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Posted 9/16/2012 4:02 PM (GMT 0)
"What you see is evidence of what you believe. Believe it and you will see it."

The way we think does influence the way we feel. I try to see the glass as half full rather than half empty. Positive thinking did not come natural for me...it is still something I work on daily. I just know that I feel better as a result of thinking positive. Our thoughts precede our actions...if we dwell on the negative, we only focus on our weaknesses and never our strengths.

We all have purpose...chronic pain should not be allowed to get in the way...it only does if we believe we are defeated. Positive thinking makes me proactive about my life...and that helps me deal with the

pain....we are not doomed....we have a choice.

Positve attitude does not just happen...you have to practice it everyday...as soon as a negative thought comes to mind you need to replace it with something positive. Each day, I spend time reading something that inspires me...it gives me strength and hope.

My perspective on life has changed greatly...I live with joy and purpose.

I know that there are many that deal with depression...my heart goes out to you. If you are having a hard time coping, I hope you will seek help. I've experianced situational depression but not clinical. My hopes are for everyone to be able to experiance an improved quality of life.

Take Care, my friends yeah

Hugs, Robin

 

Posted 9/16/2012 4:38 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Robin. I needed to read this today. I am having kind of a hard day and cannot control my thoughts. This is just what I needed to read today. Thank you again.

I have to practice having a positive attitude too. Most of the time I do. It really makes a difference in life and how I feel. You just reinforced that for me. You made my day better. I bet you didn't even know how much you could help somebody with this post. Though I am sure you were hoping that you would. And you did. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Have a fantabulous day today Robin!!!

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 9/16/2012 4:42 PM (GMT 0)
I'll have to disagree.

I tend to apply more realistic thinking. I'm a competitive badminton player. I play numerous matches where the opposition is tough. I don't go in those matches with the mentality that I'm going to win.

I'm going in with the mentality of doing my best with the situation.

Positive thinking is a mirage for people dealing with difficult situations.

I have U.C. I don't think, I'm going to get better. I think, I'm going to try to get better.

A glass is neither half full or half empty. It's filled to the middle really.
Posted 9/16/2012 5:27 PM (GMT 0)
Wow, somedude, interesting perspective.

I'll put in this way, when I'm experiencing a flare life can be very difficult for me and I remind myself "tomorrow will be better."

When I'm not in a flare, which I try my darnest not to be, I make the best of things and count my blessings.

I don't have depression but there was a time of great physical and emotional pain that I experienced situational depression.

Good thread, Robin.
Posted 9/16/2012 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, I find every day I have to make a fresh start, with a firm purpose of making it a good day. As others have said, we have to make the best of things and count our blessings.

I take phone calls for our church prayer chain. I can be having a painful day when all seems wrong, then I get a call about someone in much worse shape than me. It humbles me and shakes me back to reality, and I have to say 'thanks, Lord, for that little reminder. Things really could be so much worse.'

Great post, Robin!
Posted 9/16/2012 7:16 PM (GMT 0)
We get to chose the lens through which we see the world. The reality of things cannot be changed, but how we perceive these events are choice.
Posted 9/16/2012 11:02 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for your input...I enjoyed reading your replies.

I think it is posible to be a positive realist. A person can face everyday challenges, not being in denial but head on with a positive attitude. A positive attitude won't magically cure illnesses or change tramatic events...it will help you cope better. Life's obstacles are learning experiances...dealing with them in a positive way produces better results for me.

I wish you all well :)

Hugs, Robin
Posted 9/17/2012 9:32 AM (GMT 0)
Something to keep in mind, a way to help ourselves in how we feel from day to day is to exercise for example a gentle walk outdoors. They say that exercise is the best remedy for depression.

Another way to help yourself to feel more positively is to eat the right foods and drink the right things. There are foods and drinks that brighten your mood and foods and drinks that dampen your mood.

http://www.webmd.com/food-recipes/features/how-food-affects-your-moods

 

Posted 9/17/2012 3:38 PM (GMT 0)
What Robin has written is right on the money.  There have been studies and proof as to how a positive attitude helps with your health, your immune system, depression, etc.  I'm starting a new post with links to prove it.  I don't want it to get lost in this post. 

 

This is a great post, Robin.  I hope it gets people thinking, too!  You are happier, have less stress, and less misery if you think positively.  We both know this to be true, don't we!  smilewinkgrin

 

Sherrine

Posted 9/20/2012 4:36 AM (GMT 0)
Hello everyone I am new here I posted one time before.
I find staying up beat helps a lot but when everyone around you thinks your making up your symptoms or that your pain is not that bad because you still manage to keep your house clean or get certain things done then you must be OK. I have a lot of people tell me stories of the person know who have way worst problems then me and still go to work everyday on a bus. I am like good to hear they can still have a happy life but that does not mean my symptoms and pain is any less of what it is. My Sister told me one time that a lot of my pain was in my head. I think with everything I have to deal with I stay focused on the positive and that is what gets me out of bed everyday pain or not to get done what I need to. I feel like people know nothing about what Fibro is capable of until they have it. I have to suffer in silence to remain positive. I think if you surround yourself with positive people that changes everything. Thanks for listening.
Posted 9/20/2012 5:39 PM (GMT 0)
A wonderful chiropractor - had a human practice, but then switched over to animals, shared with me his thoughts and I LOVE this. He told me to picture my thoughts as if it were a stage, where I was in charge of everything that happened on that stage. If you have a negative thought, think of it as a person or an object, picture it on your stage and then KICK it right off your stage! I know it sounds kind of dorky, but dang, it does help me! I have a tendency to let my thoughts run and they usually end up going in the wrong direction, all negative, but when I stop and do this, I can turn them around! Hope this helps someone
Miriam
Posted 9/20/2012 10:41 PM (GMT 0)
I just tell my negative voice to "Shut Up!"
Posted 9/21/2012 1:03 AM (GMT 0)
We all know the pain is real...for those who don't believe, it's on them, not us...all we can do is try to educate...if they aren't willing to listen...we still need to do what we can for ourselves. Negative thoughts only make it more difficult to cope. I spend lots of time trying to convince myself I'm strong and that I will be OK and most of the time I actually believe it and feel better as a result.

Our sympathetic nervous system can be activated by negative thoughts...the same way stress will...releasing adrenaline and cortisol in our bloodstream...it is just easier to function when you believe there are better days ahead.

Thanks again for sharing your thoughts :)

Hugs, Robin
Posted 9/21/2012 3:55 AM (GMT 0)
CrazyKitty > Our sympathetic nervous system can be activated by negative thoughts...the same way stress will...releasing adrenaline and cortisol in our bloodstream...it is just easier to function when you believe there are better days ahead. <

Totally agree.

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Now, Somedude.... Interesting response.

But what interests me more, is that
1) you are one of the few other males that post here (with Fibro, I assume ?}
2) you speak of playing badminton matches (a very physical sport) ?
3) you say whatever your thinking, regardless of what anybody else thinks :) LOL

Anyway, yea' I hear you about those UC. This is why I choose to say I have put my Fibro in 90-95% remission, and my IBS into complete remission. Not trying to tell anybody I've beat these diseases. They are just completely out of my way now.

Peace,
Fish
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