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Posted 10/15/2012 6:11 PM (GMT 0)
I feel awful today, I felt really bad yesterday too, but today is worse and I had to call into work. Iam the only one working in the house and I know my family is counting on me. I feel so guilty about calling in but I hurt so bad and am nausious. I am not trying feel sorry for myself, however this is what I hate the most about fibro. I unfortunately have a job that causes enough pain as it is, so to wake up feeling so much pain, I knew I wouldn't make it. I like to feel like I am a very strong person and can make it through just about anything.  Fibro is kicking my butt today. I feel weak and lost and guilty. I am so glad that I have this forum to beable to talk about my feelings. I have a chronic back problem after I broke it and I have chronic allergies and it just seemed  like today they all hit at once. My work doesn't know that I have fibro and this is the first time I have had to call in. I don't know if I should let them know or just keep it to myself. I prayed last night that I would feel better today. Because I knew I had to work this evening. But I feel worse than yesterday. I'm trying to keep positive but am finding it very difficult. All I want to do is cry! cry
Posted 10/15/2012 8:47 PM (GMT 0)
I go through stages where i feel so guilty so much. I went through it just yesterday. I had to quit my job in April. I have several health issues that combined, i could not do it any more. I worked in a call center. I only worked 6 hrs a day, 5 days a week, but it was enough to pay our mobile home payments each month. Combined with dh's pay we were doing pretty good. Now, i feel like the financial situation is all my fault. I guess it is normal to feel this way at times. My dad told me if he EVER heard me say i felt quilty again for getting sick, he was gonna tan my hide. Keep in mind, I am 48 years old.

Once I found out about my fibro, i told my supervisors so they knew why i missed so much work. They were wonderful. They bent over backwards to help me. It depends on how your company is on whether to tell them.

Posted 10/15/2012 8:58 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry to hear about you having to quit your job. I always wonder if It's going to get to that point with me. I know that it would probably make sense to tell my supervisor what is going on. and can only hope that they will be understanding about it. I just feel like people really don't understand the amount of pain and other issues that fibro causes when having a flare up. I can explain untill I'm blue in the face and they just look at me with a blank stare. I apprichiate your response it's nice to know that others go through feeling guilty. Not saying that I would want people to feel that way. but It's nice to not feel like your the only one. I hope for you the very best and thank you again!!!
Posted 10/15/2012 9:20 PM (GMT 0)
Try not to feel guilty, and take life one day at a time. Who knows, tomorrow you might feel better. I hope that you do. It is hard when there is a lot depending on how we feel from one day to the next. But take it as it comes, one step at a time.

Best wishes Lisa...

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/15/2012 11:00 PM (GMT 0)
I feel guilty seeing my husband leave for work early in the morning for a long day. I'm doing what I can at home, and I know he knows that, but it still makes me feel bad. I guess we just do the best we can.
Posted 10/15/2012 11:33 PM (GMT 0)
That is all you can do Luvzminis,

Do the best that you can and know in your heart that you have tried. Never feel guilty for the things that you can't do anymore.

Hugs, Karen
Posted 10/15/2012 11:52 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry that you're having a hard time, sometimes this condition can be so overwhelming.

I can relate a lot to the guilt, as I'm sure everyone here can. Its tough when you can't get through the things you want and need to do.

I've had to take days off work and even walk out of lectures because of overwhelming pain... I almost broke down in tears when my professor made a snarky comment about my leaving suddenly. Its so hard for people to understand.

What I try to do is tell myself that I can only do the best that I can do. And if that means needing some time to rest, or taking a day off, or needing an extension on an assignment, so be it. We aren't super-human. Even healthy people reach their limit.

We go through a lot already, there's no need in stressing over things we can't change.

I hope you start feeling better soon!
Posted 10/16/2012 1:15 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you, Karen. I did need to hear that. Hugs to you, too.
Posted 10/16/2012 1:52 AM (GMT 0)
You shouldn't feel guilty. You need to take care of yourself or you might get worse. I hope you feel better soon :)
Posted 10/16/2012 6:18 AM (GMT 0)
Lisa- I hope you have support at home? Sometimes getting some rest makes a world of differnce. I got where I couldn't work anymore myself. I was on my death bed before ending my job. It has been the best thing that happen to me. I know your not in that position to stop work. So look around and see if you can make anything easier in life. The more simple I keep my life the healthier I get. It's a hard call to let your employer know about your health problems. If your not calling in much, I wouldn't mention it. My employer went digging on their on to find out what wrong with me.
I hope you feel better.
Posted 10/16/2012 6:28 AM (GMT 0)
Angel, isnt that illegal? for your employer to look into your medical information...
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