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Posted 10/9/2015 4:24 PM (GMT 0)
I was cooking a lunch just now that needed a lot of prep work. My husband usually helps me with the cooking, but something came up.

It brought back memories of dealing with an ex husband who couldn't understand fibromyalgia and physical limitations. He is the sort who is not able to empathize.

I'm blessed that the husband I have now is very understanding and supportive. I guess I'm going to have to be more mindful of what meals I can and can't cook on my own.

By the way, my leg muscles became weak, I had to sit down, and I was trembling.

More than likely both my fibromyalgia and my PTSD contributed to this. Can anyone relate?

Thanks!
Posted 10/9/2015 6:47 PM (GMT 0)
If I overdo stuff I get shaky and weak.

This stuff stinks. You have to be so mindful of everything so you don't get flares. It upsets me when I flare up like that.
Posted 10/9/2015 6:51 PM (GMT 0)
Yes we can easily get overwhelmed, sometimes our bodies just let us down...during a flare i am slow as molasses..

When i am like that i pace my work out ..do some prep and sit a while, and then go back to it..

Things take longer at those times, but they still get done : )

Lj
Posted 10/9/2015 9:25 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for your replies, Joy and Ljm.

Mine didn't turn into a flare, thanks for reminding me of that. Incidents like that use to turn into flares more easily for me. I sat down for a while and I was fine. It didn't turn to increased pain. The increased pain incidents are less likely to happen for me now.

But I know if I would have to push myself too much I would have more incidents of increased pain.

I'm grateful for that.
Posted 10/12/2015 6:35 PM (GMT 0)
This has been the hardest adjustment for me! I am a go full speed until the job is done kind of person and I just cannot do that anymore. It does get overwhelming so then I just don't want to do anything. So glad it did not develop into a full flare and that you have a great husband :)
Posted 10/13/2015 3:05 PM (GMT 0)
I get easily overwhelmed just thinking about what I have to do.

Things are different now that I live with my parents. I too love to cook and I can make a grand mess! In my own place, I'd often make the mess, eat, and finish cleaning (pacing) up hours later or even the next day. Now that I'm using my moms kitchen, I really can't get away with that. Now I'm not cooking many of my favorite healthy concoctions from messy scratch anymore due to that.

I'm debating whether I should look for subsidized housing, but not sure if it's worth it. I'm overwhelmed with all these changes.

T
Posted 10/13/2015 5:40 PM (GMT 0)
I loved to cook, baking was my happy time! My husband is the BEST when it comes to helping & understanding. I have learned to accept help after cooking a few x's & was so weak sweating moody, down & out for hours, then FLARE. I hope things get better for you.
Posted 10/13/2015 9:32 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Mel, tango, and pepper for your replies and well-wishes.

Mel, yes, it's hard to slow down sometimes but with practice after all these years for me, it has become easier.

Tango, what I like to do in attempting to make overwhelming decisions is to be proactive and look into options to see where you should go. Good luck.

Pepper, I'm so glad you have a great husband. When I get frustrated about for example not being able to do what I use to do, I try to turn it around to the positive.
Posted 10/14/2015 1:05 PM (GMT 0)
Yes! Sometimes I get overwhelmed just trying to figure out how to make a sandwich. Then I get frustrated with myself, which I'm sure doesn't help.
Posted 10/15/2015 1:36 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, itoshlineko, it's nice to meet you.

I've had to learn the hard way over these years of having fibromyalgia that I can't get frustrated with myself--it only makes things worse for me. (I know easier said than done.)

We have to take care of ourselves the best we can possibly can so we're less likely to become frustrated with ourselves through things like exercise, being out in nature, having a special person or people to talk to about our issues, trying not to overdo, performing daily stretches, and eating nutritiously. With the latter, I notice I become more moody and experience more pain and discomfort if I eat something that isn't healthy.
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