Sleeping issues

WOW!  What a mess!  If this were happening to me, I would sleep on the edge of the bed...furthest away so his movements wouldn't hurt me... and I would get ear plugs.  So, when you are ready to sleep, pop in the plugs, roll to the edge of your side, and sleep well.  This way you are still in bed with  your hubby and he should feel "hurt" about it either. 

 

I hope something like this will work for you.  There really are ways of working around fibro to do the things you want to do.  Put on your thinking cap because I'm sure you will come up with good ideas for you, too!

 

Sherrine 

Hi AWI,

By 'his noises', did you mean snoring? I ask b/c if he is snoring, he should get checked for Sleep Apnea. I'm married almost 35 yrs and just this past yr my DH was finally dx w/ SA. He wears a CPAP mask to help w/ the snoring and restless sleeping. The whooshing air noise from this thing takes a cpl of nights to get used to (for me at least). He has several major health issues, so we are trying very hard to work on the issues we can take care of.

I take a Advil PM at bedtime. It helps me to sleep for several hrs. Unfortunately, I have a cpl of puppies that feel the pressing need to be walked bout 3:30 in the morning. I wake up, wake the little darlin's and try to go back to sleep. I just get my DH to the point of a more tranquil sleep and now I have puppies w/ weak bladders. lol  I never learn.

On a personal note, my DH worked the overnight shift for 12 yrs, till he retired. We only slept in the bed together on Sat & Sun nights. I missed him terribly ALL those other nights. If possible, see if there is a medical reason for him being so restless. It might save both of you from being parted and maybe both of you can get a good night's sleep. Hope so.

God bless.  Alice.

Yes, I've been in a separate bedroom for almost 2 years now, and boy, do I sleep better! When our kids were babies, of course, I developed hair-trigger awareness of their sounds and movements, and I think that's when my sleep problems started. I could fall alseep fine, but always woke up a few hours later and couldn't go back. That's also when my fibro kicked in hard.

However, I think my husband's snoring came on gradually, because I didn't notice it back then. There's no way I could not notice it now! One night last year I tried to come back, and within 20 minutes he was sound asleep and I was laughing. And leaving. Man, is he loud!

It is a sad situation, though, especially when you've only been married a short time. We'd been married 30 years when I "moved out." I had been taking a double dose of Clonopin to sleep through the storm, and I'm not willing to take more meds than I already have to on a regular basis.

I hope you can find another solution, but if not, there really are worse things than separate beds/rooms. Sleep is so important!

Debbie

I don't get alot of sleep but I am going to try something a friend of mine suggested for the waking up at the noise part. Head phones set to something soothing.

I have problems falling asleep and when I sleep beside my boyfriend the noises and his movements have been bothering me as well. I also get the burning feeling on the side that we are touching each other worse then on the other side. I see him every other weekend since he works out of town for 11 days so its not every night so I just put up with it because I don't see him very offen.
I am on cymbalta which isn't working the greatest but when I have a really hard time sleeping I also take 10mg of elavil but it makes me very sleepy the next day so if I don't work the next day I usually take one. But it does help me sleep.