Pain is more than a physical experiance

Pain is more than a physical experiance...it is also a psychological one. The way we think about our pain does have an influence on how we feel.

I know I hurt more on the days I dwell on my pain or get angry or upset about it. It is natural to be angry sometimes about our circumstances but to hold on to the anger does not help us.

It takes practice not to think negatively about how we feel. I know it can be done. At one time I was such a negative Nellie. I felt all the joy had gone out of my life...only because I was surrounding myself with negativity....thinking my life was over....it would be only about pain. Well I learned that my thoughts really shaped how I felt. I got tired of feeling down and wanted the joy back in my life.

I let myself start thinking postitive things...kept telling myself the pain isn't that bad....I'm going to have a great day...I can do it...spending more time with friends...doing things I truly enjoy and I found myself feeling better... not pain free but better. It does take work to feel better, but well worth it!

I look beyond the pain and see

that life is not a misery

 

It's a chance to live, love and enjoy

to have some fun and spread some joy

 

Pain might be a part of me

but it won't control who I'll be

I can live my life and be happy

 

Hugs, Robin

Robin your writing is so inspiring.

What a beautiful post Robin, you have no idea how much I needed to read that. Thank you so much.

Mrs. unique, as far as a time frame I can't really tell you but I do remember how I came to start thinking more positive.

I once felt I had absolutely no conrtol over the pain. I started reading about mind-body therapy...I had nothing to lose. Relaxation therapy was mentioned and I thought I would try it. I found that doing deep breathing exercises, meditation and using imagery relieved my stress and helped with the pain. I finally felt I had some control...doing something positive to help myself made me feel good.

Learning that negative thoughts releases adrenaline and cortisol into our bloodstream, making our muscles tense, made me want to change my thinking. I was tired of being angry, and wanted to do more to help myself...so I started walking everyday...and that made me feel good.

I also started taking a SNRI...Savella so I was getting an extra boost of serotonin.

Being angry was such a waste of my energy...I found the more I did to help myself the better I was feeling emotionally and physically.

I think it is so important that we take time just for ourselves each day to help recharge ourselves. Find things that you enjoy and make the time to do them. I found when you make yourself happy others around you are happier too. We can only give what we have.

Becoming a positive thinker takes practice. If you are having negative thoughts thinking...my life is ruined...I'll never feel better
recognize it and try to replace it with a positive thought.

It does take time to accept our condition and we all go through a grieving of the loss of our good health. You do go through stages of grief but if you feel like you can't get to the point of acceptance there is professional help.

I am wishing you the best and hope you find peace :)

Hugs, Robin