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Posted 3/3/2009 7:15 PM (GMT 0)
I am new here and thought I would see if someone out there could relate or help me out. For the last couple of months, whenever I have an orgasm, I have pain at the same time. I was kind of thinking this may be related to the fibro some how. I have had trouble with my tailbone, my feet, etc. and every time I go to the doctor they can never find anything. Each episode usually lasts for about 6 months and then goes away like nothing every happened. I'm just tired of going to the doctor and them telling me they can't find anything. But then I'm always afraid that if I assume it's the fibro, then it could actually be something. I had a completely normal "well woman" visit last October, so I don't know what it could be. Anyway, just thought I would see if anyone else ever had this issue. Thanks!
Posted 3/3/2009 9:00 PM (GMT 0)
alewife,

First of all, welcome to the fibro family. This a great place to come for info and you may just find some really good friends here. When you are a newbie, someone will suggest you read Fibro 101 (at the top of the threads). So, I suggest that you read Fibro 101. wink

Anyway, I see quite a few people have read your question but no one has replied. So, I thought I'd jump right in there-very carefully of course, I hurt like h***. tongue I haven't had your problem with sex, but I do have tremendous pain in my lower back and tailbone. Just walking is difficult for me. Like you, I've been to doctors and have gotten a lot of "DUH!" answers. LOL-don't even get me started on the doctor I had to see for my disability application. rolleyes

Obviously, I have not answered your question, LOL. But, I did want to welcome you to the family. I hope you feel better soon. yeah
Posted 3/4/2009 12:12 AM (GMT 0)
Welcome Alewife66!

I feel your frustration. I have the same problem with pain in my wrist or my feet for a couple months, then BAM it goes away or lessens quite a bit. I complain to my docs but they never find anything to be real concerned about.

As far as the "pelvic area" after some "intimate excersie" :-). I get pain in my v. area inside and some real low abdominal pain/cramping that will last a couple of days after sex. I think most of that is due to me losing more estrogen by the day. I am perimenopausal. But, I can't say I have "pain" when I have an "O". I sometimes can't because of to much pressure/ache in my low back (tailbone) area, so I think I can't relax enough at the time....that make any sense.

For what this was worth, I think you should take it easy on yourself, try some relaxing techniques b/4 you get "in the bedroom". Keep your ob/gyn informed of any more probs.

Take Care,
Posted 3/4/2009 1:56 AM (GMT 0)
I don't have pain during sex, but after I ache all over and am sore for hours. I use to have pain with sex and it turned out to be that I had a bladder disease, after my hysterectomy though things got a lot better.
Posted 3/4/2009 4:59 AM (GMT 0)
Alewife,

I don't have any input to your question and I'm sorry about that, but I did want to take the opportunity to welcome you to the forum. Congratulations on wording such a sensitive subject so well and being brave enough to post. It's not easy to ask for help always.

At any rate, you are welcomed here and we are glad you posted and hope you continue to post and get to know us and we get to know you.

Lindaloo
Posted 3/4/2009 2:24 PM (GMT 0)

Hi there Alewife!!

Welcome to the greatest Forum known to Fibromyalgia kind!!! 

I know in the past others have posted a question much like yours.  So, you might want to go back and read some other posts on the topic.

I usually try to take a bath or shower before sex to help with my pains and to relax.  Hubby and I have also learned that there are some positions that just don't work anymore because of my pain problems.  I'm trying to be very delicate with what I'm saying.. LOL.. it's not easy. 

Have you ever had any xrays or mri's of your back or pelvic region?  You might have a bulging disk or some other problem.  I have a lot of lower back problems and compounded with fibro, sex can be a slow go.  There have been a couple of times that I could barely move for a few days after a sexual encounter, so, I try to go slow and I always have to keep it in the back of my mind,,, if I do certain things (trying not to be too graphic), it will bite me in the butt later. 

Perhaps your problem isn't a gynocological one but an orthopedic one.  I would definatly mention it to your doctor that treats you for fibro and see if he/she would want to get an xray or mri.  There could be a host of other things going on.

Good luck... and again, welcome!! 

Posted 3/4/2009 3:29 PM (GMT 0)
alewife66,
i dont have your pain during the special time but i do have back pain and tailbone pain during our special time together. i can tell that you are just like us in wanting answers now for your pain and i wish that there was a magic word i could say to you and it would all go away.
i know i have not answered your question i just wanted to say hi and dont give up on us alot people dont stop by everyday so someone might be able to help you.
welsome to the best fibro family.
Posted 3/4/2009 3:58 PM (GMT 0)
Hi alewife and welcome. We had a long thread about this subject not long ago. I will try to find it for you and bump it up.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

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