Sick of Martyrs

K9, my niece teaches water arobics at a YWCA and she has women older than I am with fibro in her classes that never miss a class and I feel sometimes from the things she says that she thinks if I would just get some exercise I would be okay. I am very happy for those women but what my niece is not seeing is all the people with fibro that are not able to go to water arobics three times a week. Would water arobics benefit me, I don't know, but I'm not driving 80 miles three times a week to find out.

 

I think the one thing this thread has shown is how diverse fibro is.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

 

I am one of those fibro people that work (30hrs/week) for 9 1/2 months a year, take no meds for fibro (I have tramadol for endo pain), and can actually walk on a treadmill for 45 minutes at fast rate and probably not flare from it. Yes, I am really lucky and don't know how or why. I have almost constant moderate pain and brainfog. If you ask me, I will freely admit that fibro has taken much from me. I bust my butt to work and some days, that is all I can do. I make very little money, I had to give up my engineering career. We have no social life and haven't formed any close friendships since we moved here 9 years ago. Fibro almost cost me custody of my daughter many years ago. I've given up a lot that I won't list. Life is a struggle.

I consider my fibro mild but I hate what it does to my life. Sometimes I'm grateful that I can do so much and other times, it drives me crazy that I hurt all over and can't think. I help other fibro people in my community because I can.

I spent many years in terrible pain barely able to get out of bed. My doctor recommended that I file for disability. I started making changes in my life and I slowly improved. In retrospect, I don't think the changes made any difference, I was just lucky that I improved. A positive attitude helps a little and certainly helps the people around you but admitting what you dislike about this disease or stating what you've had to give up is just being honest.

I get really annoyed when someone says that fibro didn't take anything from them because it took a lot from me and I'm a mild case.