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Posted 4/25/2009 9:21 AM (GMT 0)
Hello Everyone. How is everyone? I hope well, I'm not doing too well. It's 2 am here and I cant sleep, I've had a very bad evening/night so far. Around 10pm I was laying down on my couch enjoying tv, my kids had just finally settled down and fell asleep. Well, I hear these foot steps outside my window by my couch (theirs a bunch of dead leaves under that window) so I jump up as fast as my body would let me, which isnt that fast and threw open the back door, which is right next to the window just in time to see these two neighbor boys go running behind the side of my apartment. So very angry I go throw on my shoes and storm out the front door which I knew they had to be by cause they live in the same apartment building as me and theirs only 1 door to get inside the building and of course they're hiding behind the cars so I yelled that I was calling the police and I rush back inside, but I didnt call the police, I just wanted to scare them. Well I guess even making a threat is a big deal cause since I live in low income apartments everyone around here has drug problems and the boy's mothers and everyone else that's living with them (they always have friends and family or anyone homeless that has access to drugs living with them) and they come banging on my door, cause they're freaking out cause they know if I was to really call the cops they would be in huge trouble cause they usually have warrents out for them or something crazy. Well I didn't answer the door, but now I'm scared that theyr'e gonna do something to my car or something. AND then I lost the keys to the lockbox for my medication and couldnt take my nightly meds which will usually make me somewhat sleepy, but I just found it like 20 minutes ago, and I usually take it at 9pm, and they take like 3 hours to kick in (lyrica, cymbalta) so now I wont fall asleep til probably morning time and since it's saturday that means my kids are home so I cant sleep in like I usually do when they're at school. Life just isnt fair, which means I probably will get a migraine, my stomach is alredy hurting from all this stress, and my legs are aching so bad I cant get comfortable. But sorry, I just needed to vent, I have nobody else to talk to and my guinea pig and degus are very good listeners, but they do seem to make my stress go down some.

-HelloKitty

Posted 4/25/2009 9:31 AM (GMT 0)
Also this last Monday these same kids (11 thru 16 years old)played with the fire extingusher outside my frontdoor in the hallwy and sprayed the WHOLE hallway with it and made my babysitter have an asthma attack and almost end up in the ER, and my son went out their and cleaned it all up by himself and when I told the manager and she talked to them and they said THEY cleaned it up, and I got so angry, but the manager didnt even act like it was a big deal. And also the next building over is having one of their big parties that they have almost everynight and they're being so loud. They get really drunk and really really loud, and there is suppose to be a 10pm noise curfew and the manager said she cant do anything about it even though it's written down in her rules.

Hellokitty
Posted 4/25/2009 9:44 AM (GMT 0)

At least I know I'm not the only one up tonight. I've been listening to my 2 cats run about the apartment and their craziness is killing me. I'm so hyper-sensitive and have been for the last 2 weeks.

I would have called the cops because those boys should be in bed. I know it's hard when you know there are other people that are doing drugs and whatever. I'd be mean and get them into trouble just to save my sanity. A car can be replaced. But then again I don't know where you live.?...

Also you can write them up. The management has to give them at least 4 10-day notices, well in my state anyway. That way management has a list of these peoples offences and maybe get them out of there. Don't be afraid to call the police because if something happens to you or your kids or your property there will be a record of it.

Hara - Fibro, Diabetes, Depression, anxiety, Sleep Apnea, Vitamin D- deficient

Posted 4/25/2009 10:16 AM (GMT 0)
I would of called the police in a heartbeat if I thought they would care. When I first moved into these apartments 3 years ago, I called the cops quite a few times and their response was ALWAYS "what do you want us to do about it? We can go talk to them but their's not much we can do." There was so many times they should have arrested someone, like when this 14 year old shot my son in the leg with a BB gun, or when I went outside in the middle of the night to get something from my minivan and their was these 2 grown up men sitting in my van smoking cause they said it was too cold to stand outside and it was unlocked, and lots of several other crazy things, but the cops never ever do anything. I just know if I had called them tonight they would of come over and tell me that they where too young to do anything to, but that they will go talk to their parents and then as soon as the cops leave the parents will come down and yell at me which calling the cops back would of just got them talked to again, or they would of let the kids throw eggs at my windows again, or break my stuff on my back porch or convinced my kids to bring out their video games and steal them....it just goes on and on. And I know for a fact these kids are not too youg to go to juvy, I remember kids in my middle school class going in to juvenile detention all the time. I just feel like cause of where I live, the cops just dont care anymore (their's 29 complexs which equal 145 apartments) because about 80% of the people living here are nothing but people using this as their party house, literally.

-hellokitty
Posted 4/25/2009 10:56 AM (GMT 0)

I am very sorry to hear that the police that we tax payers pay for do not protect and serve like they are suppose to. I use to live in a very bad area like you and then I got on assisted housing and move me and my son to a nicer part of town, but since the new management moved in back in October the apartment complex has gone to pot. People stealing bicycles, and syphoning gas from cars, and slashing car tires (mine of course). I can't wait until I can either move out or my upstairs neighbors move out.

Hara

Posted 4/25/2009 11:39 AM (GMT 0)
People who have nothing have nothing to lose. They are very dangerous people. I don't know what to say cause i've been there. You need protection and sorry to say it, it ain't the police. That actually can cause an escalation in intrusiveness. So, something that will intimidate the punks, without getting you in trouble. A big man, wearing a Fedora, preferrably cherry red might fill the bill. Have him pop by a couple times a day for a couple of weeks. if he wears a long trench coat, it's even more effective. An actor so to say. Someone close to you, a relative or friend who looks scarey. Better yet if he gets one of those stick on scars and wears it right across his cheek. Kinda like scarface. On cable this weekend, Scarface is. Get my meaning. Unless you are allowed a big dog, which i don't imagine you are. Ya gotta find their weak spot and get in their head as somebody not to be messed with.
Posted 4/25/2009 11:45 AM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry you have to put up with that, it's just like where I live. But since I only get disbilty and my kids get welfare, it's not enough for a human being to live off of, so I cant afford to move to somewhere better, and I'm already on HUD housing and this is what I got, and they're not taking applications to get on section 8 so I can move into a house or a better apartment. So I have to live here, their's no other choice but to stay here, I mean $180 is pretty darn good for a spacious 3 bedroom. And of course the housing authority tells me to take my complaints to the manager, and the manager tells me to call the cops, and they tell me too bad. So I feel completly hopeless, I do my best to keep to myself and just ignore things, but I cant stand people looking into my apartment, it's my home and I deserve my privacy. I can put up with the noise and the mess they make, but it just kills me to know that they're invading my privacy and taking advantage of my kids especially my son. He wants so badly to make friends and they tell him to do all these bad things....they just abuse him, and when I tell my son, my son gets really upset. I have him in afterschool programs and cubscouts but he still wants to be friends with these hooligans, it's just puts me on the spot and makes me feel like the bad person. I would think that since I dont bother them, they wont bother me, but they try very hard to annoy me. Plus, why in the world would they even wanna look in my apartment for anyways, it's not like I'm some hot 17 year old walking around in her underwear, whch is what I would think boys that age would spy on, so I dont understand their reason.....

-hellokitty

ps...4:45 am and still not even sleepy....it's so hopeless, I'm gonna be one cranky mommy today.....
Posted 4/25/2009 3:19 PM (GMT 0)

Not a good place to live!!! And yet I understand- you are stuck between a rock and a hard place. sad  

I have never heard of anything so ridiculous, the cops not dealing with any of this? And the managers do not sound much better!

Teenagers that are looking in your windows, shooting BB guns and on and on, will get into trouble if they don't have anything constructive to do. I don't like the part where your son got hit in the leg by a BB gun. I would have so called the cops! Pick your battles with the people around you- getting shot in the leg with the BB gun would have been one of the battles! 

And the 10:00 loud noise rule has to be enforced- if the cop you talk to on the phone does not want to do anything about it, ask to talk to his supervisor and let him know you mean business. You have rights too, and they are being trampled on! 

Hope you can get a little rest in today, even if you just sit on the couch, close your eyes and rest for awhile-

Jill   

Posted 4/25/2009 4:05 PM (GMT 0)
That's a terrible situation to be in but I'm glad to see that you  have your son in after school activities away from that neighborhood.  Encourage him to make friends there and maybe let him bring a friend home for a sleepover or for dinner.  You do want your children to be around others that have some guidence.  The kids in your neighborhood definitely are not getting any and we all know where they will end up some day.  It really is sad because these kids just don't know any better.

 

I'd get dark draperies for over the windows so no one can look in.  I'd also keep to myself as much as possible.  There really doesn't seem to be a lot you can do right now but ignore the situation as much as possible.  Getting extremely upset will only hurt you and flare the fibro.  It will make those kids happy to see you upset, so I would definitely play it "cool" and I would also be nice to those kids.  Smile and say hello.    They won't know how to respond but, if you are nice to them, they will probably leave you alone and move on to some other target.  If you are giving them the negative response they are looking for, they will be back over and over again.

 

Sherrine

Posted 4/25/2009 7:03 PM (GMT 0)
I did call the cops when they shot my son in the leg with the bb gun, and all they did was take away the gun from the kids and slap on the wrist. I would think that their would be more consequences for that, but I guess not. I just dont understand the cops around here, it's just hopeless. My father is a retired cop, and he agrees that what the police do around here are stupid, he told me that when he was a police officer, those kids would of gone straight to juvy, no questions asked. So I dont know whats changed, it's not like I live in some huge city with lots of crime...I live in a city where most people here work for hte Hanford Sight, so they're people with money, and crimes around here are not very often, and they're usually in the next city over, so what cops are doing with their spare time is a question...

I do have thick curtains over my windows but last night it was open about 2 inches, just enough for them to look in, and the lights where off so I dont know what they could see, of course just me sitting on the couch watching tv, nothing special. But still I dont want people spying on me period. about a year ago I caught a guy looking through my bedroom window with his pants down doing only God knows what (probably peeing), so I have a very thick curtain in my bedroom window now that I hardly ever open. Well today I am having body aches, I slept about 3 hours before my daughter came in my room with a huge stack of books she wanted to read to me (she's so proud of herself that she learned how to read, and she's learning fast) but then she had me read her a book and I kept falling asleep between words and she kept getting mad, so finally I forced myself up and took a hot shower to wake myself up and releive the stiffness, but I cant move, my lower part of my body is just aching. I dont have plans on moving from the couch, only to do things tha thave to be done like going to the restroom or feeding my kids, but other then that, my butt is not moving lol. I'll leave the messes to be cleaned tomorrow.

-hellokitty
Posted 4/25/2009 11:44 PM (GMT 0)

tyno3 said...
People who have nothing have nothing to lose. They are very dangerous people. I don't know what to say cause i've been there. You need protection and sorry to say it, it ain't the police. That actually can cause an escalation in intrusiveness. So, something that will intimidate the punks, without getting you in trouble. A big man, wearing a Fedora, preferrably cherry red might fill the bill. Have him pop by a couple times a day for a couple of weeks. if he wears a long trench coat, it's even more effective. An actor so to say. Someone close to you, a relative or friend who looks scarey. Better yet if he gets one of those stick on scars and wears it right across his cheek. Kinda like scarface. On cable this weekend, Scarface is. Get my meaning. Unless you are allowed a big dog, which i don't imagine you are. Ya gotta find their weak spot and get in their head as somebody not to be messed with.

OMG... smilewinkgrin yeah   tyno you make me laugh, but in all seriousness a very big guy over 6'4" would probably fit the bill just fine as that is intimidating enough...lol

Posted 4/26/2009 2:31 AM (GMT 0)
Police officers avoid certain neighborhoods. the poorer the area is, the least amount of services given. Even the cops who are portrayed on NYPD Blue and other city police shows are fake.

When I lived in a wealthy neighborhood we received a lot more services from the police. In many large cities you can forget receiving any help other than thier writing a short report.

So I can understand your situation. Life is not fair in the states but we do what we can.

Obama has just given low income people the ability to buy their own homes, especially in rural areas. Some require no money down, others may ask for a $500.00 down payment if you are disabled.

You might be surprised to find that you cn afford to live somewhere else. This is not a guarentee, just something to look into.

Donnaeil
Posted 4/26/2009 12:31 PM (GMT 0)

Oh Kitty...I am so sorry for your unnecessary agitation.  I don't live in a 'wealthy' neighborhood but it's pretty middle class. Two years ago, three little 'seeds of satan' decided they had nothing to do so they crawled out of their bedroom windows in the dead of night, broke into cars and took, garage door openers, sunglasses, vehicle registrations, extra keys...auto repair manuals...anything that wasn't screwed in and walked to the river(a block from my house) and chucked them in the water.  Ha Ha, what a hysterical gut buster!  The cops made them walk around the neighborhood and apologize, then they were assigned community service ...they were supposed to mow our lawns, pull weeds, etc for the entire summer.  Never saw them again.  I would have preferred that they slashed our tires.  It would have been cheaper money and time wise than having to have all our papers replaced.  And we have three State Police that live on this block!

I hope you can resolve this...It is soooo stressful wondering what some kid with no parental guidance is going to do next.  Peace...

Huggies

Donna

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