Hi!
What meds are you on for your AIH? When was your last blood test? When is your next hepatology visit? I'm wondering if you have any anemia...that can cause fatigue. Having a liver disorder predisposes you to increased fatigue...I like coffee You should speak to your doc about the fluid retention though. They can prescribe lasix or another diuretic to relieve the pressure on your legs.
You do have to try to minimize stress. If you can't minimize it, then you have to try to see it differently so it doesn't affect you as much.
As per hormone replacement...you have to speak to your hep about that as I am under the impression that taking external hormones is a no-no. Maybe there is something else they can give you to help you through menopause though.