare I am not a very nice person, my hubby gets the worst undeserving attitude. My adult children stay clear of me and the grandchildren they certainly do not need to be subjected to me.

However those bad flares are few and far between, I do hurt everyday but there is that special pain I think we all know that one. I can not hold it all in and I simply explode. My hubby says its no bid deal, but I feel terrible when it happens.
Posted 4/27/2012 9:57 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks, everyone, for sharing.

It feels like to me when I'm experiencing a flare up that I'm in so much pain I can't tolerate it and it's so much harder to go through a typical normal day.

I'm glad I also have a husband who's understanding but I don't think a person who doesn't have fibro could ever understand what we're going through.
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