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Posted 9/15/2009 1:32 AM (GMT 0)
so today my bf and i walked down to the corner store not too far from our house. Well we were getting a few 2 liters and i was carrying 2 or 3 and my muscles just felt like giving out on me . My bf said toughen up as a joke but still its like babe you dont understand at any given moment my muscles get tired and sore. i knoe he doesnt mean anything by it but sometimes i just wish i could get people to understand! sry for the vent guys shakehead
Posted 9/15/2009 2:47 AM (GMT 0)

Sometimes just being able to talk about things makes me feel better. I know where you are coming from! My hubby doesn't exactly understand my problems & sometimes makes little remarks when I can't do something. It really stresses me out sometimes. I also have had the same problem where my body just can't do anymore. It just gives out and I have to just sit down and relax for a while.

You don't need to apologize for venting. That's what everyone is here for!

                                                                                             Hugs

                                                                                             Springfling

 

Posted 9/15/2009 2:48 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks so much. think the soma helps but then makes things worse because I feel the pain sooo much once the pill wears off and I dont know what to do about it. Ugh
Posted 9/15/2009 6:23 AM (GMT 0)
Sometimes it's not about what they said, but more about how you're hearing it. If that particular phrase bothers you, suggest some other phrases he might use. My husband used to say "I want to help you get better." or "I think ______________ will help you get better." I would whine at him, telling him how i wasn't going to magically get all better. We fought SO much over it. The I asked him what he MEANT ... and he said "I don't want you to be in pain, and I want you to not feel sick." Then I was like "Oh, you want to help me FEEL better." Changing that one little word made a HUGE difference.
Posted 9/15/2009 12:29 PM (GMT 0)
It is hard sometimes to make other people understand how we are feeling. What is so crazy
is that they might see us being able to do things one day and the next, we might not be able
to do them.

When I was first diagnosed, my husband thought I was feeling well any day I wasn't
complaining. Living with fibromyalgia is certainly a learning experiance for everybody!

Don't be sorry to vent, sometimes you just got to get it out!

Take Care

Robin
Posted 9/15/2009 1:11 PM (GMT 0)
 

Good morning .

 

you can always come here to Vent .. we don't mind a bit... we all do this.

and its an important part of us coping , at least I think it is..

 

You always got to remember . guys ( and guys no insult intended ok ) have more problems picking the right words sometimes. or we take it Different than the way they really meant it to come out,. my honey and I have discussed this.. see we take it one way ... and if it hurts . then that's not the way he intended it . ((( That's what my husband said anyway .. )))

 

I am Glad the Soma is helping you , it works wonders ,

 I take this to .. and it does really help with my back. and nice extra thing it calms me , better than my anti anxiety meds.

 

I take . soma, Perc 10/235 , lyrica.. stopped at 150 mg a day... anit anxiety meds,  and just started the pain patch .. for the first time in years I can wake up and not have to take a pain pill first before anything else. ... ( see I would take my pain meds and sit and wait for it to take affect before I could do anything ) This pain patch is truly a blessing for me so far .,. I just hope it last.

 

 

 

Take care today.. Huggles.

 

 

Posted 9/15/2009 1:21 PM (GMT 0)
Vent all you want, that's what we are here for. It helps to talk it over with others who know.

Robin, my dh was the exact same way, he thought I felt great on the days I didn't complain. It took a while for him to get that those days I just feel much better, doesn't mean nothing hurts.

Canamia, sometimes it takes one of those 'haha!' (I can't think of the word I want) moments for our loved ones to get it. The best example I can think of has to do with the fog. I tried explaining it to dh, but he didn't really get it. Then one day we had something that we needed to plan, discuss, whatever. He started talking about it while the kids were playing loudly nearby and I was making supper. I told him I couldn't handle all that. He got mad, and told me I could deal with the whole issue if I kept putting it off discussing it with him. Of course I just burst into tears. I explained to him that it wasn't that I was putting it off, but I really couldn't concentrate on so much at once. It wasn't my fault I was like that, did he think I liked being this way? I tried paying attention, but the other stuff would creep back in, and I was only really comprehending half of what he was saying. I explained I heard the words, but they might as well have been spoken in another language. When he saw how upset I was, he then understood that it wasn't that I wasn't paying attention, but that I couldn't. Now we joke about it, and he steps in when it looks liek I am being overwhelmed. We say that Mom's brain is short circuiting again, lol.
Posted 9/15/2009 1:44 PM (GMT 0)
I know it is frustrating, hurtful and even makes us angry when those around us makes remarks like that but I always try to put myself in their shoes and if I didn't have this crazy disorder there is NO way I could understand it. It's like trying to get a man to understand what it feels like to give birth, they can be there, watch it and they know it hurts but they are never going to know what it all feels like.

 

Yesterday I was looking for white exterior paint on a shelf in the utility room. I was on a step stool and the shelf was above my head and lifting one gallon of paint from the shelf and putting it on the floor left my right arm sore. There is no way to explain that to a normal person.

 

My DH and I went through the whole "gotta fix ya thing" and even now when I'm really bad he still brings up going to Mayo Clinic or somewhere so they can fix me. I know he feels helpless and wants his old wife back as much as I would love to have her back. He knows I hurt and he knows I get fatigued but he doesn't have a clue how I really feel.

 

Only your fibro family knows for sure.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

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