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Posted 2/11/2010 7:23 PM (GMT 0)

Hey Everybody,

I just wanted to share a hint that was once shared with me.

When you go to the doctor wear black.  The doctor will listen to your words.  He/she won't be able to read your feelings or personality or how you are feeling by looking at you.  Often times the color we put on says something.  That part made sense.  I usually try to wear cheery colors, hoping it helps me feel better.  I'm sure it could be misinterpreted.  I didn't really believe wearing black would make a difference, but decided to try it.   I went to the doctor and dressed completely in black.  It worked.  For the first time ever I felt like the doctor really listened to me.  Even looked me in the eye.  Now usually when I go to the doctor I wear black.

Just a hint.   Doesn't hurt to try.

Have a great one!  Stephanie

Posted 2/11/2010 8:33 PM (GMT 0)
That's a good tip Stephanie!!! I usually dress in colors according to the mood I'm in and how I feel. From now on no matter how I feel I will dress in black to go to docs. Make him think I am mourning the loss of the old me. Back when I had the energy I would put makeup on and make sure every hair was in place to go to the doc, not anymore. I let him see the dark circles under my eyes and how tired I look and all the wrinkles. I'm one of those that don't look healthy unless I put makeup on.

 

luv and hugs

Marlee

Posted 2/11/2010 9:10 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Stephanie, I'm glad wearing black worked for you. I expect my doctor to listen to me
regardless of what I am wearing. If I felt he was only listening to me because I wore black
I would find another doctor.

I wear a little mascara and lip gloss when I go to the doctors, so he can see the real me.
Wearing what makes you feel good makes sense to me. I don't want to feel anyworse
than I already do. I have to admit I like wearing black but also like wearing jewel tones.

Hugs, Robin
Posted 2/11/2010 11:53 PM (GMT 0)
Dear Robin,

I'm glad you have established a good relationship with your doctor.  I had a hard time with some of my doctors initially.  My cardiologist is the doctor that really responds to the color I'm wearing.  Stephanie

Posted 2/12/2010 12:10 AM (GMT 0)
Stephanie, I do know what you mean when it comes to some doctors. Once I had a doctor
that wouldn't of cared what I said because he would just write it off as me being a female
going through menopause.

I am lucky to have a good rheumy. He does treat me with respect and does listen.
It is so very important to have a doctor who does listen, cares and does what he can do
to alieviate your symptoms. Best of luck to you!

Hugs, Robin
Posted 2/12/2010 4:21 PM (GMT 0)
I wear black most of the time, maybe that is why my doctor listens to me. I am just one of those black color people.

I am glad that your doctor listens to you. That is a good thing.

Take care, have a good day.

Best wishes,

Hugs, Karen
Posted 2/12/2010 5:00 PM (GMT 0)

I rarely wear black.  I'm a jewel tone/red person and lots of tropical flowers, too!  My doctors listen to me but I go in with a prepared list of questions and don't have them leave without answering them.  I pay them for their time so they need to earn their money.

Sherrine

Posted 2/13/2010 1:01 AM (GMT 0)
Sherrine,

I always go in with my list of questions too.  I lay it right out on the desk and make sure I check things off as we go.  I think they are relieved, but know we are done when I fold it up and put it in my purse.  Thanks for the reminder.  Stephanie

Posted 2/13/2010 1:08 PM (GMT 0)
I know.  That really works.  I've had doctors backing out of the room and I tell them to wait...I still have some questions that need to be answered.  We ALL have to wait in their waiting rooms and be patient.  So, I expect them to answer my questions and take care of me when it's my turn.

 

Sherrine

Posted 2/14/2010 2:01 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the tip on black. Black is not my best color, but I will try it. I have to find a new rheumy. Mine is very ill and probably won't return to practice. I feel sad because he is the only doc I see who listens. The rest answer one question and that's all they will take time for, even though I come in with a neatly typed short list.

Does age have anything to do with doctors listening to us? I let my hair go gray and don't wear makeup because I am sensitive to cosmetics. Maybe if I looked young they wouldn't think I am senile and would actually pay some attention.
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