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Posted 2/11/2011 3:25 AM (GMT 0)
So I get the official call today for the official offer of the job that I recently interviewed for.  I was SOOOO excited.  But then instantly stressed because now I have to change my plans to get home sooner (from Florida).  But I thought to myself, well, I'll be getting home in 5 days, surely my husband could talk to his boss and ask to be kept off travel status until then so that I wouldn't have to stress about how I am going to get from train station (or airport, whichever route I choose) to get home (something that he could EASILY do and not jeopardize his job in any way). Not only did he tell me "NO, he wouldn't ask his boss that" but he cut me off in the mdidle of my sentence and never let me finish.  I have been in Florida for 3 days now and I have been in pain since I've been here because I am stressed about getting home, stressed about starting a new job, and stressed about putting my little girl into a new school. And now I am stressed about not getting any support from my husband, right off the bat. I could not have worked these past 3 days.  Today I could barely walk because the spasm was so bad in my back that if I made one wrong move, I would have dropped like a rock. I spent the day in bed, taking muscle relaxers.  I don't know what makes me think I can do this now with no support when I couldn't do it before. I could just throw up.
Posted 2/11/2011 3:55 PM (GMT 0)
I tried and tried to think of some whitty things to say that would help you, or at least lift your spirits but nothing would come to me. Being in pain is a bummer especially while you are on vacation, and not having any support will make everything so much worse. too bad theres not a magic potion that we can take that will empty our minds of all our worries and let us at least enjoy a nice little vacation (leave all those worries at home). But, thats not reality and good thought or not, its not helping you.

I am so sorry that this vacation is not working out for you. would you feel better if you just said, I cant do this, because here, I am not in control, and just go home. this way you can get things settled that are bothering you before you have to start your new job. (get all your ducks in a row as they say). I hope this came across ok, I just know that I am a "everything in its place and a place for everything" kind of person and if I had so much going on at home and I was miles and miles away, I wouldn't be able to relax either. If you absolutely cannot enjoy, then go home and work on getting all those things in order - you will be in control, things will get done and you will feel better.
Please don't say that you cannot do it before you even try (about the new job). You may just surprise yourself. You are probably a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for.

GOOD LUCK with the new job.

Post Edited (mscrowbar) : 2/11/2011 9:28:50 AM (GMT-7)

Posted 2/11/2011 3:57 PM (GMT 0)
Pam. I understand you are stressed and angry, but please don't give up on the idea of working. Remember the excitement you felt when you first learned of the position...working in a lab...something you really enjoy!

I hope that you have been able to start taking the vitamin D and that it helps. Please try to enjoy the remaining time you have in Florida with your parents. I'll be praying everything works out for you!

Hugs, Robin
Posted 2/11/2011 4:31 PM (GMT 0)
I am with Denita, I couldn't think of anything uplifting to say. Your hubby sounds more unreasonable than mine :-{ If it was me I would get home sooner rather than later to give yourself time to recover before your job starts.

What if you made the flight plans finding a good time for him (convenient) to pick you up and just tell him the time? If he isn't there take a cab home using his debit or credit card. You can get a flight much cheaper online than calling for one plus it gives you a chance to see arrival times.

Good luck and I hope he makes the effort to pick you up at the airport.

Your little girl will adjust fine to her school, they are so resiliant, just don't let her know that any of your stress is about that, maybe if she asks just tell her that you will miss her for the time she will be in school. & you are nervous about the new job.
Posted 2/13/2011 4:52 AM (GMT 0)
How old is your little girl? If you feel ok about the school, she probably will, too.

I'd be stressed in your place, too, and I'm sure it hurts that your husband won't bend his schedule to help you out. I once drove myself to the ER because my husband "knew" I was fine (I wasn't - it was my appendix!) His reasoning was that I'd gone once or twice before in the past, and it turned out to be nothing. To this day, he doesn't see why that bothers me..:( that and the fact that he didn't come visit me in Sept. when I spent the night in the hospital for palpitations. HE wouldn't have needed me to visit him in the same situation, and once again, he figured I was fine, so....

What's going on now? Are you still in Florida?

Debbie
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