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Posted 4/29/2015 10:08 PM (GMT 0)
My pain management doctor is constantly telling at me about my weight and smoking habits... He acts like my weight is why I have fibromyalgia. I have been the same weight for the last 21 years. I'm not extremely overweight but yes about 80lbs over my ideal weight. OK so question can weight cause fibro? My regular doctor, the one who diagnosed me said it was hereditary.
Posted 4/29/2015 10:23 PM (GMT 0)
No weight can NOT cause fibro, it sounds like your PM doctor is nothing but a big bully. I'm sorry he treats you like that. I'm over weight myself and although my doctor tells me to work on losing it, she doesn't make me feel bad about it in anyway. I'm not gaining weight and that she is happy about, and when I do lose a few pounds she is my biggest cheer leader.

No doctor should disrespect their patients, its uncalled for and I'm sorry you have a jerk for a doctor.
Posted 4/29/2015 10:27 PM (GMT 0)
Weight can aggravate fibro, but cannot cause fibro. Are you sure he did not say that the weight might be adding to the pain? That's a very different thing.

Smoking cannot cause fibro either.

It's like anything else. The healthier you treat your body, the better your body will work. When your body is compromised by a medical condition, it works at less than optimal output. Excess weight and smoke in the lungs are not healthy indicators of body efficiency.
Posted 4/29/2015 11:12 PM (GMT 0)
weight and smoking can definitely impact chronic pain (in a bad way) but they don't cause it. Even if they did, if a doctor yelled at me I'd be out the door finding a new dr in a heart beat. They have no right to mistreat patients and can only do so if we allow them to.
Posted 4/30/2015 12:56 AM (GMT 0)
No he calls me an over eater... I've explained to him that I'm an under eater.... He doesn't believe me not my family. I can no longer take my son not my husband with me to appointments because the want to hit him.... Also to make him quit yelling I t told the secretary that if he tells at me I am requesting a new doctor... But all it does is stop the actual yelling.
Posted 4/30/2015 1:53 AM (GMT 0)
Finding drs who accept and treat our pain is sometimes tricky. Then there the meds we know work for us and the drs who get hung up on what they feel is the only treatment. Depending on where you live this pool of drs and insurance acceptance by said drs, may be small.
Having stated this, I too feel positive support that allows for self awareness and advocacy, with a side of respect and cooperation of your drs belief system, is best.
I am so sorry he yells! Can you begin a search for a new dr?
Blessings
Posted 4/30/2015 2:44 AM (GMT 0)
It is very hard to maintain our weight when we are in pain and cannot stay as active as all of us would like...not to mention that many with fibro also have other health issues..

You deserve to be treated with respect. I think our drs. Can discuss any topic with us, but certainly yelling at a patient is detrimental . You need to find another dr. If possible, but also tell him that yelling is unprofessional and you expect better.
Posted 4/30/2015 11:29 AM (GMT 0)
There is no excuse for anyone to yell at you. They do because you let the . I would get another doctor asap. It's hard enough living with chronic pain without having a doctor who is a chronic pain.

Sherrine
Posted 4/30/2015 2:24 PM (GMT 0)
That is 100% not acceptable. Find a new doctor -- stop threatening it, just do it. You're literally wasting your own time trying to make this relationship work when it sounds like he's just a loose canon that can't be professional. Move on.

Smoking can cause significantly more pain. Think of it like this: your body knows when it's not at homeostasis, your veins especially. When they get too small from smoking, they start screaming for help. This screaming signal then tells your brain that something is wrong and it produces more pain signals. Do yourself a favor and try the patch. Or gum. Do what you can to ensure your veins can expand to their normal size so that your body gets all the oxygen it needs.

Weight: that's something I just recently started having issues with. If you're under eating then you might have tweaked your metabolism. Eat six small meals a day.
Posted 4/30/2015 2:50 PM (GMT 0)
You don't need the extra stress, you should try to find another doc.
Posted 4/30/2015 3:40 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you all I am actively searching for a new doctor.
Posted 4/30/2015 5:35 PM (GMT 0)
So glad to read that you are searching for a new Doctor. I have had some very uncaring Doctors but not any that yelled at me. Doctors take an oath of office and commit themselves to helping patients. You are the one in charge. They are the ones making a living by helping people. I am not in the U.S. We do have tools online to write reviews about Doctors. If they are not deserving of a good review, they will not get one.

I, too, need to lose weight. I have just started a Thyroid medication as I have an underactive Thyroid. Time will tell if I can lose some weight. I, of course, must cut down how much I eat and eat healthy. It is hard for us to keep super active as it does not take much to put yourself in pain.

I have a son who smokes. Neither I nor my Husband have ever smoked. It does take quite a toll on your body. Whenever he gets sick I remind him of all the toxins he is putting into his body when smoking. I have told him millions of times to quit smoking. It is a hard habit to quit. I wish you much success if you try to break the habit. Your Doctor should have provided you with ways to quit, instead of yelling.

Take care.

Loring

Osteoarthritis in Multiple Joints, Fibromyalgia, Neuralgia, Chronic Daily Headaches, I.B., Hard of Hearing...

Post Edited (Loring) : 4/30/2015 11:38:10 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 5/1/2015 4:58 AM (GMT 0)
I agree with AnnaBanana about getting a new doc immediately.

Question: How the heck is anyone supposed to lose weight with this illness?

My pain is so bad that I'm exercise intolerant. I weighed about 130 lbs before fibro ruined me. Taking Lyrica has helped with pain but made me gain about 50 lbs!! I am now an extra-large in clothing. Thankfully my doctor is fantastic. He is so understanding and sympathetic. I always feel emotionally better after seeing him.

Everyone should have medical support that helps not honders the management of this illness. Please keep us posted on your progress to find a new doc.
Posted 5/2/2015 10:40 PM (GMT 0)
I understand, last year I was walking two miles a day, this year I can barely do one. The weight thing is hard because I don't know why I have kept it on for 21 years. I was very active and I still try to be active. But the pain feels like I broke my hip and has been this way for a month. Usually I hurt in that buttox straight down to my knee but this pain is worse. I even got an x- ray to check it. But nothing is wrong. It's hard but those Dr sholls the fifty dollar ones help a little.
Posted 5/3/2015 7:25 AM (GMT 0)
If you have pain from your buttocks down to your knee I wonder if your sciatic nerve is being aggravated. I've have sciatica as a result of a fibro flare and it's painful! It may not show up on an xray but could be worth checking into.
Posted 5/3/2015 7:52 AM (GMT 0)
There's a site called Health grades where you can grade your doctor. I have used it a lot in my searches over the last year or two. I really appreciate the people who put in clear descriptions of exactly what wasn't working. You will definitely help the next person by doing so.

Just a thought if you are willing. I am glad to hear that you are looking for a new doctor. They don't have to be personable, but civility and manners are not a lot to ask.

Take care of yourself.
Posted 5/4/2015 2:56 AM (GMT 0)
Weight can be a problem if you have arthritis under / along/ in addition to; however has he tried to help you I any way? I think that your weight probably not the MAIN issue. My mother has always been " heavy" no matter what she did ... I think some bodies just are the way they are period. This doctor is an a**. And I'm MY own experience STRESS is the problem. And smoking ugh! The more they say to quit the more I want to smoke. I know it's not the right stress management but when things get dicey or even at an unusual high nicotine evens me out. I have tried guilting myself into Quiting to no result. There is a study at the university hospital here not on how can we make them quit but why do they smoke ? I think they are barking up the right tree. Find a new doctor because comments about weight are unacceptable in my book. I hated what my mother went through. It's wrong to blame weight on all health issues. It's not optimal but treat the person and you'll get to the issue. I hope the best for you.

Post Edited (Pain$herlock) : 5/3/2015 8:59:07 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 5/4/2015 4:53 AM (GMT 0)
This is my crusade since being diagnosed with fibro, do not let a doctor blame you for having this! I to have been yelled at by a doctor. I never went back and my only regret is I was in so much pain when I went I was laying my head against the wall as I sat there while she yelled and I did nothing. I must have gone through 20 doctors before I found my doctor I have had for the last ten years. There are good docs out there so keep looking! You pay them! When a doctor acts this way to a sick person they do not deserve to be called a doctor! shakehead
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