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Posted 10/31/2013 3:58 PM (GMT 0)
This topic comes up pretty frequently here. A lot of us struggle with the guilt of raising children while dealing with fibro. Even moms who don't have fibro struggle with guilt. I came across this video today, and even though it was meant for Mother's Day, I think it is still relevant. Moms discuss how they see themselves, and then their children discuss how THEY see their moms. Pretty eye opening. What I took away is that our kids just want our love.

www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/31/the-video-every-mom-must-watch_n_4181007.html?1383226374&icid=maing-grid7|main5|dl19|sec1_lnk3%26pLid%3D399391

Notice that some kids were very content to color, watch movies, snuggle, get ice cream, etc. :-)
Posted 10/31/2013 5:16 PM (GMT 0)
I had fibro from the time my oldest was 1. Because I was so fatigued all the time, I made sure I was a mom to my kids before I was a housekeeper. When my husband would occasionally complain the house was a mess, I always reminded him I was a Stay-at-Home MOM, not a housekeeper.
Posted 10/31/2013 6:16 PM (GMT 0)
oh my goodness, that made me cry...everyday I feel the same as those mums, guilty for not being able to participate in the things I could do a year ago. They are 3 and 5 and were 2 and 4 when I got fibro.
They do see me lay down a lot, but love to snuggle with me, one either side of me and watch movies...I make sure we get out as much as I can, to parks, day trips, ice cream, funfairs...we also do lots of cooking, arts and crafts, dressing up. I think in a positive way, fibro has slowed me down and made me realise how important my family and children are...before I loved to be at work and found it a break from the kids, but now Im the other way round and want to be at home more with them and cherish every moment...

Thankyou for this video, it made me realise I am not alone with this feelings and in a way its good to see that any woman can have these emotions, not necessarily just those with fibro.
Posted 11/1/2013 12:15 AM (GMT 0)
Wackers, I'm glad it touched you. My dd is grown, but it still made me cry too, lol. I've had fibro for about half her life, but I've had other health issues since she was a toddler. I struggled with guilt when she was younger until I realized that she really just wanted my time. The activity we were doing wasn't important. She tells me now that she had a wonderful childhood. I think my illnesses made me slow down, too, and focus more on her.

Diane, that is so true. As long as the health department doesn't come knocking, being a mom is so much more important than a housekeeper. :-)
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