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Posted 3/7/2013 9:36 AM (GMT 0)
Do you feel more emotionally vulnerable during a flare?

Lately, my coping ability is waning. Maybe, it is due to pushing myself too much. My sister is here visiting since last Saturday and I've been busy...much busier than usual...a flare finally caught up to me. Why do I still think, I can pull one over on Fibro? smhair

Next week I go in for a CT scan checking for cancer recurrence, routine pulmonary function testing and a visit with my pulmonologist. This flare I'm in is making me feel especially emotional. I'm really trying to just focus on having an attitude of grattitude. I try to remember, each day is a gift.

It is great to have my sister here. She will be leaving on Saturday and she will be missed. yeah   My daughter's family will be here in a few weeks.

Hope, I can get it together. :-)    Thank You for letting me vent.

Hugs, Robin

Posted 3/7/2013 2:36 PM (GMT 0)
What a great question! I've never really thought about it before.

Just a guess, but I think a flare can knock us down in many ways, and yes--I think we could be more emotionally vulnerable during a flare.

Elsewhere on this forum, I told about a recent unpleasant experience with sibs that I won't detail here. Since that happened, especially a day or two ago, I have been in a flare (neck/back) and emotionally, I felt very upset and disappointed with my sibs, to the point of contacting them and chewing them out for the misery they caused.
Because I know it won't do any good, though, I didn't follow through. But--yes--I did find that not only that ugly incident bothered me, but several other issues going on in my life.

 I've been pushing myself too much, too, but yesterday I found myself sort of wandering aimlessly, unable to get anything done except the very basics. I thought about it last night, and I wonder if I'm not in 'shock' from what transpired recently. I was just appalled by the way I had been treated, and I didn't deserve it at all.  Funny how the guilty party so often gets off scott-free, while the innocent pay the price.  That's just wrong.


  It's kind of a frustrating feeling, because I'm trying to get several things accomplished, and not only is my fibro in the way, but my emotions are all over the map; I feel blackmailed, for one thing.  

  The good news is that today does seem somewhat better so far, though. I guess time does heal! I hope the rest of the day it continues to improve and I can start feeling more like myself.

So, I think it's true. Robin, I'll pray that your doctor visits all go well. You sound like you have an exceptional attitude! God bless you and hugs. Enjoy this beautiful day.

Posted 3/7/2013 4:01 PM (GMT 0)
Often.

We only have so much energy. When that energy is diverted to staying upright and trying to track and trying to get through, well....

Thoughts for the upcoming tests!
Posted 3/7/2013 5:51 PM (GMT 0)
I've felt that when I'm in pain I get more sensitive in my emotions. I can blow up, cry, or sulk so much more easily during those times.

It's just "the straw that broke the camel's back" for me.
Posted 3/7/2013 7:30 PM (GMT 0)

Robin,

I absolutely think that I am more emotional during a flare.  I strongly believe that the amount of pain we tolerate during a flare is so beyond what our bodies can handle.  I think a lot of energy is spent just trying to keep us going which exhausts us.  As we all know, being exhausted always makes everything worse.  I also believe we try to fight our flares which takes even more out of us.  I have found if I just give into it and let the Fibro do what it is going to do anyway then the flare isn't as bad and isn't as long.  Of course I can hardly ever convince myself to just let the Fibro do its thing.

I believe that the best release for a bad flare is a good cry.  So often we fight back the tears and sobbing and therefore everything else that piles on top of it makes us so close to breaking down.  I know that if I have a long flare or an especially bad one at an especially bad time I can get very nasty.  Like Joy I will blow up over the littlest things and am extra sensative.  I think it should be a requirement during flares to be quarantined for everyone else's sake :)  When I was first diagnosed I used to "hide" from the world until I could play nice again :)

I hope your flare is short and not too bad and that you can enjoy the rest of your visit with your sister.  I also hope all your tests go well!

Posted 3/8/2013 2:08 AM (GMT 0)
I think we all need T-shirts that say "Warning, In a Flare, Handle with Care". :)
Posted 3/8/2013 11:01 PM (GMT 0)
I get angrier or maybe just more on edge.
Posted 3/9/2013 5:12 AM (GMT 0)
Yes, very much so. I am also more apt to worry and fear, especially concerning my body. I feel like nothing will ever get better, everything's going downhill, etc. etc.

Will be thinking of you, Robin, next week. Here's to a great report! I hope you recuperate enough to enjoy the rest of your time with your sister.

Debbie
Posted 3/9/2013 4:54 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with everyone else. I've been in a flare all week and I know that it doesn't take much to have me overwhelmed or upset.

It also seems to intensify my depression, anxiety, and eyebrow pulling ( that has some name but I do it when I'm stressed out). My husband learned to not push on any of my tics and not to tease me about certain things.
Posted 3/9/2013 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, Robin.  When you are perking along and the...BAM...it does affect you emotionally.  It's easy to give yourself a pity party.  I know I do occasionally but they don't last long because they are very lonely parties.  smilewinkgrin

 

Look, you also have a lot on your mind with the testing coming up.  It would be easy for me to say don't worry about it but I would be concerned and that would be in the background of my thinking until I got the "all's clear" results.  That's just being human.  That worry adds to your emotional being, too.  You have soooo much on your plate and you are truly an amazing woman.  I do think you handle everything beautifully!

 

Do feel better soon.  A good cry in the shower does wonders!  Remember....your eyes are red because you got soap in them.  devil

 

Sherrine

Posted 3/9/2013 11:32 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you my friends for listening, understanding and caring.

You all are dealing with your own set of difficult circumstances, and I admire your strength.

My sister left this afternoon to go back to Wisconsin. We had a great time together. I think she has gained some insight about my conditions. In the past, it was difficult for her to understand why I was so exhausted when I didn't work a ten hour day like she did and had so many more responsibilities. I believe she thought I was spoiled. She knows now that I'm not the sister of once upon a time. When I go back to visit family, I have a limited time to spend with differant family members and I try my best to keep smiling and say I'm doing fine.

All flares eventually end and I'm hoping this one will end soon. I'm feeling much better emotionally and keep adding to my grattitude list...for sure this forum ranks high on the list.

Thanks, again :)

hugs, Robin
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