Hitting the Wall

Hi asides: I'm certainly no expert at all on this. In fact, I'm still working on finding solutions to my fibro-related problems. But, one thing I've done is to scale back, either a little or a lot, when it comes to things I 'used to do.'

For example, maybe next time you want to get together with a friend, you could drive only a half hour and your friend could drive a bit further. Or, you could do some shopping or see a movie at the half-hour point, if that's possible.

Is there an antique shop or hobby store or ?? store between your home and your friend's? Any new place to check out for a short time?

Also, it helps to cut back on the time spent together so you don't get too tired or achy. Maybe "just" have lunch together somewhere or "just" see a movie, then head back home. If it's a good friend, I'd guess she'd understand (though not every friend does, as you've likely seen).

I've been burned a few times too, like you, when I overdid something, trying to be 'nice' and I hung in there a little too long, paying for it later. It's not worth it. Simplifying life seems to be a key component to dealing with fibro, in many ways.

Hope this helps a bit. Best wishes and I hope your pain and exhaustion exits soon!

Ohhhh,

I have had those flares on trips...after a long day trapped on a plane, and with weather systems rolling through...i felt like i should be ina hospital....but i survived...since then i have made my trips shorter...less demanding..

I keep hoping i will feel more like traveling greater distances again, but so many things can bring on a flare...that i am not sure..

Trying to pare it back and make it more managable sounds like a good start..

Lj

You need too learn too say no
You have things you need too do for you not moving a refrigerator

It's difficult to get it right and sometimes you have no choice. I am going to a mass for my father in law tomorrow, a 150 mile drive each way, to mark the first anniversary of his death. It's 4am and I have to be up in 3 hours. I am not able for it but I will go because I know my husband would really like me to be there. I will pay the price though.

I have fibro for 2 years now and have learned that there is always a price to pay for overdoing it so I don't most of the time. Taking my time with tasks that really have to be done is my way of coping. First though you must ask yourself what really needs to be done and what is an unnecessary waste of your limited energy reserves.

Unfortunately others may not agreed with your idea of necessary tasks but if you stick to your plan they will eventually get used to the new setup. Take advantage of any help offered. You will get used to not being able to keep up former standards. Be good to yourself. Accept your new self. I hope this is of some help. Best of luck. Neenaa.