Hi Debbie,
Sorry you're having a hard time w/ your hands and nails. I know how miserable that is, got the same problem myself.
Right now both thumbs, on both sides of the nails, are cracked. There is something hurting under the right thumb nail, too. My nails are all chipped and cracked. I am forever trimming them back. I used to have many vanities, lol, and my nails were high on that list. They were always shaped and polished, had to look just so. Well, let me say, that ship has sailed.
I wore gloves for dishes and such, didn't help. I also have dermatitis, so that irritated my hands. I can only use certain soaps and lotions on my skin. I am allergic to just about everything (had the tests to prove it, too), so there is little I can use to help. I also wear my winter gloves from Oct to late May, as my hands are soooo cold, and very stiff.
I had to go for fingerprints yrs ago for jobs and adoption. My prints would change w/ each printing, due to the scarring on my fingers and hands. One time they weren't able to get decent prints b/c of all the scarring. The guy got mad at me like it was my fault. Yep, I sit up nights and plan these things.
No, you are not alone. I'm right there w/ you. Hope you have a good day.
God bless. Alice.