Robin , It's hard to feel a sense of moving forward when all you see is one big mess in front of you . I felt like my life would never be the remotely close to normal , Just survive enough to make it to the next downward spiral . I had no reason to see things any other way , That was my life for a entire year . Fleeting moments of happiness caused by distractions from the norm of hospitalizations , Looking at myself in the mirror and seeing hollow eyes , sunken , cheeks and god forbid I go outside the house to check the mail . Neighbors probably meaning well seemed to me to emphasize just how crappy I looked or hinged on any word of my impending death when a conversation took place .
Just like you can't make someone not drink themselves to death , Suggesting something they can do to get them out of a rut is equally as hard . A regular occurrence around the Ziffle house over the last few years has been my wife's obsession with losing weight . Enormous rubber ball , A gazelle , A stair stepper , jump rope , Leg weights , All female gym membership , diets and you name it . Each of these weight shedding remedies wind up doing more to my feet than they do for her rear . I have stubbed my toe on each piece of equipment that gets shoved in every crevice of the house after three months usage per device by her highness . It takes the desire to stick to something if your really gonna make it work and no matter what you do to quick remedy out of a situation it wont work without endurance .
I'm telling you , If he finds something he can do that is constructive with his time he wouldn't feel the way he does . Just like the wife , She doesn't get that sitting at a desk all day at work and flopping down watching " The Biggest Loser " show isn't gonna get her any thinner . " I'm too tired . I'll walk around the block tomorrow there gonna kick so and so off tonight . Watch the Ziffle pigs eyes roll 
. You either get the bull by the sack and start dragging him around or he'll sit there and waste every precious moment he has left grumbling about tomorrows matador killing him . Simple as that . If he likes cars get him a piece of junk and let him mess with it , If he likes building things get him some wood , If he likes to fish by him a pole . Better yet buy a couple bicycles and pack a picnic then go to a park . A lot of things are free that have worked for hundreds of years , Busy hands are happy hands . As for myself I'm still trying to convince my wife that sex burns tons of calories , You know I'm always willing to help 
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A. Ziffle