"Dear Baloo: i really feel for you going all through that. The legal system is so about
filing paperwork and so not about
human beings. I went through a terrible time after my husband/sperm donor, refused to pay Child Support b/c he claimed he wanted joint custody, but we could never locate him to get him served. So several years went by with no child support. I had to work two jobs as I needed the money when I would prefer to have spent more time with the children. They, deadbeat dads and in your case worse, an abuser, shouldn't have any rights to their children unless they contribute emotionally, and financially. If a person doesn't produce signed paperwork within a reasonable time, a warrant should be put out on them. That's how I feel. When I have so many problems, and am so tired and cannot sleep, I put a little "worry doll' under my pillow. Psychologically, it relieves me of responsibility for solving problems for eight hours and allows sleep to be peaceful. I hope everything works out well for you.