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Posted 3/4/2009 3:22 PM (GMT 0)
She is only 9 months old but she is a very big baby. I can no longer pick her up or walk with her like she adores so much. She is very close to me and this breaks my heart. To the point I have not been going to my brothers to see her. MY brother does not get the pain I am in, nor the bipolar. The struggle I have with his comments makes me never want to go there. Unfortunately my niece suffers for it. I may go this fri. and if he starts up I will nicely tell him to back off, my pain is real. As for my niece, Maybe as she gets older she will be OK with me just cuddling her and reading to her.
Angeline
Posted 3/4/2009 4:09 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Moonmatrix, I don't think I have welcomed you- so Welcome!

I can relate to you with my youngest GD. She is 9 months old also and big for her age group! I hold her briefly if we are standing, but then I make sure we sit on the couch or on the floor and get silly. She is sitting up, so I get as close as I can with her and we play with her toys, and we talk to each other and just enjoy each others company. I pay the price after I go to see my GD's but it is so worth it. Just do what is the most comfortable with her when your there, spending a "little" time and leave when it's enough for you. It's too bad your brother makes it an unpleasant experience and love the part where you are going to tell him to back off!

GamJill

 

Posted 3/4/2009 5:37 PM (GMT 0)

What a bummer Angeline. shakehead

I had the same problems with my grandsons.  I could only handle picking them up till they got to be about 15 lbs... so needless to say, I didn't have much "bonding time" with them.  Fortunately my husband was very understanding (and hates it when I hurt my back or go into a flare) so he would do most of the lifting and then put them on my lap.

I'm extra sorry that your bro. doesn't get it and that you feel that you have to tell him to back off.  When it comes to people who don't believe in our pain I like the quote that was floating around yesterday.  "My pain is more real than your medical expertise" or something like that. (I thought I had saved it but alas I spaced out).  I also remind them that fibro feels a lot like the worst flu they ever had, when it comes to achiness, pain and spaciness.  If they don't get it then I like to treat them, when they have the flu, the way they treated me on any given day of fibro.  Is that mean?? yes, but as much as I hate to say it.. they deserve it.

I'm glad you love your neice so much and hope you continue to be a big part of her life.

Take care,

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