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Posted 10/2/2012 5:10 PM (GMT 0)
So the other day I posted about how good I was feeling, Yesterday I felt awful and today it's not to bad pain wise, I'm still struggling a littel bit with being tired. But I have another concern that I'm a littel embarrased about and could use some advice. I have no sex drive and have no idea why. I am on the Depo Provera shot for birth control but I have been on that before and I don't remember feeling like this. I love my husband dearly and we have been married for 21 years going on 22. He has been very patient, but this is a long streatch this time. I am still attracted to him but absolutely nothing turns me on at all. There is no feeling of sensuality. I have no drive. I don't know what is causing it and what I can do about it. I know I need to talk to my Dr but I really am afraid of being put on any more pills. I'm on enough as it is. I am very frustrated with myself. And I feel so bad for my husband I don't know if there are things I can do in the mean time untill I can see my Dr but whatever advice you may have I will gladly take. blush
Posted 10/2/2012 6:57 PM (GMT 0)
I know what you are talking about. Dh and i have been married 30 yrs this December. I think some of the problem is apprehension. If you are like me, a lot of times you hurt when you do physical things. Moving a different way can make me hurt the next day and pretty bad pain at that. I have said this many times on here. A person with fibro makes decisions every day. Is doing xyz with 123 today, more than important doing abc with 789 2 days from now? Dh and i talk (and get aggravated) about this issue a lot. Sometimes i just do not feel like doing anything, other times i might want to in my heart, but not my body. Does that make sense? I have told dh that my heart is always willing, the rest of my body is "forget it, or i will make you suffer for your pleasure". Make sure your dh knows this. You are not rejecting him. You are rejecting the pain.

Talking about the problem is part of the battle. Of course some meds may be the cause, and i am sure others on here may know more about this than me. As i had this problem before the meds i am on now, i doubt that is my whole problem.

Posted 10/2/2012 8:56 PM (GMT 0)
I don't know what meds you are on since you don't have them in your signature, but I can tell you that antidepressants are a mood killer for sure! I've had no sex drive for awhile and I just turned 22, so it's not just you! It could be performance anxiety that you are feeling. You are so caught up in trying to feel what you did before that you get all worked up can't. Being frank with your partner is important. I let my fiancé know that when we have sex, I may not be aroused at all but that isn't his fault. He knows about the side effects of my medication and why it is so important that I take them. It does change a relationship, but it sounds like you two are committed and can get through it!
Posted 10/2/2012 10:38 PM (GMT 0)
I wondered about the medications, I'm on celexa, clonzapam, morphine and amitriptylin and a muscle relaxer
Posted 10/4/2012 10:44 PM (GMT 0)
Just about everyone of those can have an effect on libido.
Posted 10/5/2012 1:02 AM (GMT 0)
I am 55 years old and been married 24 years.  I also have no sex drive and it is like I am dead in that area, nothing arouses me.  So my husband and I cuddle, hug, talk and try to make the best of it.  I have tried different meds, progesterone cream, lubricants, nothing works.  So no answers here, just letting you know I am in the same boat.
Posted 10/6/2012 5:53 AM (GMT 0)
Same here. I was on celexa and it killed my sex drive too. It also made me sweat so much I felt like I was going through the change and I'm only 29! In my case I also have pretty severe "pelvic pain" which makes it extremely painful therefore I have no desire to go through the pain. It is embarrassing to talk to doctors about and I brought it up for years and was always told, "oh, it's psychological. Just keep taking your depression meds" this was before the diagnosis of fibro of course. I also take amitriptyline which does not seem to kill my sex drive but it has made the pelvic pain way better and I had tried many things beforehand and nothing else worked.
Posted 10/8/2012 5:20 AM (GMT 0)
I understand too. Have you thought about thyroid or had it checked recently. Mine was off recently, so was thinkin that might be what turned my "engine" off :) Maybe it is just another Fibro gremlin ...
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