started crying before i got home

Made my parents a little worried. I officially quit my job this afternoon. I was able to go around and tell some people bye. Got a lot of hugs and prayers. I will miss everyone.

Here is something that bothers me. From the time we married in 1982 i was known as "xyz's wife" then "abc's Mom" except when i went to college and started working. I feel like I was a separate person when at work. Now I am going back to the wife and mom names. I want to be seen for ME.

It is hard for me to meet people as i get very nervous in crowds and people i do not know.

Again, thanks for putting up with my posts.

Diva, I know you thought long and hard before you left your job so I know you made the right decision.  That was a tough decision for you.

 

You are still your own person.  Don't think of you as _'s  wife.  Think of you as Diva, who married _.  Getting married, after all, was your choice, too.  You are a Mom to your wonderful children.  Hey, without you, they wouldn't exist!  You are a special person and leaving a job doesn't make you any less special.  Your husband and children and family depend upon  you.  No one can fill your shoes exactly the way you do.  They know that so that makes you very special...your own person.

 

Check  your local newspaper and look for groups or go to your Chamber of Commerce to find things you could join to meet people.  If you play Bridge, there might be Bridge clubs.  If you enjoy genealogy, there are groups that meet to talk about that.  This is what I did when I first moved to Florida after my husband died.  I didn't know anyone either.  Now I know a lot of people.  So give this a try.  You will be just fine.

 

Sherrine 

It is going to take time Diva, but you will feel like your own person soon. Just because you left your job, you didn't lose your individuality. You are a very special person.

Know that we all have been in your shoes at one time or another. You will make friends. Have confidence in that alone...

You are you, and never forget that...

Hugs, Karen

I'm so sorry that you had to quit your job, but at the same time, I'm very glad you did with all of the issues you have being made worse by working. I can totally understand your emotions on your identity. I've been out of work for a month now and I'm feeling it, too. I get very little adult interaction anymore and it's making me nuts. I'm going to be joining a book group at our public library to help things. We also have a nice quarry here in town that's free to swim in. The boys and I have been going there often and I text everyone I know to see if anyone's available to join us so I can have some adult conversation. The boys are fishies and will swim for hours, and I have a very comfortable captain's chair with footrest that I can sit in even on a "bad" day. I'm very much enjoying having this time to do all of the little projects that have been piling up and that I can do them at my leisure. I've always been one to really enjoy the little things in life but I appreciate them so much more lately. I look forward to my raspberries ripening so I can do my usual morning picking, and I love watching my grapes mature and my pears get bigger. My mom planted red, white and blue petunias around my flag pole and "phantom" petunias in a pot next to our side door. I love picking off the dead heads and checking for new buds, watching them get leggy and long.

I hope that you can find some peace with the situation and start seeing the good things that will come with not being employed. Do talk to us about things if you need to. *gentle hugs*