losing favorite cat

It hits hard Debbie, but just remember, you are doing the right thing. I had to put a dog down last May. It was hard, I had her for 15 years. And I still miss her. This has been over a year. When you have a pet for so long, it is really hard.

Do what you feel is right. Know we are all here for you hon...

Hugs, Karen

Debbie, I'm so sorry that Tom isn't doing well.  If he is moving constantly he might be in pain.  Your vet would know.  We usually know when it's time.  It's a horrible decision because we love our pets like family.  I still cry over Sabra and it's been five months now but she was like my fourth child. 

 

But, if you know they are in pain and you can't help them, then at least you know it's the right thing to do.  It's hard and you will go through a grieving process but we are here when you need us.  I found that coming to the forum helped me "forget" what had happened.  I was thinking about something else.  Doing anything that takes the focus off your pets will be helpful...hobbies, going for a walk, making dinner, etc. 

 

Again, I'm sorry about this.  Perhaps he will be fine, too.  I'm sure your vet would check him out first.  Let us know how things go.  You and Tom are in our thoughts.

 

Sherrine 

Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry!! Many of us with animals know what you are going through. Pet him, love him, kiss his head, and do the best you can for him.

So sorry to hear this. I have 5 small dogs, and the thought of losing one just tears at my heart. My parents had to put down their last cat and it was very sad for them.

 

Debbie, I am SO Sorry! It is painful to lose a pet. I still cry over our last two cats that died, and I'm not sure my oldest son will ever have another pet because it was so hard for him to lose one. My prayers are with you. Diane

Debbie,
Sending gentle hugs and prayers to you and Tom. There is nothing wrong with mourning over a beloved furry family member.
Linni

Oh Debbie I am so sorry. Losing a furbaby is so awful. Having to make the decision to have them euthanized is so painful. I lost my 13 yr old cat a year and a half ago. He went into kidney failure (no idea why, I always keept up with his health), I took him to the vet and she said he wouldn't last long, maybe until that summer. So I brought him home and sat with him for four days until he passed away with me holding him. I should have had him put to sleep when I was at the docs but I just couldn't bear it. I know how hard this is for you but letting them be in pain is wrong. Again, I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Thanks, friends, for all your kind words...and for indulging me. I'll try not to make this a novel, though I could.


The vet said several weeks ago that she could feel his spleen was enlarged, so something major was wrong, and that "Tom really isn't in there anymore." She knows him well. Most of his teeth and a large portion of his jaw were removed years ago, due to a chronic bacterial infection (which he still has, along with Inflammatory Bowel Disease.)


Our girls snuck this little ordinary-looking orange tabby into the house 14 years ago, after he'd been abandoned by a neighbor. We already had 2 large dogs, and I had always been creeped out by cats - in fact, the first time I saw him, he jumped on my back - not a great start! But I reluctantly agreed to give it a try. They used to dress him up in bonnets and tuck him into cradles, and he was putty in their hands. Even as a half-grown kitten, he was a calm, wise, dignified old soul. We often called him "The Buddha." So cuddly, such a purrer.


And BRAVE! He once slid clear across a coffee table (saloon style) and jumped onto our chow's back to keep her from attacking a kitten, which he did....he's also jumped right into the middle of our big dogs' brawling many times, even as recently as this year. When the doorbell rang, he'd trot out with them to investigate. And he'd sprawl on his back in the sun, right smack in the middle of traffic, and know that everyone would go around him, people and dogs, which they did. Then there was the whole YEAR he wouldn't look at me (just me!) because we'd left him to go on vacation.


So, what I'm losing is really one of my favorite beings...one of my all-time favorite beings, who had such a presence, such a personality! I know there's nothing unusual about this story, it happens to all of us. And when it does, we're lucky if we have people we can vent to - - so again, I THANK YOU all so much! I appreciate it from the bottom of my heart.


Debbie

Well, Tommy's gone. He died tonight on the bathroom floor. I had made an appt to put him down on Sat. because he was failing so fast.

Last night, we were sitting on the back porch and saw him looking out the window. He hasn't been allowed outside for years because he'd always eat grass and it would irritate his Inflamm. Bowel Disease. So we brought him out, and he got to sit in the cool grass for a little while one more time. We'll always be so glad we could at least do that for him.

My heart is breaking, but I know my little lion is out of pain.

I'm so sorry Debbie. Losing a furbaby is so hard. It's good he got to sit outside one last time. *hugs*

So Sorry Debbie.  I too am glad he spent his last moments outside with the people he loved.  I said I would never have another pet after the death of my dogs Vesta and Dylan...it was beyond heartbreaking.  But here I am...loving Jonah and Joplin and knowing pets will always be a part of my life!

Thinking of you, my friend.

Donna

 

 

Your cat Tommy was an orange tabby male

He was your fur baby and loving pal

 

Many hours he sat by your side

He was there when you laughed and there when you cried

 

So many years he was your boy

He gave you love and lots of joy

 

I know you will miss him by your side

you lost a good buddy the day he died

 

Hugs, Robin

 

I'm so sorry for your loss of Tommy

Hope he meets up with my Scooter, another orange tabby male