Anyone have problems with motivation???

I don't expect much from myself during the summer that is the time I spend with my grandchildren and that is the most important thing. I did have more pain this summer than normal also.

 

Well it is now Oct and I have a million things I need to be working on but I just can't get motivated. My mind is willing but not the body. I don't know if it is the energy problem or what. Maybe my body is rebelling cause it doesn't want to use what energy it has on some of this stuff.

 

I use to be so motivated and never had a problem getting going on projects.

 

Is this just me or does anyone else have problems with motivation???

 

It's not inspiration I have plenty of that.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

I always have a problem with motivation but I don't give in to it.  I can be sitting and thinking about what I need to get done but I won't budge.  That's why I make a goal for the day.  Just a little one.  Even then I sometimes have to say, "At the count of three, I'm getting up and get started."  Then I do it.  I usually feel better at accomplishing something...even a small something...and I sometimes will do a little more and then I'm done for the day. 

 

When you are older like we are, it's really easy to procrastinate because we don't have to answer to anyone but ourselves.  That's a problem, though because we feel badly that we didn't do anything.  Is this making any sense, Marlee?  I'm babbling like Kelly!  Anyway, try making a goal for your day.  Do it the night before and then stick with it.  Only do a little goal at first to see how your fatigue and pain are.  If you get that done, start something else.  If you get tired and don't want to finish it, then that's your goal for tomorrow. 

 

Don't be so hard on yourself.  I'm a perfectionist like you are and I've had to let go of a lot of things.  My home is not as clean as I used to be able to keep it but it looks far better than some of my healthy friends' homes.  Plus, no one has called out the Board of Health yet! 

 

The weather is heading south in your area so, if I were  you, my goals would be to do things outdoors...even fun things.  The house stuff will be there and you have all winter to work on that.

 

Sherrine

Who are you calling old??? It couldn't be me. I have so become the opposite of what I use to be. In some ways it's nice to not be so self driven and a perfectionist but there has to be a happy medium somewhere. I didn't sleep well last night and it is raining today which doesn't help. This is the only day this week I have to clean and oldest GD is bringing BF this weekend. If he is going to hang around he might as well get use to it. She doesn't have time to clean with work and school. A couple of years ago I would have been mortified if someone seen my house not perfect.

 

I have gotten a little done today. I need to run a couple of errands good excuse to quit.

 

Meggie, we did not put a basement in this house since I was the only one that ever cleaned a basement in all the houses we had that had one. So now everything goes to the attic or garage and don't get me started about the garage.
No one had ever cleaned a garage til we moved here but me. So basically it has never really been cleaned. My sons and grandchildren think it is a dumping ground for stuff they don't have room for. There is a hundred year old pie hutch sitting out there that is about to have a price tag put on it. It was suppose to be here for two weeks almost a year ago.

 

I'm glad I'm not the only one that has a hard time getting going. But I must get moving.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

OK found a new country station and got Tim McGraw cranked up so music does help with motivation and as I was writing this post I got a call from my daughter informing me that my grandson will be dropped off here in 45 minutes cause he is now in the nurses office sick so now I have to bring him over to my moms and then go meet Barb and then go meet the school bus for the other 2 kids at 4pm after their mom leaves to take the baby to therapy and then all back to my moms and hopefully we dont all get the flu!!!!!!!!!!!!! nice of her to even ask though Jake needed a place to go since Barb had a bus set up to bring her to town in a lil while but dang it. Never fails when the kids get sick i am exposed to them and then get it and I only had my flu shot a few days ago so no protection yet. Oh well the sun is shining here and it was supposed to rain so I am going to go out and try to enjoy the day just in case i do end up sick. And I better get those decorations out later tonight too. When the house is all lit up for holidays that really makes me feel better and its and excuse to have to get the house cleaned up or no place for the decorations. Hope everyone gets outta thier funk. Sending you all good vibes for now.

Hugs'
Karen

I've always had problems with motivation. I think this is due to my depression, but I'm sure fibro plays a big part in it since I'm so tired and achy all the time.

One of my hobbies is writing, and I get muses that constantly give me story ideas, but it's really hard to get myself to actually sit down and write anything. I swear I had one muse in my head that kept showing me the same scenes over and over again for months before I finally broke down and started writing the story.

I think most of the time I'm just feeling so out of it that I'd rather do something that doesn't really require any effort like watching tv.

Wow!!!  I am supposed to be replying to make Marlee feel better...then I read Sherrine's reply. I feel soooooooooooooo much better. Reading all these replies..you hit the nail on the head, I'm not a nail...just feel like one sometimes

 

And dont forget Jeannie reminded us all..it's flu shot time..that's another chore I usually put off..but doing it this weekend

This is our thanksgiving coming up on the weekend...it is supposed to be very warm and sunny!!    What a wonderul surprise!

So..I am going to do what was posted here...forget the house chores (well..the major ones anyway) for now..and enjoy the out doors!!

 

I hope you feel much better Marlee

I sure have the same motivational trouble.  I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one. 

 

My dh and I have bought his homeplace and we've been fixing it up to rent out.  We've spent a lot of time the past year getting it ready.  It's been a long, hard job. 

 

In meantime I've let my own house go because I'm always so tired.  When Fall break came this year I was so tired that I really didn't feel like cleaning my own house or the rental one neither.

 

I have good intentions and when I get up in the mornings I think what all I need to do.  I think it overwhelms me and I end up not getting much accomplished. 

 

Oh well, it will be there tomorrow so why worry about it.  I still have Scarlett O'hara's attitude, that I'll worry about that tomorrow.  Sometimes that drives my dh up the wall though.

 

God Bless!

Shannon

Hi Marlee! I believe motivation is pretty much a universal problem among fibro/cfs sufferers. It is so "feeling-driven" that even on those rare good days, you can be overwhelmed so quickly by overdoing it in an attempt to catch up that the pendulum will swing all the way back almost immediately. This is where the tag "lazy" can easily be pinned on you. Good intentions, determination and anticipation are easily knocked-out when this happens.

You can count me in this group.

Gentlest hugs,

John