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Posted 1/14/2012 1:58 AM (GMT 0)
After a lot of thought and soul-searching, I am finally applying for new jobs. I simply cannot manage the position I have now. It's not only emotionally (and occasionally physically) demanding, but it makes me very frustrated and depressed. I spent the afternoon looking at jobs, and applied for two, at a community college closer to where I want to end up, where my partner lives and works. We could actually live in the same house again, after five years in different cities. I printed several job calls out, but then had the thought, am I really willing to move to Iowa by myself, and start a brand-new job? Or Texas? Nothing against those states, mind you, but it seems further away from what I want. am also applying for out-of-academia jobs (gasp).

Is it the job or is the life that matters? Sometimes you have to choose, because you cannot have it all.

Buona notte, fibro-peeps.
Posted 1/14/2012 2:53 AM (GMT 0)
That's a huge step, not easy for anyone, esp someone with fibro! You must be ready for a really fundamental change. The job or the life - I have wrestled with that one so much - now, mostly, through my kids. That question is front and center for them.

I hope you find something wonderful.

Debbie
Posted 1/14/2012 1:54 PM (GMT 0)
This is a difficult decision, to be sure.  You should do what is best for YOU.  I would not plan around another person because they don't always stay in your life and then you are someplace you really don't want to be!  Give this a lot of thought.  Think about a job you would love and also a place that you would love to live, even if you were by yourself... but yet is closer to your partner.  This would be the best of both worlds. 

 

Sherrine

Posted 1/14/2012 2:35 PM (GMT 0)
I just want to wish you much luck in your job hunting. A long distance relationship is not easy, hopefully you can find something closer AND a fullfilling position that you really enjoy!
Posted 1/14/2012 5:55 PM (GMT 0)
Everything in life boils down to one thing, YOUR QUALITY OF LIFE,, you have to sit down and figure out what is more important to you,
Posted 1/15/2012 2:14 PM (GMT 0)
Hello Myself,

I have spent a lot of time recently asking myself the same question. As an adult student with fibro, it is important for me to work towards a career that I will love. If my job is one that is too draining I will not be able to show up everyday. For me, it is worth making less money to have the freedom of being able to get out of bed every morning and go to work.

Good luck on the job search. Keep us posted.


Free Spirit
Posted 1/15/2012 6:54 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks, everyone, for the kind words.

It's normal in academia to have to move until you find the job you want. Also, a lot of people end up in places they may not want to live. You have to follow the job, not the family or the location.

I am on my second job out of school, and have to be honest when I say I cannot do it. I just more worn out and more frustrated. I would have never considered a CC before, but feel I need to be closer to partner. This separate cities is making us nuts. We have been together for nearly eleven years, and neither of us really believe in marriage. I feel I need more help and a better support system. Also, a job that doesn't make me cry at least once a week.

More to follow when I know... It takes a while in my field. Happy painless day.
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